Conflicting Wedding Dates

Knottie1437688535

So, recently engaged and my fiancé and I were hoping to have our wedding in September. Next year it seems like everyone we know is getting married! We have a friends wedding in April, June, August and now my cousin just announced she is getting married in the middle of September! 

Since we are having our wedding at my parents house (outdoor wedding) we were really hoping for September because it is the best time of year weather wise. Any sooner wouldn't provide enough time for planning and any later we risk unpredictable weather. 

Is it wrong to have both of our weddings in September? 

SaintPaulGal

Not wrong at all!  They get one day.  You get one day.  As long as you avoid choosing the same weekend you are golden.

arrrghmatey

Knottie1437688535 said:

So, recently engaged and my fiancé and I were hoping to have our wedding in September. Next year it seems like everyone we know is getting married! We have a friends wedding in April, June, August and now my cousin just announced she is getting married in the middle of September! 

Since we are having our wedding at my parents house (outdoor wedding) we were really hoping for September because it is the best time of year weather wise. Any sooner wouldn't provide enough time for planning and any later we risk unpredictable weather. 

Is it wrong to have both of our weddings in September? 

You can both have your weddings in September. You both only get one day. Not a month. Not a year. No one is going to steal another's thunder, if that is what you're worried about.

Do you and your cousin live in the same area? Will your weddings require family to travel? The only thing you should plan for is people not being able to come to both of your weddings if there is travel involved.

And you can certainly plan a beautiful wedding in less than a year. Many ladies on this board have done this. One of my bridesmaids planned a gorgeous wedding in six months.

Jen4948

Just because your cousin is getting married in September doesn't mean you can't do the same. You're each entitled to one day.

It is true that if you have out-of-town guests who would have to travel to both weddings that some may decline to attend one or both, so be prepared.

SP29

You each get one day. 

Saying that, I would clear your ideal day with your VIPs first (which you should do anyway).

If you have a lot of OOT guests that would be invited to both weddings I would consider how close or far apart the dates are if these guests are your VIPs and it possibly affects their ability to attend both. 

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Knottie1437688535 said:

So, recently engaged and my fiancé and I were hoping to have our wedding in September. Next year it seems like everyone we know is getting married! We have a friends wedding in April, June, August and now my cousin just announced she is getting married in the middle of September! 

Since we are having our wedding at my parents house (outdoor wedding) we were really hoping for September because it is the best time of year weather wise. Any sooner wouldn't provide enough time for planning and any later we risk unpredictable weather. 

Is it wrong to have both of our weddings in September? 

Weather can be unpredictable even in September.  Please have an indoor plan B.

southernbelle0915

You don't have to wait. But ditto PPs on preparing yourself that family may pick one or the other if they're OOT.

I think its awesome that you're planning an outdoor wedding, but be sure you have a plan B. Not just in case of rain, but in case of cold/heat, humidity, bugs, mud, etc. Also, if its at your parents' house, what do you plan to do for bathrooms? For a very small wedding, you could probably have guests go inside (if hour parents are OK with it), but for a medium to large sized wedding, you'll need to rent port a johns or those bathroom trailers. It can get expensive, just a heads up.

climbingsingle

My cousin and I both got married last September, 3 weeks apart. It was totally fine - no issues at all. 

julieanne912

We knew people, including us, who got married every weekend this September. We had a couple guests decline ours because they were already going to another one on the same day.  It's almost impossible to find a date that doesn't conflict or is close to someone else's, especially if you're in the 25-35 age range.  I would say as long as it's not on the same day as your cousin, you're fine.