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Who Comes Dress Shopping
Hey Ladies!
I am trying to schedule my dress appointment, and hitting some bumps along the way. I am trying to see if having my grandmother (who is paying for the dress), my mother, future MIL, and three bridesmaid is too many people to bring. The problem is one bridesmaid is my sister, one my future SIL, and one my best friend. I feel like 6 people is a lot to bring but do not know how to cut people out, or is this a normal number?
I am trying to schedule my dress appointment, and hitting some bumps along the way. I am trying to see if having my grandmother (who is paying for the dress), my mother, future MIL, and three bridesmaid is too many people to bring. The problem is one bridesmaid is my sister, one my future SIL, and one my best friend. I feel like 6 people is a lot to bring but do not know how to cut people out, or is this a normal number?
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Re: Who Comes Dress Shopping
Best of luck! That's so exciting you're gonna have your dress appointment soon
I went with just my mom when I went dress shopping. It was a nice mother/daughter thing, and I was able to get someone else's thoughts on the dresses I tried on without feeling confused or overwhelmed.
If you are worried that 6 people is too many, you can always "invite in circles" as is suggested for wedding invitations. It makes sense for you, your mom, your sister, and grandmother to attend as you are all immediate family. If you wanted to add to that list, then it makes sense to include your nearest and dearest friend.
If you have not already extended an invitation, I think you could easily cut out your FMIL and SIL. It is not as common to include in laws to this event. I would think they would understand, too. What you could do, if you wanted, would be to invite them when you pick up the dress you eventually choose. You would need to try it on again at that time to determine alterations.
So, depending on you're relationships with the people you are asking to come (and their relationships with one another) it may not be too many, but it also might be too many opinions. Good luck!
My only caution is to be open to trying different things, but don't be afraid to put your foot down if it's truly not something you want or are comfortable in; it's a lot of opinions to deal with!
Sure, you may likely tell them when you've found your dress. But do they need to know/ are you planning on telling them every time you're going to an appointment? Likewise do they need to know who is attending with you?
I feel like those things are no one's business but your own.
I suppose if FMIL doesn't have any daughters (yours does), then I can see her being excited to go dress shopping (I love wedding dresses!). But other than that, and maybe I'm just not close enough to my FMIL/FSIL, I can't imagine telling so many details to another person (your dress is personal- FMIL and FSIL have no stake in it), or someone else being so invested in a shopping trip.
I went dress shopping by myself and while it felt weird at first, I ended up loving it. It was actually kind of nice to go solely off my own gut reaction to dresses. And ultimately, you're buying a piece of clothing. A think a lot of brides except it t some orgasmic experience finding THE DRESS . . . and then get disappointed when it doesn't happen. It might, but it might not, too. And that's fine.
Not white.
Not mermaid/trumpet/ball gown
not strapless
not hot. Seriously I was sweating in everything. Do they keep the thermostat in the 80s?
no gross crinkly fabric.
Yeah it's a lot of demands but if ya know what you want, don't let people jerk you around and waste your time. Take gals that can help with that!