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Alcohol

I am having around 230 people are my reception. We are paying for beer and wine and if the guests want a mixed drink they will have to pay for that themselves. I was wondering how many kegs and 1.5L of wine would you suggest getting?

Thanks

Re: Alcohol

  • JaxInBlueJaxInBlue member
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    What @kimmiinthemitten said.

    It's absolutely okay to only have beer and wine (we did) or to offer beer, wine and a signature cocktail (or two).  It's not okay to charge for some things over others.

    If this is a venue "thing" as in your venue won't fully breakdown your bar to only have the selections you host, you need to push back on that.

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  • So you are having a partial cash bar, yes?
                 
  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall member
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    Please don't have a cash bar or partial cash bar. Limited bar is perfectly fine.

    Would you invite someone to your home for dinner, offer them iced tea for free but charge them for a soda? No? Then why would you do something like that at your wedding? 
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  • AddieCake said:
    Please don't have a cash bar or partial cash bar. Limited bar is perfectly fine.

    Would you invite someone to your home for dinner, offer them iced tea for free but charge them for a soda? No? Then why would you do something like that at your wedding? 
    I should stop doing this. I also charge if they want sweetener for their tea. Is this also wrong?
    I really wish TK hadn't taken away the sarcasm font. @DrillSergeantCat could definitely become proficient with it.
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  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat Oklahoma City, OK member
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    geebee908 said:
    AddieCake said:
    Please don't have a cash bar or partial cash bar. Limited bar is perfectly fine.

    Would you invite someone to your home for dinner, offer them iced tea for free but charge them for a soda? No? Then why would you do something like that at your wedding? 
    I should stop doing this. I also charge if they want sweetener for their tea. Is this also wrong?
    I really wish TK hadn't taken away the sarcasm font. @DrillSergeantCat could definitely become proficient with it.
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  • I have yet to find a money tree growing in my backyard so cutting out the cost for liquor was the more reasonable thing to remove. I have been to plenty of receptions that have the guest pay for the mixed drinks, since people can get out of hand with liquor. I have never thought that to be rude or distasteful. It's like the dollar dance, if you do not want to pay a dollar to dance with the bride or groom then you don't have to, same with the liquor, you don't have to purchase them if you do not want to.
  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall member
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    And ugh. Now there's potential for a dollar dance, too?
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  • What are your plans for soft drinks?

    You absolutely don't need to provide anything other than beer and wine, hell you don't even need to have alcohol since a dry wedding is perfectly acceptable. Why do you feel that you need to offer more than you can afford?
                 
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  • Unlimited pop, coffee and hot chocolate is available to all guests.  The liquor is an ala cart option on our alcohol package and the groom and I didn't think it was a necessity. Guests can purchase a mixed drink if they want, but we will only be buying beer and wine for alcohol.
  • Never said there was going to be a dollar dance. 
  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat Oklahoma City, OK member
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    Unlimited pop, coffee and hot chocolate is available to all guests.  The liquor is an ala cart option on our alcohol package and the groom and I didn't think it was a necessity. Guests can purchase a mixed drink if they want, but we will only be buying beer and wine for alcohol.
    That is seriously enough. You are not required to provide any alcohol at all and it's rather generous of you to offer what you're already offering. Most venues don't take cards and most people don't carry cash, so how are you going to let people know it's a cash bar? How are you going to let people know there will be a dollar dance? :s Just stick with your current options and let it be. You are properly hosting your guests at this point, but asking them to pay for additional drinks is not proper hosting. 
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  • kimmiinthemittenkimmiinthemitten Detroit, MI member
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    I have yet to find a money tree growing in my backyard so cutting out the cost for liquor was the more reasonable thing to remove.

    Most of us here are paying for our own weddings and had to find ways to properly host all of our guests.  Does that mean you may have to make cuts?  Sure, so cut the liquor and serve beer and wine only.
     I have been to plenty of receptions that have the guest pay for the mixed drinks, since people can get out of hand with liquor.

    This makes me feel like Jimmy Fallon's Sara with no H.  I just can't.  Just because other people have engaged in rude behavior doesn't make that behavior okay.  I have read lots of stories online about bridesmaids being caught making out the groom somewhere during the reception.  That doesn't mean that when I was a bridesmaid I stole the groom away to a closet.

    And my biggest pet peeve:  who in the eff cares if someone gets drunk at your wedding.  It's a party, and a celebration.  If they stay and get drunk they're having a good time.  If they leave early, they were bored and didn't want to pay for your shitty liquor selections when they likely have the stuff they prefer at home.  They're adults, trust them to behave like adults and if they do get out of hand trust your bartenders to do their damned jobs and cut people off.

    I have never thought that to be rude or distasteful.

    I learned a long time ago on these boards that it's okay as a guest to not hold all standards of etiquette to the same level, but as a host it is your responsibility to host everyone properly because just because it doesn't bother you, doesn't mean it doesn't bother everyone.  Another example, I'm PPD Lite, as long as it's an available date and I'm hosted properly, I'm good.  However, I'm totally talking crap about your partial cash bar while I drink your free beer.

    It's like the dollar dance, if you do not want to pay a dollar to dance with the bride or groom then you don't have to, same with the liquor, you don't have to purchase them if you do not want to.

    Ditto my previous sentiment about etiquette as a host vs as a guest and @drillsergeantcat.  If someone is making it rain at your wedding, you may to rethink why you think it's okay to engage in behavior in front of your family that is typically reserved for windowless buildings.


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    geebee908 said:
    AddieCake said:
    Please don't have a cash bar or partial cash bar. Limited bar is perfectly fine.

    Would you invite someone to your home for dinner, offer them iced tea for free but charge them for a soda? No? Then why would you do something like that at your wedding? 
    I should stop doing this. I also charge if they want sweetener for their tea. Is this also wrong?
    I really wish TK hadn't taken away the sarcasm font. @DrillSergeantCat could definitely become proficient with it.
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  • AddieCake said:
    So because you've seen it done, it's ok? 

    Sigh. Again, money is not a valid explanation. Nobody said ZOMG YOU HAVE TO HAVE A FULL OPEN BAR FOR EVERYONE!!!! Limited bar is perfectly acceptable. 

    And @DrillSergeantCat Heck yeah, you should be charging for sweetener. Who do your guests think they are, anyway?! You aren't made of money! Bastards.
    Yes, why should YOU have to pay for your guests to get all sugared up!
  • kimmiinthemittenkimmiinthemitten Detroit, MI member
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    New question:  It sounds as though you're providing the wine and beer, would you be providing the alcohol for the partial cash bar as well and if so, how were you planning to go about setting prices and collecting the money?  Who is providing the bar service?

    It seems even sillier to me to insist on a cash mixed drink bar when you're providing the alcohol and bartending services.  It's not like you can blame it on the venue.
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