Monster InLaw bought my dress

MairePoppy

Knottie47198841 said:

He admits she can be nasty, but says thats just who she is and then will get defensive and attack my family.If you have to get defensive then you see her bad behavior too. I'll just have to pick my battles with this one.

I'm sorry to hear that. I was hoping that you'd say your fi is planning to tell his mom that the two of you are a package deal now and he won't tolerate her disrespecting his fi and her family. I hope you'll be attending marriage prep or some kind of couple's counseling.

I didn't get to see the dresses, but if her dress is a replica of yours, except it's black, what do you think that means? And if your fi is ok with his mom wearing a wedding dress to his wedding, what do you think that means? If her dress looks like your dress to you only, why do you feel that way?

drunkenwitch

Oh my, we have a live one. Bingo cards at the ready ladies

ezizabef

Honestly, the only person it will reflect poorly on, is her. There's no point in making it an issue. She won't outshine you and no one will care at all.

MesmrEwe

I believe there's a story out there floating around though it's a Step Mom vs. the MOB...  MOB offered to change her dress for the wedding because SM had purchased the same one...  So the MOB wore the dress to the RD instead...

- OP - you might consider wearing your dress as your RD dress and purchasing a different dress for the wedding...  Just an idea to toss out there and not say a word to anyone other than specific VIP's...  This is a "you can't win" but I suspect this is going to tarnish your day to an extent and it's just not worth it.  After all, you were likely going to purchase an RD dress anyway...  But really, I agree with the PP in that the only person this will reflect poorly on is her...

And absolutely - I hope you're investing a good amount of time in premarital counseling!!!