pretty much the first thing that I said when we got engaged was "cool, let's just go do it at the courthouse & be done with it". Not that I didn't want a wedding, I just am not super interested in having a wedding-y wedding.
The option we went with was to have a bigass party. But we start the party with the wedding ceremony so that we can have a reception (my mother was not please with the fact that we kept referring to the event as a party rather than a reception).
Regardless, I wasn't interested in having bridesmaids. they're not standing up with us during the ceremony, and my goal is to have as few photographs as possible (although I'm being totally outvoted on that one too). So I told my sister - hey i'm not having bridesmaids, i just want you to come party with us.
well, that was wrong. she wanted to be a bridesmaid. so, i gave her the title - which is weird but it made everyone happy. Then i told her that I absolutely didn't expect her to do anything other than show up and not cut in front of me at the buffet. Plus that she could wear whatever she damn well pleased.
that was wrong too. apparently since she's a bridesmaid I have to tell her what to wear (yuck) and she's gotta help with all the planning.
she actually wants to help with the planning and i had already hoped that she'd volunteer to help out a bit since she got married 10 years ago and would be able to tell me if i was missing anything).
i know that when you have a WP, all that they are required to do is show up pretty much on time and not be totally stone drunk - but i'm being told that not having a MOH/BM do bridezilla-y 'duties' is just as rude?
it'll all work out, i know, but I'm SO tempted to just give people a link to this website whenever they're all OMG WHY AREN'T YOU HAVING YOUR BM DO THIS??!?!??!
.... excuse me while i go get those pesky kids off my lawn.