HI Knot community! I need some 3rd party help... I thought I found my perfect dress with my Mom and both of my parents love it and so did I and it was perfect! It's a drop waist gown, beautiful! But now I'm having second thoughts...I think I really want a mermaid and always did, but didn't have the confidence to go for it, but my Mom doesn't seem crazy about that shape and I know my Dad HATES that idea for his "princess" haha. Mom is kinda sick of the doubts I can sense it... We're trying to stick with the same salon since I already selected a dress from there (half of it isn't paid for yet, so I still have a chance to change my mind). Mom proposed maybe having an add on skirt over a mermaid for the ceremony, so we're looking into that with baited breathe! Hopefully it won't look too ball gowny (not my personal taste).
Even with this possible solution, its causing me some deal of stress haha...thankfully we have plenty of time until the big day! Do any of you have any other suggestions??
Re: Torn between dresses!
Dress regret and second guessing is very, very normal and I daresay expected. You mentioned a lack of confidence with the mermaid- is your wedding really the time to not feel confident? No, it's not.
I bought my dress very early on and definitely had regret when I saw more trends come out. You have to just stop looking. Step away from Pinterest, Say Yes to the Dress, bridal magazine ads, etc. Remember how you felt in the original dress and go with that gut feeling.
There are a bazillion dresses out there that could have potentially have been The One. There are also many potential human beings that could have been The One. Yet, you picked out a spouse and stopped looking, now pick a dress and stop looking.
What life changes? What are you hiding? Your butt? Like, this to me reads that your dress now doesn't show off your butt enough and now that you've gone through a life change you don't want to hide it.
You bought a dress. Stop talking about it and move on.
Also, the dress has not been purchased yet, so I don't think I necessarily have to stop talking about it. If I had purchased it, I definitely wouldn't have posted about it.
And you probably should make sure you sign something - you're giving someone your money! Never give money without getting a product or service - or a promise of a product or service. That is for your protection!
And you probably should make sure you sign something - you're giving someone your money! Never give money without getting a product or service - or a promise of a product or service. That is for your protection!
Actually, not even 1/3 rd of it is paid for (even less than that). We got a receipt recording it, but no contract saying I must finishing paying on that dress.
EDIT: By my math it's about 11% of the dress that has been paid for. And it's not locked in until half is paid for, meaning until then I could change dress or request a refund and lose no money.