Tiered Reception - The right way to do it?

CMGragain

The cultural boards are not for segregation.  They are for special information that most of us don't possess.  It is a service.  Most of us cannot give advice on non-western culture weddings.  The cultural boards are the place to find this information.
I wouldn't dream of giving my SIL advice on her Indian (Asian) wedding.  The rules are very different.  Likewise, I don't think she would use Indian etiquette to advise the average USA/Canadian bride.

Viczaesar

The general boards are not just for people in "Western" cultures.

Sherbie25

CMGragain said:

The cultural boards are not for segregation.  They are for special information that most of us don't possess.  It is a service.  Most of us cannot give advice on non-western culture weddings.  The cultural boards are the place to find this information.
I wouldn't dream of giving my SIL advice on her Indian (Asian) wedding.  The rules are very different.  Likewise, I don't think she would use Indian etiquette to advise the average USA/Canadian bride.

I'm not referring to the cultural boards, I'm referring to your remark that she should keep her comments for the cultural boards! She made comments and stated an opinion that was relevant to the discussion at hand. Just because it involved other cultures doesn't mean it should only be appropriate for the cultural board; that is segregation. The boards are not only for advice, people also offer their opinions.

Sherbie25

CMGragain said:

The cultural boards are not for segregation.  They are for special information that most of us don't possess.  It is a service.  Most of us cannot give advice on non-western culture weddings.  The cultural boards are the place to find this information.
I wouldn't dream of giving my SIL advice on her Indian (Asian) wedding.  The rules are very different.  Likewise, I don't think she would use Indian etiquette to advise the average USA/Canadian bride.

And you assume 'most of us' as if you know the cultural background of 'most' of the people who are members of The Knot.

photokitty

Sherbie25 said:

CMGragain said:

The cultural boards are not for segregation.  They are for special information that most of us don't possess.  It is a service.  Most of us cannot give advice on non-western culture weddings.  The cultural boards are the place to find this information.
I wouldn't dream of giving my SIL advice on her Indian (Asian) wedding.  The rules are very different.  Likewise, I don't think she would use Indian etiquette to advise the average USA/Canadian bride.

I'm not referring to the cultural boards, I'm referring to your remark that she should keep her comments for the cultural boards! She made comments and stated an opinion that was relevant to the discussion at hand. Just because it involved other cultures doesn't mean it should only be appropriate for the cultural board; that is segregation. The boards are not only for advice, people also offer their opinions.

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If they are truly traditions of a culture, and they go against etiquette, then I agree with CMG, they belong on that specific board. Having discussions on the board correlating with the topic, also ensures the forums easier to navigate and less cluttered.

If you visit the specialized boards you will find many have very knowledgeable user who only frequent that specific board.

Giving bad advice on here and saying it's part of a specialized culture is not appreciated. If it truly is party of a specific culture's tradition, than discussions on that specific board.

AddieCake

I don't mind cultural stuff being discussed on the main boards as long as it's very clear that it's an accepted, practiced, and observed cultural thing. When it's not clear, the vagueness opens the door for special snowflakes to think "Well, AsianBride4000 did it, so I can, too" and it's something that Asian Bride4000 did in a ceremony IN China with a guest list that was 99% Chinese and was an ancient practice that everyone in China respects and expects, not just something that GlitterBunnyButt wanted to do "because reasons."

CMGragain

GlitterBunnyButt!  I LOVE that!  AddieCake, you made my day!  You expressed my views much more eloquently than I did.  Thank you!

CMGragain

Sherbie25 said:

CMGragain said:

The cultural boards are not for segregation.  They are for special information that most of us don't possess.  It is a service.  Most of us cannot give advice on non-western culture weddings.  The cultural boards are the place to find this information.
I wouldn't dream of giving my SIL advice on her Indian (Asian) wedding.  The rules are very different.  Likewise, I don't think she would use Indian etiquette to advise the average USA/Canadian bride.

And you assume 'most of us' as if you know the cultural background of 'most' of the people who are members of The Knot.

Sherbie, you are new to the Knot.  I have been on since 2010.  I do know a lot of the members here.  Drop the snark, please.

Sherbie25

CMGragain said:

Sherbie25 said:

CMGragain said:

The cultural boards are not for segregation.  They are for special information that most of us don't possess.  It is a service.  Most of us cannot give advice on non-western culture weddings.  The cultural boards are the place to find this information.
I wouldn't dream of giving my SIL advice on her Indian (Asian) wedding.  The rules are very different.  Likewise, I don't think she would use Indian etiquette to advise the average USA/Canadian bride.

And you assume 'most of us' as if you know the cultural background of 'most' of the people who are members of The Knot.

Sherbie, you are new to the Knot.  I have been on since 2010.  I do know a lot of the members here.  Drop the snark, please.

A lot isn't most. I responded to your remark, which I am entitled to do. Having a difference of opinion isn't snark. And judging from most of the boards snark isn't kept in the Snarky Brides board anyway!

hyechica81

this is what you want to hear. yes its ok to have a tiered wedding 

but you won't see that here why because we don't believe in it 

tacky tacky tacky you are going to have this tiered wedding no one is going to change your mind you are delusional to think this will work. well guess what you better pray everything runs on time and the food portion is done before they come or else you will have people walking in to your reception while everyone is still eating. 

oh your wedding will be the talk of the town everyone will be talking behind your back about how you were so rude to do this. no one will ever forget your wedding and for the wrong reasons. you said your parents are paying for it do they know you are doing this so embarrassing for your parents to have to explain to family that it was your idea 

you dont have to invite all of those coworkers