FW and I had a couple of talks about the wedding, and for budget and other reasons, we're choosing to scale our plans back. She wanted a smaller wedding in the first place because her previous two were bigger productions and both marriages ended badly, but she was going along with my plans for something bigger. We're cutting our guest list to 50 max (fortunately we never did send Save the Dates, and we haven't sent invitations yet). We're cancelling our reservation for the pavilion; we're still having our wedding in the park, but it's going to be in the park itself (we're still renting or borrowing chairs and looking at options for a plan B in case of rain or extreme heat) with either a picnic, a reservation of a party room at one of our local restaurants, or a get-together at our house to follow.
I'm still adjusting a little to the change in plans, but I know that the important thing is that we're getting married. I'm feeling guilty because a couple of our friends and my family were excited about coming and now we're not going to be able to accommodate as many as we wanted. And I feel like a jerk for not listening to her about wanting a smaller wedding initially.