These are the dresses I've selected for my girls (the one with straps is for the MOH). Wedding colors are navy, silver, charcoal, and blush. Not too sure how to go about accessorizing haha. Winter wedding, vintage and winter themed!
Torn on shoe color and style too! The wedding will be semi-formal, so leaning towards heels (we were thinking of having flip-flops at the reception for the guests for their comfort).
Re: BM and MOH Fashion Advice
Less is more when it comes to accessorizing. You can suggest your BM's wear silver jewelry, but nothing more specific than that. If you want them to wear matching jewelry, then the burden is on you to purchase it, and it should NOT be considered any type of BM gift. You are requiring it.
I would like to reiterate my point regarding shoes. Shoes, particularly under a long gown, are a NON-ISSUE. There is no need for a budget discussion. They do not need to match. I already loathe the compulsion for matching dresses as it is impossible to find a dress that truly compliments all body types. Shoes are virtually impossible to suit comfortably. If your friends (remember, they are friends first) already own a pair of neutral shoes, there is no need to spend any additional money. If you absolutely insist that they coordinate their shoes, then please dictate nothing beyond a color.
No jewelry should be mandated by you. If you want matching jewelry, then that burden is on you. Your friends may have given you a "budget" for these things because they didn't, or couldn't be honest with you. Again, if you get them necklaces, it should not be considered any type of wedding party gift. You are requiring them to wear them the day of the wedding. Gifts do not come with requirements or strings.
I bought my bridesmaids their shoes, metallic wedge sandals that I got for a steal cause I was working retail at the time. Despite how awesome the price was, I really should have just told them to wear whatever neutral shoe they felt comfortable in. There is one picture of their shoes. And when I saw that picture my first thought was "That's cute" my second thought was " Why do I need a picture of my bridesmaid's shoes? Why did I even care about my bridesmaid's shoes?"
So, as someone who has been there and done that, just drop the shoes. It really doesn't matter.
And those dresses are long, so the shoes won't be seen, and it could make it awkward for them if they change into significantly shorter shoes/flip flops for comfort hem wise.
And I appreciate your opinion @MobKaz . Like I said, I do see the point with the shoes. However, the way my friends and family who are in my bridal party decide how the budget and expenses are divided up - more referring to the jewlery in this case - is ultimately up to us. That's why every wedding is different.
I have been in a wedding where all the BMs were requested to get a particular type of shoe, but we were wearing cocktail length dresses so I think she was wanting styles to match more. Because it was one of my best friends, and she essentially gave us a choice of several different shoes that we could collectively decide which one would fit our budgets and feet best, I didn't mind. I still own and love that pair of black open-toed heels. For me and the other BMs, it was an excuse to indulge and get a nice pair of stilettos that we could re-wear. I think this only worked because we were a small group, good friends, and everybody was on the same page about styles and prices.
However, any time I have been a bridesmaid where we had long gowns, shoes didn't matter. Maybe the bride would request a color, but even that didn't really end up mattering since nobody could really see our feet.
My BMs this summer will be wearing cocktail-length dresses. They already get to pick whatever style dress they want, so long as it is one of two colors, so I see no reason to get picky about shoe uniformity. Cream or beige is my only requirement. Heels or flats, open toed or closed, doesn't matter.
One last point, just because they gave you a budget for these things doesn't mean you actually have to use it! Think of all the other money they're spending on your wedding; dress, shoes, shower, gifts, b party, travel, wedding gift,etc.; just because they can spend more doesn't mean they should have to. Think about what is most important and go from there no assure you matching jewelry and shoes no one will see are not it.
Not being mean here, because you really are being cool about it, but why bother with this? Not a single person at your wedding is going to give a crap about the bridesmaids bracelet and it's not even going to show in pictures when they are holding a bouquet.
And to echo previous posters... if you require certain jewelry (which you shouldnt. Let your BM's be individuals. These are your closest friends, not props) then it must be paid for by you, but cannot be considered a gift. It's not a gift if it's part of the "uniform".
Treat your friends like friends, not like props for a photo, please! They will thank you for it.
There is nothing different, special, or unique about wasting money on things that have no bearing on your marriage, pictures, or vision. Wasting time fretting about shoes that will NOT be seen, or on jewelry that NO guest will recall an hour after the ceremony, simply makes no sense.
The best styling tip to offer is to allow your friends to style themselves in a way that makes them look and feel their best without wasting money needlessly.
Wow @lachattefatale those are super pretty! I never thought of pearls lolz, or even Etsy.
http://www.icing.com/us/products/multi-strand-pearl-necklace-with-vintage-pavé-crystal-roses-82128
Obviously, there are brides here who care and brides here who don't. I guess I'm just interested in hearing the reasons from the other side.
For me personally, I have a very OC personality, though I don't consider myself to have OCD (it's true from my experience that everyone in the psychology field has their own stuff they're trying to figure out lolz), so that has a factor on why everyone looking at least somewhat uniform - not necessarily identical - is important to me. I also have a rather large party of 10 girls (11 counting my mother, who is my matron of honor and will be wearing something totally separate) so having everyone in something different but still same color, to me, looks a bit messy. With something subtle like jewlery it doesn't matter as much, and the shoes being the same color but whatever style they want I don't care about. But the dress being the same, with a different dress for MOH that's still a bit similar, which these two provide, was very important to me.
That's just me personally.
Here's my last plug to just let them wear what they want: I hate yellow gold jewelry on me. I never have worn it, I've exchanged every gift I've ever gotten that is yellow gold. It's not my thing. My best friend OTOH loves it. Rarely will she wear white gold/silver. We've been in three weddings together (mine, hers, my sisters). If we had made each other wear particular matching jewelry one of us would have been unhappy. If someone would have bought gold jewelry for me for a wedding id wear it for the wedding because they asked me too but if never wear it again. Do you really want to spend money on matching/similar jewelry (or ask them to spend their own) on something that will get worn once? I wouldn't.
Also, you can't even see my BMs jewelry in my wedding pictures.
So you see @charlotte989875 , I'm not forcing anyone to spend money on useless expensive stuff or wear things they don't want.
I'm sorry to be blunt, and this may come across as snobby or catty, but when I think of shopping at Icing or Claire's, I envision scores of pre-teens shopping for jewelry. Spending any amount of money at those stores is like throwing money directly into the garbage. Why would you accessorize lovely dresses with (in your words) cheap stuff? Whether expensive or cheap, jewelry for these friends is useless.