Dear Prudence,
My boyfriend is amazing, but his parents have a loose concept of hygiene. I’m admittedly a bit of a germaphobe but this weekend his mom made brunch while announcing she was sick, coughing over the plates, licking her fingers before touching food, using paper towels from out of the garbage to wipe off food prep surfaces, and using the dog’s water bowl (with a secondslong rinse) as a serving bowl. I love this guy and want to spend my life with him, but I can’t fake indigestion or lack of appetite for the next 10 years. If I talk to him about it, he’ll just say he eats their food and he’s fine. What do I do?
—Gross In-Laws
Re: Ick, ick, ick!
If the BF can't see that this is piss poor then he really isn't amazing.
That's disgusting. I'm not the neatest person on earth, but I couldn't even fathom doing even one of the things LW's BF's mom did while preparing a meal.
I have two wonderful dogs, but their water bowls for a serving dish? Shivers down my spine thinking about doing that.
This would probably be a deal breaker if BF felt nothing was wrong with the way his mom prepared the meal. I don't think I'd ever let HIM cook for me, if that was the way he was taught to cook! So much of learning is by example, I'd be very afraid of how he prepares meals.
H's dad's family is pretty gross. Not this bad, but they store food in their 3 season room (in the sun) and eat food that is WAY expired and I question their cleanliness. We avoid dinner there but when it's absolutely necessary, we avoid a lot of the expired stuff (like salad dressings and condiments) and try to only eat what we know is fresh.
But that would be really hard for LW. I wonder how the BF feels about this.