Another Poll

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ShesSoCold said:

At 22, I was already starting to get my shit together so there's not much more I know now than I did then, other than save some fucking money.

At like, 18 though? Shit. SSC, your boyfriend sucks and it's okay to be alone. Don't quit that job. Smoke less pot. Be nice to and love your mother - she is doing the absolute best she can and she will be gone in less than ten years. Get over your teenage bullshit with both parents and move on to a fun, adult relationship with them.

This about my Mom! She was around for twenty more years but I wish I had been more considerate of her when I was newly married. I miss her everyday.

kimmiinthemitten

PrettyGirlLost said:

Is Spoon Theory a real thing or is this an inside joke?

That there's a difference between making peace and keeping the peace, and only one of those two behaviors is actually a functional relationship dynamic.

I googled it because I thought I was the only one who didn't know and felt dumb asking!  Glad I wasn't alone.

And as someone without a chronic illness/pain, I do feel like I get it better after reading that!

AddieCake

I'm intrigued by the spoon theory. I will have to share it with a friend who is ill and always struggling to get people to understand or believe her. 

TrixieJess

That it's okay to be a complete fuck up. I spent the 5 years after high school (19-24) working 2 jobs, dating questionable boys, and drinking way too much. Then I went back to university, got my degree and started my career.

We put too much pressure on kids to figure out what they want to do right away that we don't let them live and screw up a little.