Scaling way back

OurWildKingdom · June 2016

FW and I had a couple of talks about the wedding, and for budget and other reasons, we're choosing to scale our plans back. She wanted a smaller wedding in the first place because her previous two were bigger productions and both marriages ended badly, but she was going along with my plans for something bigger. We're cutting our guest list to 50 max (fortunately we never did send Save the Dates, and we haven't sent invitations yet). We're cancelling our reservation for the pavilion; we're still having our wedding in the park, but it's going to be in the park itself (we're still renting or borrowing chairs and looking at options for a plan B in case of rain or extreme heat) with either a picnic, a reservation of a party room at one of our local restaurants, or a get-together at our house to follow.

I'm still adjusting a little to the change in plans, but I know that the important thing is that we're getting married. I'm feeling guilty because a couple of our friends and my family were excited about coming and now we're not going to be able to accommodate as many as we wanted. And I feel like a jerk for not listening to her about wanting a smaller wedding initially.

bleve0821 · June 2016

:hugs: Hang in there. It'll all work out in the end. Sounds like it's cupcake time.

OurWildKingdom · June 2016

AtomicBlonde said:

:hugs: Hang in there. It'll all work out in the end. Sounds like it's cupcake time.

Thank you, @AtomicBlonde. I'm at the hospital for appointments all afternoon, so no access to cupcakes, but I did manage to score a brownie with what seems like a pound of frosting, so I reckon that'll work.

drglitter · June 2016

I'm sure your wedding will be lovely, no matter its size.

Enjoy your pound of frosting!

CharmedPam · June 2016

yes, it still sounds lovely. I think you'll have a great wedding, despite the cutback. For me, it was so much fun to vendor shop, quote and get the more inexpensive price for the same thing. It was like a game to me

charlotte989875 · June 2016

Definitely cupcake time! Just wanted to add I think it's great you're scaling back and hearing her when she said it was too much.

Also, though it's your wedding too so maybe there are still ways to compromise so you're not giving up everything you had wanted/planned; say the 500-max guest list but still the pavilion?

OurWildKingdom · June 2016

charlotte989875 said:

Definitely cupcake time! Just wanted to add I think it's great you're scaling back and hearing her when she said it was too much.

Also, though it's your wedding too so maybe there are still ways to compromise so you're not giving up everything you had wanted/planned; say the 500-max guest list but still the pavilion?

The enclosed pavilion is too expensive, *but* there is a picnic area that we can reserve a section of for only $50 ($100 if we want two sections). The original venue was $95 an hour.

SP29 · June 2016

I am sure your scaled back wedding will be just as lovely! Picnic in the park is nice

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I think more people should have smaller, more simpler weddings.

I really enjoyed our wedding, but if I had to re-do it, I'd go with a brunch wedding.

ei34 · June 2016

The new plans sound lovely. It's nice that you two are able to share with each other and be flexible as needs or hopes change. Happy planning

OurWildKingdom · June 2016

Update: We're keeping the original guest list but booking a less expensive venue, probably the picnic area at the park (it's partially enclosed) but I'm looking at VFW and other halls for a backup. Part of the budget issue was the venue ($95/hour). We're also tinkering with the menu a bit and sourcing our own beverages, paper products, and flatware. FW's issue was less with the guest list and more with the decor and other fancy details. I love DIY, but I tend to get carried away with even the simplest projects. I either spend too much money or try to take on something out of my league.

We'll still be offering awesome hospitality though, if I do say so myself. (I had to talk her out of a potluck again.)

jenna8984 · June 2016

Sounds great!!

OurWildKingdom · June 2016

Oh, we're also postponing the wedding a month to give us a chance to save more money and pushing back our ceremony time from 1:30 to 2:00, to give people more opportunity to eat beforehand if they want to. We're still doing a similar menu with cake, light snacks, and nonalcoholic beverages, and I was thinking about ordering sheet pizzas to be delivered around 4:30-5:00 for guests to take slices with them (we have a favorite pizza place that is very reasonable).

ETA: We will be borrowing and renting chairs for the ceremony and for those who aren't physically able to sit on the picnic benches. (One of my cousins owns a funeral home and may be able to lend us chairs). Even then, it will still be less expensive.

ETA x2: The advantage of pizza is that we don't have to pay till we order it.

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