I want to ask my bridesmaids to be my bridesmaids in a special way but can't figure out how. I like the idea of giving them a gift with the question, something clever, but I feel like a lot of the ideas I see (Mostly pinterest) are really basic-white girl-esque haha, some are just inappropriate (Hold my dress while I pee? Really?). Give me some ideas!
Re: A non-tacky but nice way to ask the wedding party
If you're uncomfortable pouring your heart out, write a note and give it to each of them privately. "You are special to me because... and I couldn't imagine getting married without you standing up there with me. Will you be my bridesmaid?"
Wait until closer to your wedding, after they've already agreed to be your bridesmaids, to give them gifts. Don't give them gifts at the time you ask them or otherwise use cheesy gimmicks for the purpose of making the asking "special." That will only make them feel pressured to say yes, and if anyone has to say no, the more "special" you try to make the asking, the more awkward you'll make it for them.
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Asked my MOH/sister while we were at family dinner- "You know you're matron of honor, right?" Her: "Oh cool, I thought you'd ask x friend instead!"
Asked BM #1 while watching S&TC re-runs: "Oh yeah, you're obviously a bridesmaid." Her: "Awesome!"
Asked BM #2 while at happy hour: "You'll be a BM right." Her: "Duh, yay!!!" (glasses clink)
We always say on these boards to ask and be mindful that people may have reasons for saying no. It was just the nature of my relationship with these three women that them standing up for me was a foregone conclusion. There are two other times that I was more formally asked to be a BM over the phone, which is great and in both was a very touching moment. When my BM#2 got engaged, we had another "duh, you're a bridesmaid" moment, haha.
I think you just started a Pinterest trend...
You mean conversations not convos, which looks like convoys. Dammit, now the song is stuck in my head. Lords of Light, just ask them a grown ass woman.
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I personally am not a fan either of the "gimmicks" and "proposals" to be a member of a bridal party, so I thought it was really sweet that he chose a place that meant something to both us to be a part of his big day.
Off the list it goes...
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