Asking for Money to Buy Your Dress
Hey all, its been a while since I have been around but a good friend of mine got engaged last month and I am BM in her wedding. While I love my friend dearly I feel like I got put in an awkward spot lately and just wanted to share...
My friend and I have been friends for about 5 years now, and she is a really great person...although she isn't always great with her money. I am not sticking my nose in her business but she is the one who is constantly complaining about not having enough money to do anything and being broke. She was also complaining that her mortgage payment was going up an extra $15 a month and it freaked her out because she wasn't sure she could afford it. Again, I am not judging her in any way, just providing some context to this discussion.
So Fast forward to last night, we are all at David's Bridal to look at Wedding Gowns and BM's dresses since she is having a short engagement and getting married in early June. She tries on a few dresses and finds one that she really likes. It is not a big fancy expensive dress, but she doesn't have the money yet (waiting for her next paycheck). So the lady that works there says that if she puts down a $150 deposit, they could order the dress and she could receive it once she pays the balance in full. Unfortunately being as my friend has maxed credit cards and maxed debt she couldn't afford the deposit on her dress.
So here she is in the middle of the store unable to buy the dress she wants. She turns to us (3 BM's and her Mom) and asks us if she can borrow the money. Her mom just shook her head no and refused to give her money. So now us three girls are on the spot...and I felt like a really shitty friend when I told her no. I had gone in expecting to spend that much on the BM dress, but doubling that amount was NOT in my budget!
So please, if you're a bride, don't do this to your friends...and also, I'm not crazy fro turning her down right?? I mean I know its totally within my right to refuse to lend someone money regardless if I can afford it or not, but given my friends less than stellar records I just couldn't afford the risk if she didn't pay me back. (That and I hate lending money amongst friends...it always makes it awkward!!!!)