Um. What happened?

Sposati

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

MesmrEwe

I think people are laying a bit low in the past few weeks between Thanksgiving, family situations, and the "new crop" of brides coming in bringing zombie thread upon zombie thread back to life... 

Otherwise - not much has changed other than people's stances on bridesmaids - that's got three camps going - a) Be supportive of the bride, show up sober in the designated attire, if you're the bride only expect this much out of them ... b) they are only photo props during the ceremony and who needs them anyway but if you have to have them let them wear whatever TF they want and sure as heck don't expect them to do anything other than show up for pictures the day of the wedding semi-sober at best, the reception is optional for their involvement and if they don't want to stick around past the ceremony - let them go to the better offer..  c) Old school: Be supportive of the bride even if that means wearing a dress you don't really like the entire day/evening, go to the bridal store/shower(s)/bach, put on a happy face, be honest about your budget, do as much as you're comfortable with for helping the bride out with misc. tasks, show up sober, start saving up a working budget as soon as you agree with money built in for alterations and your hair, and most of all, don't agree to be a BM if you know you can't afford to be one!... 

Cash bars, PPD, and Not inviting everyone you sent a STD to are still flameworthy... 

NOLABridesmaid

A lot of people have left our little board. Boo

Work has me busy, but I do miss the good ol' days.

MesmrEwe

NOLABridesmaid said:

A lot of people have left our little board. Boo

Work has me busy, but I do miss the good ol' days.

I remember when our little local board had 2 pages some days!  Talk about the really good ole days!!!

bizzy592

*zombie thread*

Over the past 6 months there's been something of a mass exodus, centered around the chit chat board (but including many regular posters from a number of other boards). One of the most frequent posters was banned, and not long after, probably the most frequent poster was outed as a catfish. Things got weird.

GBCK

bizzy592 said:

*zombie thread*

Over the past 6 months there's been something of a mass exodus, centered around the chit chat board (but including many regular posters from a number of other boards). One of the most frequent posters was banned, and not long after, probably the most frequent poster was outed as a catfish. Things got weird.

I am kinda bummed I missed this.  From a trainwreck standpoint.
Cold black heart
sorry.

Heffalump

Sposati said:

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

I think Snarky Brides used to be AFB?

VarunaTT

Ooo, what was the catfish?  There hasn't been a good one since the years old ongoing saga of Chad.

mrsconn23

VarunaTT said:

Ooo, what was the catfish?  There hasn't been a good one since the years old ongoing saga of Chad.

That's a blast from the past. 

Heffalump

VarunaTT said:

Ooo, what was the catfish?  There hasn't been a good one since the years old ongoing saga of Chad.

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1061005/so-uh-hi/p1

Drama starts on p.2.

tawillers

OMG CHAD.  I had totally forgotten that.

mrsconn23

Heffalump said:

VarunaTT said:

Ooo, what was the catfish?  There hasn't been a good one since the years old ongoing saga of Chad.

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1061005/so-uh-hi/p1

Drama starts on p.2.

So.many.siggy.gifs

MY EYES!

VarunaTT

OMG, I LOVE THAT THE KNOTGODS ACTUALLY CALLED SOMEONE OUT!!!  Excellent!  

mrsconn23

The rest of my afternoon is gone.  OMG, this thread is so long and people are so, so stupid.  

*Barbie*

so what's the story with Magic/ Vulgar girl ? I don't usually post on the other boards, so I missed that. 

*Barbie*

VarunaTT said:

Ooo, what was the catfish?  There hasn't been a good one since the years old ongoing saga of Chad.

Poor Jared. :-(

Heffalump

mrs.conn23 said:

Heffalump said:

VarunaTT said:

Ooo, what was the catfish?  There hasn't been a good one since the years old ongoing saga of Chad.

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1061005/so-uh-hi/p1

Drama starts on p.2.

So.many.siggy.gifs

MY EYES!

I actually had to check the option to hide signatures.  The GIFs used to drive me nuts; now I'm okay with them, but I can't take pages and pages. 

tawillers

21 pages.

NOLABridesmaid

Yes, the Chad thing. Never understood that one. I also don't remember what happened on AFB. I just remember something about a sleepover and some strange photos being taken.

Y'all, know I'm old, so I don't remember anything, anymore.

VarunaTT

Ha!  The photos with the feather in the butt.  Also, a bunch of them went to the SN: Roses4EveryWhore (she didn't spell it like that, but that's what it was) wedding that looked hella awesome.

That's all I remember about that stuff, really.  Oh wait, the main breakup was over ElfGate (Secret Santa group).  B/c someone was outed as fake, though I don't remember who.

banana468

Whatever happened to Chad?  I figured he/she was a Catfish too but my mind is fuzzy about the sudden exit. 

VarunaTT

There was some night where he posted drunk about how he really loved one of the regs b/c she reminded him of his mom.  Everyone was poking fun; it came out that at some point someone found a blog of a writer who was faking a gay male personality on a wedding website.  I've never been able to find it, though @ReturnOfKuus said she saw it one time.  He disappeared after that.

And one of their kids was named Winter.

[Deleted User]

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

GBCK

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

You realise this was a question about a particular person and a particular situation?  And why that person took his/her catfishing rod and went home? and not about 'the knot' as a whole?

Viczaesar

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

[Deleted User]

Sposati said:

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

You realise this was a question about a particular person and a particular situation?  And why that person took his/her catfishing rod and went home? and not about 'the knot' as a whole?

I was responding to the OP, not the catfishing person. I quoted the OP above your comment. I understood it as referring to the site as a whole. 

I am a low tech girl and still learning the site. I will work on directly quoting in my responses to reduce confusion.

drunkenwitch

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

TrixieJess

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

It's so nice to see an expert come in and let us know the error of our ways after being on the boards for a month! Thank you! We shall repent and try better so that noobs feel better about being assholes on their wedding days!

ETA: I miss being able to change font colour and style; pretend the above is in Comic Sans and pink! Thanks!

MobKaz

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

Could you please expand on your definition of "out of date"?  Adhering to proper etiquette, versus "doing what I want because it is my wedding" is the norm on these boards.  Typically, the disagreements arise when poor ideas/etiquette will not be validated.  Rather than understand the concept of hospitality, posters will cry "bully" and "ambushed" when responses do not validate their rudeness.  Being hospitable is not the same as being closed minded.  Closed minded is when someone maintains an attitude even when the prevailing majority indicates the impropriety of their idea.  "Modern", "non-traditional", and "regional" are oft used buzz words for trying to justify improperly hosted weddings.

What also sours many posters is when a response alludes to bullying and/or attacking and offers no specific examples. 

Heffalump

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

Thanks for sharing your vast experience after one whole month on the site. 

No one can be "bullied out of the Knot," and it has been a long, long time since I saw something that constituted actual bullying.  Which is not the same as saying "that's a bad idea because __________."  I hope you can see the difference.

Everafterstar said:

Sposati said:

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

You realise this was a question about a particular person and a particular situation?  And why that person took his/her catfishing rod and went home? and not about 'the knot' as a whole?

I was responding to the OP, not the catfishing person. I quoted the OP above your comment. I understood it as referring to the site as a whole. 

I am a low tech girl and still learning the site. I will work on directly quoting in my responses to reduce confusion.

I don't understand how your comment was a valid response to the OP.  Who used to be a reg on this board.  And said that everyone is "super sensitive" now, and your response is "because they're all bullies!"  How does that even make sense?

NOLABridesmaid

Could this somehow turn into 2 pages?

TVIA