FH and I are probably getting Hospital Hitched in the next 14-21 days. His left arm is out of commission and may be permanently, so we're thinking he'll wear his ring on his right hand. If you were me, would you wear your ring on your right hand out of emotional and physical solidarity/symbolism, or on your left hand because yours is still functioning, and that's the "married" hand in the US, so why not?
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Re: What hand should I wear my ring on?
I vote for left, because it is the symbol we are accustomed to if you want to visibly show people you are married. but I see nothing wrong with right hand for solidarity. Whichever feels best for you guys
I do have a question, and hope it doesn't come across as insensitive. If he is keeping his left arm but it won't be functional, won't it actually be better to have the ring on that hand so he can use his right hand to take it on and off? If it was on the right hand would he need help taking it off/on?
Hope you're holding up ok. Sending you lots of good vibes.
PS - Yay for being Mrs. SpockForPrez soon!!
I can't remember which culture this came from, and it might have been more of a time period thing. But anyway, a woman was given a ring, usually a plain band, as an engagement proposal, that she would wear on the right hand, and then once married, wore it on the left. I also believe that in eastern Europe, women wear the engagement ring on the right hand and then switch it over to the left with their wedding band when married (someone I used to know whose family is Dutch told me that, but could be wrong). In eastern Europe, men often wear their wedding band on the right hand. And in North America, if you have received a rock for an e-ring, it is often moved to the right hand after marriage while the band is worn on the left, purely because the e-ring is so big it doesn't fit beside the wedding band.
I wear my engagement and wedding rings on my left hand. DH wears his wedding band on his right hand. He is an engineer and left handed, so his iron ring in on his left pinky. He was worried that the steel ring would damage his gold band when they rub against each other. His dad is also eastern European, so the right hand tradition is common to him.
My high school music teacher wore/wears his wedding band on his right hand also, because on the left it interferes with playing his instrument.
Thus, I don't find it weird to see a ring on the right hand.
My father lost his index finger and the tip of 2 more on his left hand. He never got a ring because he didn't want it to draw attention to his hand. So I never grew up associating rings with a sign of being married. I mean, I knew most people do, but it wasn't something I gave much thought to. Most sailors do not wear rings either because of safety reason.
I guess my point it, whatever works for you.