Um. What happened?

mrsconn23

Heffalump said:

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

Thanks for sharing your vast experience after one whole month on the site. 

No one can be "bullied out of the Knot," and it has been a long, long time since I saw something that constituted actual bullying.  Which is not the same as saying "that's a bad idea because __________."  I hope you can see the difference.

Everafterstar said:

Sposati said:

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

You realise this was a question about a particular person and a particular situation?  And why that person took his/her catfishing rod and went home? and not about 'the knot' as a whole?

I was responding to the OP, not the catfishing person. I quoted the OP above your comment. I understood it as referring to the site as a whole. 

I am a low tech girl and still learning the site. I will work on directly quoting in my responses to reduce confusion.

I don't understand how your comment was a valid response to the OP.  Who used to be a reg on this board.  And said that everyone is "super sensitive" now, and your response is "because they're all bullies!"  How does that even make sense?

Heffalump

NOLABridesmaid said:

Could this somehow turn into 2 pages?

TVIA

Let's see if this helps?

NOLABridesmaid

Yay!!!!!!!!

GBCK

Everafterstar said:

Sposati said:

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

You realise this was a question about a particular person and a particular situation?  And why that person took his/her catfishing rod and went home? and not about 'the knot' as a whole?

I was responding to the OP, not the catfishing person. I quoted the OP above your comment. I understood it as referring to the site as a whole. 

I am a low tech girl and still learning the site. I will work on directly quoting in my responses to reduce confusion.

/Quote

OkeeDokeeThen
You clearly didn't understand the OP.  which was, as I said, a QUESTION ABOUT A PERSON.  Not a 'please, give me a generic history of this website' sort of question.

So...yeah, I figured that's what you THOUGHT you were answering, but you ay want to read the questions a bit better.

Also, the rest of the people you are having this conversation with are having a coherant conversation, you're the person rambling and not really making sense.

[Deleted User]

GBCK said:

Everafterstar said:

Sposati said:

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

You realise this was a question about a particular person and a particular situation?  And why that person took his/her catfishing rod and went home? and not about 'the knot' as a whole?

I was responding to the OP, not the catfishing person. I quoted the OP above your comment. I understood it as referring to the site as a whole. 

I am a low tech girl and still learning the site. I will work on directly quoting in my responses to reduce confusion.

/Quote

OkeeDokeeThen
You clearly didn't understand the OP.  which was, as I said, a QUESTION ABOUT A PERSON.  Not a 'please, give me a generic history of this website' sort of question.

So...yeah, I figured that's what you THOUGHT you were answering, but you ay want to read the questions a bit better.

Also, the rest of the people you are having this conversation with are having a coherant conversation, you're the person rambling and not really making sense.

Unless the OP changed their original message since I responded and who I was responding to, that is exactly what they were openly requesting.  I do not read from the OP a question about one specific person.

Perhaps it became about one specific person, but I was not commenting on any of those responses.  I hope that clears up any confusion.

*Barbie*

Everafterstar said:

GBCK said:

Everafterstar said:

Sposati said:

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

You realise this was a question about a particular person and a particular situation?  And why that person took his/her catfishing rod and went home? and not about 'the knot' as a whole?

I was responding to the OP, not the catfishing person. I quoted the OP above your comment. I understood it as referring to the site as a whole. 

I am a low tech girl and still learning the site. I will work on directly quoting in my responses to reduce confusion.

/Quote

OkeeDokeeThen
You clearly didn't understand the OP.  which was, as I said, a QUESTION ABOUT A PERSON.  Not a 'please, give me a generic history of this website' sort of question.

So...yeah, I figured that's what you THOUGHT you were answering, but you ay want to read the questions a bit better.

Also, the rest of the people you are having this conversation with are having a coherant conversation, you're the person rambling and not really making sense.

Unless the OP changed their original message since I responded and who I was responding to, that is exactly what they were openly requesting.  I do not read from the OP a question about one specific person.

Perhaps it became about one specific person, but I was not commenting on any of those responses.  I hope that clears up any confusion.

regardless of your poor reading comprehension, Spos was a regular on this board for years and you've been around for all of 2 minutes. you 're not particularly qualified to give an overview of the past year when you've been on the board for 2 months. 

[Deleted User]

*Barbie* said:

Everafterstar said:

GBCK said:

Everafterstar said:

Sposati said:

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

You realise this was a question about a particular person and a particular situation?  And why that person took his/her catfishing rod and went home? and not about 'the knot' as a whole?

I was responding to the OP, not the catfishing person. I quoted the OP above your comment. I understood it as referring to the site as a whole. 

I am a low tech girl and still learning the site. I will work on directly quoting in my responses to reduce confusion.

/Quote

OkeeDokeeThen
You clearly didn't understand the OP.  which was, as I said, a QUESTION ABOUT A PERSON.  Not a 'please, give me a generic history of this website' sort of question.

So...yeah, I figured that's what you THOUGHT you were answering, but you ay want to read the questions a bit better.

Also, the rest of the people you are having this conversation with are having a coherant conversation, you're the person rambling and not really making sense.

Unless the OP changed their original message since I responded and who I was responding to, that is exactly what they were openly requesting.  I do not read from the OP a question about one specific person.

Perhaps it became about one specific person, but I was not commenting on any of those responses.  I hope that clears up any confusion.

regardless of your poor reading comprehension, Spos was a regular on this board for years and you've been around for all of 2 minutes. you 're not particularly qualified to give an overview of the past year when you've been on the board for 2 months. 

Please break down the OP's original post.  

I feel that I sincerely addressed Sposati's concerns and question. I never questioned how long she was a member. Please read my original post and let me know if it directly attacks Sposati's length of time on the forum. 

However, based on my original post, I think I proved my point.

glasgowtolondon

TrixieJess

Everafterstar said:

*Barbie* said:

Everafterstar said:

GBCK said:

Everafterstar said:

Sposati said:

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

You realise this was a question about a particular person and a particular situation?  And why that person took his/her catfishing rod and went home? and not about 'the knot' as a whole?

I was responding to the OP, not the catfishing person. I quoted the OP above your comment. I understood it as referring to the site as a whole. 

I am a low tech girl and still learning the site. I will work on directly quoting in my responses to reduce confusion.

/Quote

OkeeDokeeThen
You clearly didn't understand the OP.  which was, as I said, a QUESTION ABOUT A PERSON.  Not a 'please, give me a generic history of this website' sort of question.

So...yeah, I figured that's what you THOUGHT you were answering, but you ay want to read the questions a bit better.

Also, the rest of the people you are having this conversation with are having a coherant conversation, you're the person rambling and not really making sense.

Unless the OP changed their original message since I responded and who I was responding to, that is exactly what they were openly requesting.  I do not read from the OP a question about one specific person.

Perhaps it became about one specific person, but I was not commenting on any of those responses.  I hope that clears up any confusion.

regardless of your poor reading comprehension, Spos was a regular on this board for years and you've been around for all of 2 minutes. you 're not particularly qualified to give an overview of the past year when you've been on the board for 2 months. 

Please break down the OP's original post.  

I feel that I sincerely addressed Sposati's concerns and question. I never questioned how long she was a member. Please read my original post and let me know if it directly attacks Sposati's length of time on the forum. 

However, based on my original post, I think I proved my point.

-------Where the hell are the boxes?------

I think all the regs have answered your question. Sposati asked about specifics and was answered duly and you throw out some shit based on your whole couple of months on the boards.

Either own up to the fact that you shot your mouth off without knowing all the facts or stop trying to justify your bad responses.

mrsconn23

Everafterstar said:

*Barbie* said:

Everafterstar said:

GBCK said:

Everafterstar said:

Sposati said:

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

You realise this was a question about a particular person and a particular situation?  And why that person took his/her catfishing rod and went home? and not about 'the knot' as a whole?

I was responding to the OP, not the catfishing person. I quoted the OP above your comment. I understood it as referring to the site as a whole. 

I am a low tech girl and still learning the site. I will work on directly quoting in my responses to reduce confusion.

/Quote

OkeeDokeeThen
You clearly didn't understand the OP.  which was, as I said, a QUESTION ABOUT A PERSON.  Not a 'please, give me a generic history of this website' sort of question.

So...yeah, I figured that's what you THOUGHT you were answering, but you ay want to read the questions a bit better.

Also, the rest of the people you are having this conversation with are having a coherant conversation, you're the person rambling and not really making sense.

Unless the OP changed their original message since I responded and who I was responding to, that is exactly what they were openly requesting.  I do not read from the OP a question about one specific person.

Perhaps it became about one specific person, but I was not commenting on any of those responses.  I hope that clears up any confusion.

regardless of your poor reading comprehension, Spos was a regular on this board for years and you've been around for all of 2 minutes. you 're not particularly qualified to give an overview of the past year when you've been on the board for 2 months. 

Please break down the OP's original post.  

I feel that I sincerely addressed Sposati's concerns and question. I never questioned how long she was a member. Please read my original post and let me know if it directly attacks Sposati's length of time on the forum. 

However, based on my original post, I think I proved my point.

kmmssg

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

I have been her for quite some time.  I do not feel the knot is out of date as far as these boards and the proper etiquette they advise.

Stating something is poorly thought out, is poor etiquette, treats others quite badly, lying about your true marital status (you know, secret marriage and then big white PPD) is close minded our out of date.  It is the right thing to do.

Your screen name seems so familiar.

AddieCake

TK is "out of date?"

That sounds very much like a special snowflake response, as in "It's ok now to make your guests wait for 6 hours between your ceremony and reception. It gives them time to go spend their own money getting drunk on cheap booze at a local pub b/c you'll have a cash bar at your reception they won't want to pay for AND they can go do a quick login to your Honeyfund in case they forgot to do it before and it's 'out of date' to think any of this is not ok! Times they are a changin! Squeeeee!" 

Yeah, being here a couple months makes you an expert on anything about this place. 

[Deleted User]

I have kept to the OP's question.

When someone attacks your character then they have lost the argument.

Again every time someone looks at these forums, my point is being proven.

MobKaz

kmmssg said:

Everafterstar said:

From my understanding, "The Knot" is out of date.  I have watched the boards for a long time and I have noticed interactive patterns among the boards. I have seen that  most people have left because there has been a feeling here of being close minded.

What I have seen is that if someone disagreed on certain topics they were ambushed and bullied out of "The Knot". I have seen some really condescending opinions and ideas of what individuals feel is proper etiquette, yet they communicate in a way that they push onto others and is out of line.

I think "The Knot" itself needs to address their closed discussions and either remove them or update them because it is either offensive or excluding to many modern couples and/or families.

However, that is my opinion and I am sure there will be others.

I think recent members have become more open minded, but there is room to update not only their forums, but also what constitutes commemorating a variety of wedding celebrations.

I still love "The Knot" and I would love to collaborate with them on improvements.

I have been her for quite some time.  I do not feel the knot is out of date as far as these boards and the proper etiquette they advise.

Stating something is poorly thought out, is poor etiquette, treats others quite badly, lying about your true marital status (you know, secret marriage and then big white PPD) is close minded our out of date.  It is the right thing to do.

Your screen name seems so familiar.

Shhhhh........Don't think the first time I read that SN shivers did not run up and down my spine.  The need to have a point "proven" and the need to have the last word caused me to pause.  Euphemisms such as wedding "varieties", and open minded versus etiquette came close to sealing the deal for me.  The only reason I feel confident this is indeed a new poster is that STB had an ego and level of narcissism that would prevent the creation of a new SN.

MairePoppy

IDK, MobKaz, I've had the same eerie feeling.

GlamQueenBride

Sposati said:

Can I get the cliffnotes history lesson on the last year or so of the boards? This is not how I remember things. People are all super sensitive and this place is crickets quiet. Even on snarky brides...which did not exist before, but can't remember the name of the board it replaced. But almost all new people over there. Was there an exodus? Am I just not remembering this?

To answer the original question, I don't know if there was an exodus and don't claim to know the background, but just in the time that I've been lurking and posting, I think there has been a major decrease in the chatter. I think the reasons are two fold:

(1) We have a lot of overly sensitive brides visiting who get their feelings hurt and leave because of the bluntness of the posters on this forum. This is not a forum for the weak at heart. No one's going to wear kid gloves or sugar coat.

(2) There are some posters (certainly not all or even the majority) who I believe truly get off on being rude to others. There are some who know how to be blunt without being a bitch. There are others who were never taught/never learned the art of that.

MobKaz

MairePoppy said:

IDK, MobKaz, I've had the same eerie feeling.

Careful.....we have already implied the name twice.....

kmmssg

MobKaz said:

MairePoppy said:

IDK, MobKaz, I've had the same eerie feeling.

Careful.....we have already implied the name twice.....

Yes ladies we must be very careful as I am not yet convinced....

holyguacamole79

The thought crossed my mind, too. ...

MobKaz

mrsconn23

Three pages, three pages!!! 

6fsn

I'm so confused.

VarunaTT

I don't understand how someone who identifies themselves as "low tech" also thinks their opinion on a website matters.  If DG wanted to critique it, I'd listen.  

mrsconn23

VarunaTT said:

I don't understand how someone who identifies themselves as "low tech" also thinks their opinion on a website matters.  If DG wanted to critique it, I'd listen.  

In my line of work people looooovvvvveeee to tell us how to improve our website. 

Does our website suck? Yes
Do I know how to fix it? Nope
Do I want your opinion on how to fix it? Hell to the no.  

There are very, very few people who's opinion on tech I'd heed...and none of them are you, Mr. Client. 

*Barbie*

SITB is too close to FITB for my liking. 

I miss ladybug. 

drunkenwitch

Can someone fill me in on the Chad saga?  It was before my time.

PMeg819

Chad was a gay guy who was in a LTR, and he and his partner lived with two lesbians. The lesbians had a child (or maybe 2 I can't remember) and they all helped take care of the kid(s). Chad made furniture and was like 21. Everyone was all good with this arrangement including the kids. This was in Florida and if I recall, there was no questions at all about it. 

There were so many weird things about it but the fact that he was this 21 yo gay guy who had a writing style more befitting of someone much older was a tip off.