Bridesmaids financial responsibilities

YogaSandy

MyNameIsNot said:

YogaSandy said:

db1984 said:

short+sassy said:

woodtdm said:

No wine for any table but the head table and MIL table. They picked the officiant and I'm not sure if she knew or agreed to her vows being n French. She was so confused at one point and the officiant just told her to say "yes". I was floored. The father daughter dance was the 7 minute version and you can tell they didn't practice before hand. They kind of ended up doing an impromptu weird fast dance at the end like Jennifer Grey in Dirty Dancing. 

To me, that would be as crazy as signing a contract, written in a language I didn't understand.

Thanks for the update!

Although she largely brought it on herself, I almost feel bad for her.  All the ill-will between her and some of her friends/family.  All the worrying so much about costs that she short changes her guests.  All the constant fretting and worrying that she seemed to have.

And then there are only 60 guests anyway.

It is a contract...I'm questioning whether or not it's legal.  They may not be married after all this.

Also from Canada, so the laws may be different (don't even know if this is a law or not), but aren't you still bound by a contract you (under your own volition) signed, whether you understood it or not? Like if I sign a cellphone contract (or credit card etc) and I don't read the entire thing, or don't really understand the terms, is it not still on me? I thought it was, and would assume this would be the same. 

Obviously, this doesn't apply to everyone. There was something in the news awhile back about a severely developmentally delayed 18+ woman being pressured into signing a big expensive cellphone contract. When her mother found out (don't know the right word if you're over 18 but not able to legally make decisions on your own - for lack of word her mother was her guardian) and her mother was able to get her out of it. Now maybe it wasn't because of legal ramifications, maybe it was because her mom brought it to CBC news and the company let her out of it to avoid bad publicity.

tl;dr - isn't it on the person to understand the contract? If you don't understand and still sign, isn't it still legal and your own fault?

Yes. If you freely sign or agree to a contract you don't understand, it's still binding. Duress is a defense to contract enforceability. (And would need to be affirmatively raised and proven by the wronged party.) Bride would have a pretty hard time arguing that she was duped into marriage.

But I think PP was just being snarky. I don't think anyone really questions the legality of strange vows. If so, there's be thousands of couples that wouldn't be married because their "vows" were not really vows at all. 

That's what I thought. Guess I just missed the snark. Usually I catch it.

woodtdm

The bride had it planned to do her vows in French to show respect to her FI's family. She just didn't take the extra step and spend the time to learn it. By not learning it I think it shows the opposite of what her intensions were, not to mention the fact that she shouldn't have to constantly bend over backwards make his family happy.