So I don't believe in being "too busy" for my SO.
What are some ways that you guys get that extra day in or few hours to spend with your SO while having busy lifestyles.
I love getting information from women who are already married or have been in long lasting relationships. I feel as though you are doing something right.
Any Tips ??
Re: Tips!
My best friend's husband works 12-hour days and most weekends during the school year (teacher and coaching sports) so they block off every Sunday to exclusively hang out together. They've been together over 10 years now.
I think it's very personal to each couple how much alone time they like and how much couple time is enough for them. Sometimes I joke to DH that I didn't get married to have a conjoined twin, so I'm perfectly happy with him taking trips with his family or his buddies and leaving me to do my own thing, or vice versa, for example.
We grab time when we can. DH might go in later and I will take an hour off in the morning to grab some breakfast.
Sometimes DH will leave work between the lunch and dinner shift and will will just hang out or go grocery shopping.
Sometimes he finds he is slow and will pop in at home for lunch.
Sometimes on Fridays I will pick him up after work and grab a cocktail.
We try and be flexible. It's hard for him to say days out he can do something, but when the opportunity does come up we take advantage of it. Even if that means we are just running to Target, we will do it together. Which in our case Target is 29 miles away, so we get a nice car ride to just talk.
I just feel like the pace we are going, we are going to be that awkward couple who has nothing to talk about except work when we finally get together. And I do NOT want that to happen. When we met I was doing something totally different and we had no problem finding time to do things. But now, I see her in bed at night and in bed in the morning. That's it.
We may not be doing the same thing but it's nice to share the same space.
That's how I feel now. I kiss her bye and she kisses me hello! I try some nights to wait up but my body is so tired I fall asleep without warning sometimes.
We don't really have a problem making time for each other, since we are both homebodies and prefer each other's company to that of others' (most of the time). And whichever weekend day we both have off, we spend together (currently Sundays, which are football and lounge day). It is kind of nice, though, that we each have a day or two off alone to do our own things. I definitely prefer our setup to him working graveyards like he used to - we almost never saw each other then.
We do separate things together; yesterday he pulled all of the Christmas decorations down from the attic for me and then played video games while I started getting some of the decorations up. Sometimes he plays video games while I read a book or video chat with my friends who have moved overseas. I never really played video games growing up, but there are times where he lets me play with him and thankfully he doesn't get frustrated with my lack of skill. We also like to do day trips (hiking, Washington D.C., park, etc.); he took the day off tomorrow so we could go to D.C. to watch the Army band's holiday concert. At the same time, I don't need a second shadow, so we do spend plenty of time apart as well.
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