In my situation there still HOPE right? Please please tell me there still HOPE.. Very LONGGG post.

Cookie Pusher

My whole family is Chinese. I grew up surrounded by Chingrish. Hell, I didn't speak English myself until I was in school. I still can't make heads or tails of half the OP's posts. Clearly, she needs to find a better therapist because none of us are qualified (or paid enough) to help her through these issues when she obviously doesn't actually want help.

pinkcow13

Sigh. OP first off, I'm not going to tell you how to post, but people will be a lot more receptive if you kind of cut back on the lengthy posts a bit. I feel like they were almost journal entries. Like someone suggested a while back, you should write all this stuff out, and then maybe print it for your therapist. Then, before hitting submit, edit it out. We can only give you so much advice.

Your parents sound like they are mentally ill people. You've tried, but there is nothing more you can do. They made their decision. They do not want a relationship with you. You need to accept that and move on. Your family is your husband. He loves and supports you. Stop talking about divorce, why is that even a thought? Your parents are not ruining your marriage, YOU are going to do that if you continue with this nonsense. My best friend is married to an Indian man whose mother, father, and brother do not approve of her or their marriage. Rather than letting his toxic family ruin his marriage, he is pulling away from them and defending his wife when need be.

You are making this situation hard on yourself. Forget you parents. Focus on your husband. Focus on yourself. You mentioned Java and C++ classes. Go back and get certifications or a degree. Who cares if you're 30? I had 60 year olds in my college classes. It's never too late to go back.  There is a lot you can do with those in technology. My husband is in IT and he knows all about Java and C++ (he's taken those courses), so if you ever come back to this post I would be happy to offer some advice in regards to career paths or jobs you can try for. 

Focus on making friends, going to therapy, and letting your parents go. You have a brother and a husband who love you. Don't throw your love away on the people who birthed you. They don't even deserve to be called your parents.