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MandTFebruary62011
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Rawr
Ok, I need help. I've gone dress shopping 4 times and have put on well over 20 dresses. A lot of them look very pretty, but nothing that makes me feel particularly pretty. I really think I just found the cut that is flattering to me and so most of the dresses in that cut are "pretty". When I started looking, I wanted to spend under $1,000 on a dress. I have pretty bad sticker shock from this whole wedding thing, and my fiance and I both have expensive taste. We have worked out a reasonable amount to save each month that will easily pay for the wedding, but I don't like to spend a boatload of money and would much rather pay less if I can.
I fell in love with an Amelia Sposa dress... Which is a designer in Italy who only sells in Italy. http://ameliasposa.it/catalog/item-52/
Literally every dress I try on I pick at because it doesn't have the everything this dress has. It is all of the things I want. I contacted the company and I could buy it, try it on and return it. I think in the end I would be out return shipping, which insured and to Italy isn't exactly small potatoes. It's really hindering any ability to find something local though because I just keep comparing to this dress. IF I were to get it, it's over $1,000 but not as much as I would have expected based on the design/style - yet I know I'll need to factor in alterations too.
My fiance wants me to order it. He's been pushing me to try on dresses over my ideal budget anyways because I always come home unhappy from shopping. I feel like, if I'm going to go over then I'm getting this. He wants me to order it so at the very least I can put it on and get the dream of it out of my head. I'm tempted. It's not ideal price-wise but it's not impossible either.
Anyways... I guess I need someone to either validate my crazy or tell me my crazy is crazy. This is causing me WAY more stress than a dress really should... because at the end of the day it is just a dress.
I fell in love with an Amelia Sposa dress... Which is a designer in Italy who only sells in Italy. http://ameliasposa.it/catalog/item-52/
Literally every dress I try on I pick at because it doesn't have the everything this dress has. It is all of the things I want. I contacted the company and I could buy it, try it on and return it. I think in the end I would be out return shipping, which insured and to Italy isn't exactly small potatoes. It's really hindering any ability to find something local though because I just keep comparing to this dress. IF I were to get it, it's over $1,000 but not as much as I would have expected based on the design/style - yet I know I'll need to factor in alterations too.
My fiance wants me to order it. He's been pushing me to try on dresses over my ideal budget anyways because I always come home unhappy from shopping. I feel like, if I'm going to go over then I'm getting this. He wants me to order it so at the very least I can put it on and get the dream of it out of my head. I'm tempted. It's not ideal price-wise but it's not impossible either.
Anyways... I guess I need someone to either validate my crazy or tell me my crazy is crazy. This is causing me WAY more stress than a dress really should... because at the end of the day it is just a dress.
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Re: Rawr
Have you tried looking on resale websites for lightly used in the style you like?
But man, oh man, is that a gorgeous dress!
That reminds me very much of this dress that a friend of mine tried on and loved:
http://www.allurebridals.com/products/2850
I have no idea of the price, but I agree with PP's. If you can afford to splurge I'd so go ahead. But the comfort of guests should come first, I will remember how well I was treated before I will remember the brides dress!
Have you tried on a dress with the embellishment all over like that? I only ask because I tried on a dress that had it on the bodice and felt like my arms were scratching it right away and I'd be rubbed raw if I chose the dress. That might not be an issue for you but something to consider before thinking of buying.
I'm financially conservative and personally I would not do it. I'd rather take that picture to bridal salons or do google image searches to find something similar I could try on vs paying to ship and potentially return ship.
And thanks... I have tried on dresses with a lot of beading and it doesn't tend to bother me. What I don't like is it usually stops part way down and the skirt is plain. Finding anything remotely similar at a bridal salon, I end up spending more than this dress costs. So I'm not even willing to try those one right now. I've sat looking for similar dresses and just can't seem to find anything that has the pieces of this I like. Whenever I do, it's over the price so seems silly.
I'm pretty financially conservative too which is why I'm having so much trouble making up my mind... it just feels stupid.
And I want to definitely be clear that it wouldn't take away anything from the guests! That's already set and ready to go. I'm thinking of taking away flowers if I can talk my fiance into it. I'm actually trying right now to see what extra work I can do. I might try to review some grants to get a few hundred dollars that would make it reasonable.
thanks everyone!
Tried to look online for similar items but like you said hard to find for under $1,000. I think I remember from all of my Say Yes to the Dress episodes that the more bling = more $$
https://moncheribridals.com/browse/wedding-dresses/sophia-tolli/y11625-amira-2/ $1500 though
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_jewel-lace-a-line-wedding-dress-with-beading-wg3755_wedding-dresses-a-line-silhouette Silhouette isn't quite as fitted
http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_jewel-tulle-a-line-wedding-dress-with-lace-detail-wg3729_wedding-dresses-a-line-silhouette Again, A line and not fitted
The designer you linked has caused some discussion also on Italian wedding forums and people have been struggling to get them to respond to requests. If you have good reviews from reputable sources and they have been in touch with you directly too though, that's great.
I took a look at the website, and the fact that they do not list a physical address nor a direct telephone number, makes me wonder.. Italian companies are by law required to show their tax number (P.IVA or partita IVA) on the website too, and I couldn't find it. Also the website doesn't exist in Italian, which is strange for an "Italian" company.
Maybe they are great, but as someone else suggested, I would try going around your local shops with a photo of the dress first.
These are just some of the alarms that went on in my head. It is possible that they aren't actually located in Italy (or they might not be TAX registered!) but I would be very careful before ordering from them. Or maybe it's just a bad website, who knows!
Good luck!
FYI The Knot allows vendors to register for the site to advertise, but not to participate on the forums.
Also, this post is quite old. Please keep in mind the date of the post when responding.
http://pearlsplace.com/