Have we done a "I don't get" thread recently?

MissKittyDanger

TrixieJess said:

banana468 said:

I've been getting the whooping cough booster for only about 10 years.   It was drilled into me when I was pregnant with DD in 2010.

Now that we're in the school system I hope I don't have to deal repeatedly with antivaccers.   I still like the meme "If I can't send my kid to school with peanut butter you shouldn't be able to send your kid to school with infectious diseases." 

They are not letting kids into our schools here that haven't been vaccinated. It's been a long time coming, but it's finally happening. The only exception now is medical. 

I have no idea how the school systems here regarding anti-vax people because all my friends aren't. I hope the system is the same as yours

Side note: H's stepbrother is actually allergic to vaccines and to keep him safe, everyone around him has to be vaccinated. My only fear is if we have a kid, I don't want H's stepbro to be a carrier and kid to get sick unintentionally

ILoveBeachMusic

MissKittyDanger said:

TrixieJess said:

banana468 said:

I've been getting the whooping cough booster for only about 10 years.   It was drilled into me when I was pregnant with DD in 2010.

Now that we're in the school system I hope I don't have to deal repeatedly with antivaccers.   I still like the meme "If I can't send my kid to school with peanut butter you shouldn't be able to send your kid to school with infectious diseases." 

They are not letting kids into our schools here that haven't been vaccinated. It's been a long time coming, but it's finally happening. The only exception now is medical. 

I have no idea how the school systems here regarding anti-vax people because all my friends aren't. I hope the system is the same as yours

Side note: H's stepbrother is actually allergic to vaccines and to keep him safe, everyone around him has to be vaccinated. My only fear is if we have a kid, I don't want H's stepbro to be a carrier and kid to get sick unintentionally

That would be very unlikely. The herd concept of vaccinating people who can be vaccinated protects people who can't be vaccinated. So many people are immune due to vaccination that the virus isn't passed around. Your H's stepbrother is in just as much danger of contracting the disease as an unvaccinated child - which is why people who have no contraindications should be vaccinated.

DrillSergeantCat

I have no problem with people choosing not to vaccinate their children (I think it's stupid, but they truly believe they're doing what's best for their children), but I do believe that they should then no longer benefit from the public education system. 

peachy13

People who ask questions during a meeting when everyone else knows the answer because the answer was addressed at some point during the meeting, and everyone looks at the person like 

Jells2dot0

peachy13 said:

People who ask questions during a meeting when everyone else knows the answer because the answer was addressed at some point during the meeting, and everyone looks at the person like 

That is totally my H. However, he does it because he is partially deaf. I still end up rolling my eyes at him, but then I remember why he is asking and then feel bad!

banana468

DrillSergeantCat said:

I have no problem with people choosing not to vaccinate their children (I think it's stupid, but they truly believe they're doing what's best for their children), but I do believe that they should then no longer benefit from the public education system. 

What about everything else though?    My kids go to the grocery store, the mall, the beach, the movie theater, parks, museums, zoos, etc.   

If you make a choice to willfully avoid vaccinating your children you just opted to put my kids at risk in public.   I'm not a fan.   

levioosa

DrillSergeantCat said:

I have no problem with people choosing not to vaccinate their children (I think it's stupid, but they truly believe they're doing what's best for their children), but I do believe that they should then no longer benefit from the public education system. 

Nope.  Herd immunity is what protects the immunocompromised and those who can't vaccinate due to age or medical condition.  People who choose not to vaccinate aren't just putting themselves at risk--they are putting the lives of others at risk as well.  It's not just about accepting personal risk anymore.  

DrillSergeantCat

banana468 said:

DrillSergeantCat said:

I have no problem with people choosing not to vaccinate their children (I think it's stupid, but they truly believe they're doing what's best for their children), but I do believe that they should then no longer benefit from the public education system. 

What about everything else though?    My kids go to the grocery store, the mall, the beach, the movie theater, parks, museums, zoos, etc.   

If you make a choice to willfully avoid vaccinating your children you just opted to put my kids at risk in public.   I'm not a fan.   

I didn't mean to imply that I agree with not vaccinating, I just understand these women think they're doing what is best for their children. With everywhere but school, we have no way of knowing whether a child is vaccinated or not which is why I left it at school. 

tigerlily6

The sex selfie. I heard or read about way too many of these during my legal internship this past summer (they make for good evidence, I guess!), but I cannot begin to understand the why, let alone the how. 

OurWildKingdom

tigerlily6 said:

The sex selfie. I heard or read about way too many of these during my legal internship this past summer (they make for good evidence, I guess!), but I cannot begin to understand the why, let alone the how. 

I had no idea these were a thing!

lovesclimbing

OurWildKingdom said:

tigerlily6 said:

The sex selfie. I heard or read about way too many of these during my legal internship this past summer (they make for good evidence, I guess!), but I cannot begin to understand the why, let alone the how. 

I had no idea these were a thing!

I have no idea what this even is, and I don't think I want to google it. Enlighten me, please, @tigerlily6

ThisShamanluvsaMage

I don't get dick pics.  I just had one show up from a wrong number (thank god it wasn't a friend!) and I'm just like: why?  And yuck.

ei34

tigerlily6 said:

The sex selfie. I heard or read about way too many of these during my legal internship this past summer (they make for good evidence, I guess!), but I cannot begin to understand the why, let alone the how. 

Ugh.  Way too many of my students sext.  A lot of them haven't even had sex, but they'll send each other nude photos.  Whenever the topic we're discussing is cyber safety, all the students want to know are state laws are regarding sending nude photos to minors...they don't worry about their privates all over the school, just if they'll get in trouble.  It's beyond frustrating.

kimmiinthemitten

eileenrob said:

tigerlily6 said:

The sex selfie. I heard or read about way too many of these during my legal internship this past summer (they make for good evidence, I guess!), but I cannot begin to understand the why, let alone the how. 

Ugh.  Way too many of my students sext.  A lot of them haven't even had sex, but they'll send each other nude photos.  Whenever the topic we're discussing is cyber safety, all the students want to know are state laws are regarding sending nude photos to minors...they don't worry about their privates all over the school, just if they'll get in trouble.  It's beyond frustrating.

My brother lived with me when he was 16. One day, some of his friends were over (girls and guys) and we were all talking in the kitchen and sexting came up (mind you this was 9 years ago). I told the girls in the room; I've seen some of you naked, if I've seen those pics you can just imagine who else.  Their faces were priceless. Hopefully it changed at a least mind, but probably not. 

lovesclimbing

eileenrob said:

tigerlily6 said:

The sex selfie. I heard or read about way too many of these during my legal internship this past summer (they make for good evidence, I guess!), but I cannot begin to understand the why, let alone the how. 

Ugh.  Way too many of my students sext.  A lot of them haven't even had sex, but they'll send each other nude photos.  Whenever the topic we're discussing is cyber safety, all the students want to know are state laws are regarding sending nude photos to minors...they don't worry about their privates all over the school, just if they'll get in trouble.  It's beyond frustrating.

Oh, so it's the same thing as sexting? I don't really get sexting and for the most part (unless you are in a long-term super serious relationship, i.e. married, and even then, it's probably not the best idea simply because of all the cyber security stuff), I think it's stupid and irresponsible. 

ei34

lovesclimbing said:

eileenrob said:

tigerlily6 said:

The sex selfie. I heard or read about way too many of these during my legal internship this past summer (they make for good evidence, I guess!), but I cannot begin to understand the why, let alone the how. 

Ugh.  Way too many of my students sext.  A lot of them haven't even had sex, but they'll send each other nude photos.  Whenever the topic we're discussing is cyber safety, all the students want to know are state laws are regarding sending nude photos to minors...they don't worry about their privates all over the school, just if they'll get in trouble.  It's beyond frustrating.

Oh, so it's the same thing as sexting? I don't really get sexting and for the most part (unless you are in a long-term super serious relationship, i.e. married, and even then, it's probably not the best idea simply because of all the cyber security stuff), I think it's stupid and irresponsible. 

I think so.  (Unless @tigerlily6 were you referring to something else?  if so please explain I'd love to be up to date on the latest thing when school starts up in a few weeks!)  I totally don't get sexting.  I wouldn't even send (or want to receive) a nude pic from DH...we've texted "lets have sex tonight" (without saying it but using our own little code words) but I can't wrap my mind around the photo part.  Even for adults...teens it's just crazy.  I don't get it.
@kimmiinthemitten good for you that was hopefully eye-opening for some of them!

ThisShamanluvsaMage

eileenrob said:

lovesclimbing said:

eileenrob said:

tigerlily6 said:

The sex selfie. I heard or read about way too many of these during my legal internship this past summer (they make for good evidence, I guess!), but I cannot begin to understand the why, let alone the how. 

Ugh.  Way too many of my students sext.  A lot of them haven't even had sex, but they'll send each other nude photos.  Whenever the topic we're discussing is cyber safety, all the students want to know are state laws are regarding sending nude photos to minors...they don't worry about their privates all over the school, just if they'll get in trouble.  It's beyond frustrating.

Oh, so it's the same thing as sexting? I don't really get sexting and for the most part (unless you are in a long-term super serious relationship, i.e. married, and even then, it's probably not the best idea simply because of all the cyber security stuff), I think it's stupid and irresponsible. 

I think so.  (Unless @tigerlily6 were you referring to something else?  if so please explain I'd love to be up to date on the latest thing when school starts up in a few weeks!)  I totally don't get sexting.  I wouldn't even send (or want to receive) a nude pic from DH...we've texted "lets have sex tonight" (without saying it but using our own little code words) but I can't wrap my mind around the photo part.  Even for adults...teens it's just crazy.  I don't get it.
@kimmiinthemitten good for you that was hopefully eye-opening for some of them!

If I tried sexting FI he'd be all "dude, are you high?"  And then we'd both pretend it never happened.

themosthappy91

lovesclimbing said:

eileenrob said:

tigerlily6 said:

The sex selfie. I heard or read about way too many of these during my legal internship this past summer (they make for good evidence, I guess!), but I cannot begin to understand the why, let alone the how. 

Ugh.  Way too many of my students sext.  A lot of them haven't even had sex, but they'll send each other nude photos.  Whenever the topic we're discussing is cyber safety, all the students want to know are state laws are regarding sending nude photos to minors...they don't worry about their privates all over the school, just if they'll get in trouble.  It's beyond frustrating.

Oh, so it's the same thing as sexting? I don't really get sexting and for the most part (unless you are in a long-term super serious relationship, i.e. married, and even then, it's probably not the best idea simply because of all the cyber security stuff), I think it's stupid and irresponsible. 

I guess I have an unpopular opinion here but I definitely see nothing wrong with sexting as long as you're 1) obeying the law and 2) aware of the risks.

Just like any other sex act I don't see why it has to be within the context of a long-term super serious relationship to be deemed not stupid or irresponsible... if you are a consenting adult and think it's hot, why not?

Obviously there's the risk of it being shared with others outside of the intended recipient, but you always run the risk of a sexual partner betraying your trust and sharing information about your sex life (and personally I think a picture of a body part is often way less graphic/intimate than a verbal description of what you like to do in bed). And most people I know who sext take reasonable precautions like not having their face in the photo so it can't come back to haunt them in a professional capacity or something.

So yeah, count me as sext-positive, lol. Now as for teens doing it? Honestly I thought that basically qualified as child pornography everywhere so that would be a hugely bad idea. Anyway I'm not sure sexting is actually what was meant by sex selfie... I think that's like an actual selfie taken during sex.

WinstonsGirl

themosthappy91 said:

So yeah, count me as sext-positive, lol. Now as for teens doing it? Honestly I thought that basically qualified as child pornography everywhere so that would be a hugely bad idea. Anyway I'm not sure sexting is actually what was meant by sex selfie... I think that's like an actual selfie taken during sex.

We talk about this in Health class for my junior high kids.  They have no idea that sexting as teens is actually possession and distribution of child pornography, even if they're okay with sending photos of themselves.  It seems to put it in a different perspective for them

tigerlily6

lovesclimbing said:

OurWildKingdom said:

tigerlily6 said:

The sex selfie. I heard or read about way too many of these during my legal internship this past summer (they make for good evidence, I guess!), but I cannot begin to understand the why, let alone the how. 

I had no idea these were a thing!

I have no idea what this even is, and I don't think I want to google it. Enlighten me, please, @tigerlily6

SITB

No, not exactly the same as sexting. In terms of the traditional sext, I'm actually with @themosthappy91 in her analysis: if you're doing it legally (i.e., not sending to a minor) and aware of risks, that's fine. If the purpose is to arouse a sexual partner and done responsibly that way, I'm cool with that. 

But sex selfies -- these are when you take a selfie of you and another person during the act of sex itself. I guess what I don't understand is: (1) for what audience is this photo being taken? Maybe for the arousal of you or your partner later, but it seems a lot of these are taken by young people who may more likely be sharing these photos with friends. (2) Who has the coordination and/or patience to pause in the middle of coitus to take a photo? I know I certainly wouldn't.