I just received a Facebook message from a girl asking if her husband (FI was in their wedding in august) was going to be in our wedding and if not, who were the other groomsmen and best man? Mind you our wedding is next month, I feel like you would know by now if you were in the wedding. I'm just in a mini moment of awe that people feel this is okay to do and don't consider it rude. And FI has done nothing of any sort to sway this person into believing he'll be in the wedding. I listed off the groomsmen and said I look forward to seeing them at the wedding. (you knotties taught me that line lol)
I'd love to hear stories if anyone else has had guests be rude and break etiquette.
Re: Guest breaking etiquette.
My aunt has her surgery and recovered super fast. She asked her surgeon if she could fly to Houston,and the surgeon agreed. She said she couldn't stand the thought of not being there! She's been cancer free for over 2 years now.
A few months later, she asks me about my rehearsal dinner as she assumed Mutual Friend was a bridesmaid (she wasn't) and she was trying to plan her birthday. I told her not to worry about plan whatever she wanted for her birthday.
When she finally got the picture she wasn't invited, she decided to celebrate in Vegas and invited a few of our mutual friends. Luckily, they all came to my wedding rather than her bday in Vegas...
And, luckily, that was the worst I had to deal with. DH had to talk his mom out of inviting last minute people we didn't even know, but, his mom, his talk. Phew!
So much craziness and entitlement in these posts, that its hard to pick a winner.
But I'm going to nominate this one. I just love it so much. A casual friend...NOT EVEN INVITED TO THE WEDDING...was upset you scheduled your wedding a day after her 30th bday. I realize she didn't know she wasn't invited at the time of her "evil eye", but still. That is some of the most crazy pants stuff I have heard.
I'm sure it happens a million times a year that somebody's guest at somebody's wedding has a bday the same weekend.
The nerve of some people! How dare guests ask questions, it's so rude!
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
yup. I asked my bridesmaid to be my bridesmaid and she said "oh why don't you ask Barry to be a groomsman?"
Barry is her fiancé.
Thankfully we had a family of guests not show up so we didn't have problems from the caterer or anything with extra cost, but still... I was so amazed that someone would go beyond the typical "Can we bring along so and so?" or "We are bringing so and so" to just... bringing someone along who was never invited, and we were complete strangers with.
FI has this girl that is one of his best friend's, I will call her Jane. Jane introduced us, her daughter, Ann who is 12 and my 9 year old Sara (names changed) are on the same cheer team. Yesterday FI gets home from working night shift and he has a text from Jane saying "My kids were really excited because they thought they would be in the wedding I don't know what you think but Sara told Ann she can't be in the wedding" FI didn't respond and went to bed. He gets up to get ready for work and has a new message from Jane saying "I forgot I sent this" so FI tells her he was sleeping and Sara was at practice so after practice we will get her side and take care of it but we don't even know who all will be in the wedding since we have been engaged for 1 day and its over a year away. Jane responds back don't worry Sara and Ann talked after school and Ann doesn't care if she is in it or not you know me I get a little crazy about stuff.
After practice I talk to Sara. She said Ann asked her what Sara will be in the wedding and Sara said a bridesmaid. Then Ann asked if she would be in the wedding and Sare said I dont know my mom and FI haven't decided anything yet. FI asked Jane about this and she admits she told her kids they can be in the wedding and then says she has found my dress and these are the plans she has made so far and if my kids can sit with their grandparents because to many kids in the wedding will look bad. FI told her we would plan the wedding and if I needed help I would ask but Jane kept sending info and ignoring what FI said. After that FI stopped responding to her messages and told me we will plan what we want and he will talk to Jane hubby to tell her to stop cause she isn't listening to me.
1. Jane picked out your wedding dress & is making plans for your wedding
2. Jane wants your daughters to sit with their grandparents instead of being BM & FG, because
3. Jane thinks her kids are going to stand in your wedding so you should kick your own daughters out to make room???????????????????
I agree with @LondonLisa that your FI should not complicate matters by having a talk with Jane's husband. You've told her you're planning your own wedding, leave it at that. Ignore her messages, hopefully she'll get the hint when you stop responding.