Confessions/UO/Irrational Irritations/We Get Its

GoldenPenguin

We haven't done one of these in a while, and I have a good confession that I need to get off my chest.

H was supposed to go away this weekend. Now he's not, so we get to spend the whole weekend together. I feel like I should be excited, but I'm actually disappointed that I don't get the alone time that I was REALLY looking forward to. I feel like this makes me a bad wife.

II: I feel like we aren't supposed to bring other board nonsense over, but I was really annoyed at CC for being skeptical/mean to @QueenofGlitz. We get it, you got catfished. But coming up with extreme conspiracy theories for how she's probably a fake is annoying. You're going to get new posters - this is an internet message board for christ's sake. Not every one of them is out to get you.

UO: I still hate the "everyone has to acknowledge everyone" in the daily posts. By the time I get into them, there are two pages, I have no desire to address everyone, but if I do, I'm an asshole. 

Related confession: I feel like every time we talk about it, and people are like "Certain posters who only talk about themselves" they're talking about me. 

Now you go. 

Swazzle

I don't know what category to put this in: 

I say fairly often that I can't stand when people only talk about themselves on here. But I also have tried to make it clear that my opinion is related to the people that ONLY EVER do that. I seriously feel like the last time I said this, I capitalized and bolded those two words just like that and everyone after me got really defensive. Kind of like the time I said I can't stand when people ONLY EVER write novels on here and then every time someone wrote a lengthy post, there was a "sorry, @swazzle" comment. 

I think it's ridiculous to expect every single poster on NEY to respond to every single other poster on NEY. But if you're coming into the daily thread, talking only about yourself, and then disappearing and not engaging in convo on a daily basis, then I am 100% annoyed by and sideyeing you (general). 

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@GoldenPenguin - I was that person last night. I haven't had a me night in SO long. JUST GO OUT FOR A FEW HOURS H, GOD. I retired to the bedroom early with the girls and a glass of wine and pretended he wasn't home. 

eilis1228

I'm partially to blame for the everyone responding to everyone thing. I brought it up in a post a few months ago, but it was mainly geared towards the same people @swazzle is referencing in her similar posts. Basically, I just wanted us to all engage in conversation and stop posting diary entries about ourselves. It's totally OK to only respond to a few people or do the occasional P&R. Plus, @GoldenPenguin, I don't think anyone could ever accuse you of being a bad TKer.

jenna8984

I have to make it known since I'm over on CC fairly often.....those ones who jumped all over @queenofglitz are not the regulars. They are stupid witches who decided they were too cool and left TK 5 months ago. Yet they have no lives and continue to stalk CC so it was basically their whole crew who was burned by MagicInk catfish, and it was them who jump on new posters.

I agree with @swazzle that I don't expect everyone to always respond to everyone but at least try to squeeze in a few people here and there when they have major stuff going on, just to acknowledge that you read people's (general you- not OP specific).

UO: I find small dogs hideous. My friend keeps posting her new some-kind-of-toto terrier on FB and the thing is so ugly to me.

wink0erin

@GoldenPenguin Totally ok to be bummed not to have alone time! I actually had a discussion about this last night with BF, since we've been considering finding a place together... but I have lived with a BF in the past, and he's only ever lived with male roommates (and never alone, where I've lived alone most my adult years). So I was explaining the need for "me" time and how sometimes you just want the other person to GTFO.

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@jenna8984 - Baxter and Bella say "BITE ME".  Toto dogs unite!!  

 

wink0erin

I don't know what category this would be... but I am mega (quietly) judgmental about people who get really serious with someone and look like they are moving too fast. Usually it's the same offenders/types of people... those who have either been desperate for a long time (like posting on facebook constantly about wanting a gf/bf and how there is no one around, blah blah) or those who jump from one super serious relationship to another. They will start dating someone and soon post make-out photos and these long-winded confessions of how much they love this other person they met last week. PDA grosses me out anyway, but constant Facebook PDA is worse.

I bring this up today because I've seen a lot of it recently.

And also because I worry that people judge me and BF for not dating very long yet being pretty serious, although neither of us fit into the above categories. We don't post make out pics though, that's yucky.

speakeasy14

@goldenpenguin that does not make you a bad wife. It makes you human. Also, you're not a bad neyer -- those comments are directed to people who never engage with anyone.  And I don't acknowledge everyone.  If something jumps out, then I respond. Honestly, majority of our posts are not that exciting.

II - when people leave shopping carts in parking spots.  I drive an SUV. Do not make me half park my car, get out to move a shopping cart, and then finish parking.

Completely rational irritation: Cat calling.  Yes I have a glorious booty. Do not whistle or make comments about it or how my hips swing. I will give you the death stare. 

Confession: Since I got screwed over on my half day Wednesday I decided to leave early yesterday.  When the time came, I felt guilty and didn't leave early.  I do not know how to not work, I even continue to work every night at home.  I cannot wait till our vacation in December because I will be out of the country and completely unable to work. 

eilis1228

TwoDimes said:

Confession: I'm legit waiting for someone to say, "@twodimes, WE GET IT! You are obsessed with your dog!"

Confession: I'm obsessed with my dog.

We are obsessed with your dog, too.

Swazzle

@jenna8984 - I don't like small dogs either. You are NOT alone. 

I don't really know why what I think is such a thing. Everyone on here has opinions/judgments. I don't know why mine seem to cause such a ruckus. This isn't even something I've mentioned recently so I can't tell you who exactly I've been thinking of in the past. @severmilli12 comes to mind most recently because she came back out of nowhere which is great but then she would post 1 paragraph about herself in the daily thread and then not say anything else for days. 

speakeasy14

@twodimes my best friend told me she's jealous of my life because she got married and had kids young and cannot do all the fun trips and things I do.  I didn't know how to respond.  If you're a horrible friend, I'm the worst. 

LizzyTish88

Confession: I can't make time to come here this week and it is making me sad! I want to AW the wedding and chat with all you lovely NEYers but I can't and that makes me sad.

Confession: Not only am I busy, but my mind is running at what feels like 100 miles a minute and I can't focus on ANYTHING. I wish I could just zone out for a little to get back on track but I can't for the next few days and that makes me ragey.

GoldenPenguin

Swazzle said:

@jenna8984 - I don't like small dogs either. You are NOT alone. 

I don't really know why what I think is such a thing. Everyone on here has opinions/judgments. I don't know why mine seem to cause such a ruckus. This isn't even something I've mentioned recently so I can't tell you who exactly I've been thinking of in the past. @severmilli12 comes to mind most recently because she came back out of nowhere which is great but then she would post 1 paragraph about herself in the daily thread and then not say anything else for days. 

Because you're the NEY Queen, obviously. I'm only still friends with you because I'm too scared to not be.  

Confession: I wish I had the balls to say some of the things I'd really like to say out loud, but I never will because I'm a sissy. 

Confession: @TwoDimes' dog is alright, but mine are better. #justsayin

Peaseblossom55

Confession: I am so afraid of not being able to have a healthy child someday, it makes me so so sad

Confession: I hate feeling so sad and waiting.  I am trying so hard to be postive and hopeful and I keep coming up on road blocks.

Confession: My job is really not great and not awful.  I just want to stay until I have a baby the stress of a new job right now is not what I need. 

I also confess when ever someone mentions people only talk about themselves it's me they are referring to. lol, may be need to just call out who those people are? I know I guilty of it sometimes. 

 

speakeasy14

@goldenpenguin

jenna8984

@peaseblossom55 you are a very active FRIEND here, it's definitely not you

GoldenPenguin

I mean, honestly. 

Swazzle

GoldenPenguin said:

Swazzle said:

@jenna8984 - I don't like small dogs either. You are NOT alone. 

I don't really know why what I think is such a thing. Everyone on here has opinions/judgments. I don't know why mine seem to cause such a ruckus. This isn't even something I've mentioned recently so I can't tell you who exactly I've been thinking of in the past. @severmilli12 comes to mind most recently because she came back out of nowhere which is great but then she would post 1 paragraph about herself in the daily thread and then not say anything else for days. 

Because you're the NEY Queen, obviously. I'm only still friends with you because I'm too scared to not be.  

Confession: I wish I had the balls to say some of the things I'd really like to say out loud, but I never will because I'm a sissy. 

Confession: @TwoDimes' dog is alright, but mine are better. #justsayin

untouchablets

Confession: I feel like a bad NEYer when I go a few days without posting and I miss big happenings. I also feel like I talk about myself/my problems too much and have been trying harder lately to address others when I post here. Also in real life.

irrational irritation: I got called to cover a shift this morning. Everyone knows I don't have enough time in my life to even take care of myself, and that I basically work three jobs and have school, so what makes them think I'm not gonna be busy on my day off?

Confession: I am sad I can't go to the April g2g and want to see you people irl so bad!!

AlPacina

Confession : I read almost every single word that every person types every day, haha. Sometimes I miss things that people will respond to later on in the thread and I get pissed that I have to go back and look. So now I just read everything. And it takes forever.

Confession: I've totally forgotten how exciting it is to have a new nephew or niece because I already have so god damn many of them. I think my excitement level will ramp back up once my little sister starts having babies, just because we're so close, but sometimes I forget it's a huge freakin deal when your siblings have kids!

@jenna8984 - Why do you even post over there? I genuinely want to know how they have maintained any appeal to you. They're so ridiculous sometimes! And you've expressed your dislike more than once.

untouchablets

@wink0erin I only judge couples who post all their business on social media. It's okay to love someone soon after getting together, BF and I have been serious pretty much since we met. On the other hand, now we've been together for so long without making any forward steps (we don't live together!) that I feel judged for that. Damned if you do damned if you dont lol.

Swazzle

Confession: It actually makes me happy when I'm on the TK "leaderboard". I live a simple life. 

II: I ate my lunch and I'm still hungry. I'm afraid my apple is just not going to cut it today and I give 0 fucks because it's Friday. 

eilis1228

@AlPacina I feel similarly about nieces and nephews... but part of my lack of excitement is that mine all live in a different state, so I only see them once a year. Other than sending gifts at birthdays and Christmas and seeing them once a year at Thanksgiving, my life hasn't really changed since they were born... so basically I'm a terrible aunt. I'm with you-- once my younger siblings have children, my excitement level for nieces and nephews may change drastically. 

Re: Couples on social media-- I agree with PPs about couples who post way too much about their lives, but the ones I seriously side eye are the ones with joint social media accounts. There's obviously a ton of trust in those relationships, and they will of course be super successful and happy without any issues whatsoever.

wink0erin

@untouchablets I think the oversharing/AWing is what actually bothers me, moreso than a couple getting serious quickly. I'm genuinely happy for IRL friends that leave the details off of fb.

@eilis1228 Joint facebook accounts are the worst. Gross.

AuroraRose41

Confession: I also feel like a bad NEYer when I get busy at work and don't post every day, or when I read through the entire thread but only respond to a few people. I do try to rotate who I respond to, but honestly since I have the time difference here too the daily thread is normally 3-4 pages long by the time I wake up, so I read through all of it and then don't have much time to respond. 

Confession: I know I am guilty of writing diaries. I am working on that. 

UO: I actually agree with posters sometimes about how mean the regulars on the other boards can be. It's mainly when someone comes in with a non-traditional idea that doesn't affect etiquette and everyone jumps on the OP for it, such as having a unity ceremony or wanting a theme but not wanting to go over the top with the theme and asking for some inspiration (yes...both of those are real examples). I completely understand when they say not to do something that is against etiquette, but why do you need to put someone down over decorations that have no impact on the comfort of the guests?

GoldenPenguin

I didn't put "I Judge" in the title, but...

I'm judging @alpacina for saying that she has to check with her BF before she becomes penpals with us.

Hey, BFPacina! 

lavenderfields13

I need to just start these threads when I think of something because I always come up with Irrational Irritations randomly and then I totally forget what they are when these threads come along!

Confession: Lately I cannot stop thinking about whether or not we should have kids. We're definitely not in the right place at the moment anyways but I feel like I can't stop thinking about it and I don't know what the right answer is. 

II: My coworkers' voice, everything she says. She just annoys the shit out of me.

II2: I have another coworker who feels the need to say good morning to me every morning even when I'm clearly busy. I'm not a morning person and just leave me alone. She just rubs me the wrong way for some reason.

UO: Not that I want to get sick but I don't really care when people come to work sick. We don't have that many sick days here and usually someone is going to be pissed if you do call out because someone's going to have to pick up the slack. 

wink0erin

I have another confession... I love when BSC posters come here and post something insane and then try to fight off the regs. I read Etiquette solely for that kind of drama.

lavenderfields13

wink0erin said:

@untouchablets I think the oversharing/AWing is what actually bothers me, moreso than a couple getting serious quickly. I'm genuinely happy for IRL friends that leave the details off of fb.

@eilis1228 Joint facebook accounts are the worst. Gross.

THIS. This is my Irrational Irritation #3!

eilis1228

II: WHY IS IT ONLY 12:30PM?! I want to go hooooooome. My work is all done. I'm just sitting here. I want to do this:

II: I started looking at my favorite cookie delivery place nearby to verify they don't ship their cookies (otherwise I'd be hosting a few games myself so I could send you guys all the deliciousness), and their flavor of the week is double chocolate with Reese's Pieces. I'm so irrationally irritated that I can't binge on those next week... stupid wedding diet. 

AlPacina

@GoldenPenguin - Yea. Most of the time I want to be like:

But it's his address/house too, and he doesn't tend to trust people. So I don't push it. Technically he is worrying about himself, haha.