How Do You Dress A Groomswoman?

Knottie1432755838

I was jotting down all my wedding ideas for my wedding and getting specific on what I'm imagining so it'll be easier for me to go out and find what it is I'm looking for. I've already thought about and talked to all my bridesmaids for what I'm looking for from them in a dress, but I'm barely getting into what to do for my fiance's side of the wedding party. He has 3 groomsmen and 1 groomswoman and I'm not sure how to have her dress. In a dress or in a feminine tux? Is there even a such a thing as a feminine tux? All the men are wearing tan tuxedos with mismatched ties/bowties that follow my theme colors. Has anyone run into a problem like this before? 

bethsmiles

We are having two groomswomen in our wedding party (FI's sister and best friend). They are both picking out grey dresses to wear because they both love wearing dresses but there are suits for women that are lovely as well. There's so many options and they can all look great!

CMGragain

Knottie1432755838 said:

I was jotting down all my wedding ideas for my wedding and getting specific on what I'm imagining so it'll be easier for me to go out and find what it is I'm looking for. I've already thought about and talked to all my bridesmaids for what I'm looking for from them in a dress, but I'm barely getting into what to do for my fiance's side of the wedding party. He has 3 groomsmen and 1 groomswoman and I'm not sure how to have her dress. In a dress or in a feminine tux? Is there even a such a thing as a feminine tux? All the men are wearing tan tuxedos with mismatched ties/bowties that follow my theme colors. Has anyone run into a problem like this before? 

I didn't get past the tan tuxedos.  Tuxedos are black.  I absolutely DETEST colored tuxedos.  My ex-brother-in-law wore a tan one in 1975.  Please rethink this!
Normally I would have recommended a black suit or cocktail dress, but the tan tuxedos have me stymied.

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hellohkb

Does she normally wear suits or pants for dressy occasions? If not, have her wear a dress that matches the groomsmen's suits.

ElcaB

I'd suggest either the same dress as the BMs or a tan dress to match the GMs, but you should ask her what she prefers. 

labro

The groomswoman in my friend's wedding wore a long light gray dress in the same shade of gray as the groomsmen's suits. IMO, I would go with whatever she is comfortable with - women's dressy suit or suit skirt, a long dress (or short dress), and the dress color can match with the bridesmaids or the groomsmen or whatever.

STARMOON44

ElcaB said:

I'd suggest either the same dress as the BMs or a tan dress to match the GMs, but you should ask her what she prefers. 

A tan dress?!? What did this poor girl do to offend you?!?

I'd scrap the tan tuxedos, because that is not a thing, and ask her what she would like to wear.

pinupbride6189

When I was a groomsmaid, the BMs were wearing blue dresses, and the guys were wearing black suits (or tuxes, can't remember...) and I wore a black dress with a silver belt and silver shoes. I really wouldn't stress over this too much. Just something that coordinates with your look and that she feels comfortable wearing. 

ElcaB

STARMOON44 said:

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I'd suggest either the same dress as the BMs or a tan dress to match the GMs, but you should ask her what she prefers. 

A tan dress?!? What did this poor girl do to offend you?!? I'd scrap the tan tuxedos, because that is not a thing, and ask her what she would like to wear.

Was. Not. Thinking. 

This is cracking me up. 

Moppet82

Do you feel close enough to her to ask if she would prefer to wear a dress or a suit?  Otherwise, I would have your FI ask her. 

msuprincess04

Our groomswoman wore the same dress as the rest of the bridesmaids. And my bridesman wore the same tux/tie as the groomsmen. They just stood on their respective sides.

thisismynickname2

My groomswoman wore a black dress just like the bridesmaids did (they all picked their own dresses). It never crossed my mind to dress her coordinating with the men because she's not a man. Now then, of course, some women do love the androgynous look and that's cool and if someone wanted to dress themselves that way, great. But this same groomswoman attended a wedding a couple months later, where there was a groomswoman dressed in a suit, and texted me, "THANK YOU for letting me wear a dress!!"

Bottom line: Have the groomswoman wear what she would normally want to wear as a guest. If she's the type who wears dresses to weddings, she can wear a dress. If she often dresses in dress pants (more of a business chic look) to a wedding, then she might want to wear a suit like the men. But for goodness sakes, don't put her in pants just so she resembles the men. ETA: I mean, come on. Look at those pictures in the earlier post where a woman is dressed in a suit or a skirt suit. Would you put a man in a dress just because he's a bridesman? No! Unless he already enjoyed that kind of thing. But never just so he looked like a female bridesmaid.