Hello fellow knotties,
I remember when I first started planning my destination wedding. I would post on here desperate for information and advice. If you have read a thread or posted a question about legal ceremonies you have probable seen responses like:
* it's unfair to family - who think they are witnessing your actually marriage to find out that its A SHAM - A pretend wedding * gasp*
*Your actual wedding date wont be until you have the legal marriage
* its considered rude to have a "fake wedding"
* Its a vow renewal not a wedding
I want to put a note out in opposition. These days I am meeting a ton of brides originally from the Dominican Republic, Mexico and Costa Rica..who have lots of family there and have the ceremony the country. and come back to the USA and have a civil/ courthouse marriage. I wish I listened to my gut and had the ceremony of my dreams in costa rica and managed the legalities in the US.
If you are unconvinced -Here's a little bit of my struggle:
After the wedding it took 10 weeks to rec' our marriage certificate.
My officiant (Noel Ibo) has been absolutely M.I.A and unresponsive. My documents are in another language, and although I paid Noel to have the documents translated- it turns out the U.S. Social Security office does their own translation, for free and will not accept an international translation.
At this point, I am unable to take my husbands last name and may ultimately need to have the civil ceremony in a courthouse anyway- which would have saved me a few hundred dollars. (Most officiants charge less for a symbolic wedding vs. legal)