Snarky SO

hellohkb

A wedding is coming up that H and I are attending. I recently spoke with the bride and she was stressed and mentioned many aspects were poorly put together. I was telling H all of this (I felt bad she was stressed, so I was talking to him in a concerned way) and he replies with, "Poorly planned? You mean that cash bar they are having?" paired with a giant eyeroll She posted in the wedding FB group a heads up about the cash bar to everyone who is attending and H wasn't too thrilled. He's becoming a true Knottie. He even complained about a gap at another wedding we went to.

He still has some work, though. I'm going to be a bridesmaid in a wedding and bride wants specific hair, jewelry, shoes, makeup, etc. I'm praying she won't ask me to cover tattoos but I don't want to have a come to Jesus talk, though I will if I have to. H said I need to suck it up for the day regardless   He gets sent to the spanking room for that.

Does your SO make any snarky remarks that we would all enjoy?

southernbelle0915

That's awesome! He knows his stuff - he should become a Knottie  Ugh I hope they don't ask you to cover your tattoos...did they see how awesome you looked on your own wedding day?!

Honestly, my H is wayyyyyy too tolerant of wedding faux pas. He's been in about 20 weddings and they run the gamut. Gaps are a thing, giant wedding parties with house parties are a thing, head tables with only WP are a thing, extravagant bachelor parties where no one asks budget and just says "this is what you owe" are a thing, $280 attire rentals are a thing..... I could go on and on. He doesn't really bat an eye at any of it. He would probably attend a potluck wedding and ask if he could make the main course. (eyeroll) Then of course there's me, who is probably a little too critical. 

short+sassy

Even before I came on the TK, my H has always been side-eye about the typical wedding etiquette blunders we discuss.  I chalk some of that up to him being extra sensitive to being inconvenienced.  For example, if we have plans to go to a restaurant and there is anything longer than a 15 minute wait, I can almost count on he will want to go somewhere else.  So he finds gaps really rude.  He also finds not enough food or paying for drinks really rude.

We were invited to a wedding.  Very casual, our invite was via e-mail.  We replied back with our RSVP and asked where they were registered.  The response was they weren't registered anywhere because they didn't really need anything.  And something along the lines of they didn't really want any presents but, if we wanted to give them cash for their honeymoon, that would be cool.

To me, I thought that response was fine.  We were the ones who brought up the question of essentially "what would you like".  They told us they weren't expecting presents but, if we wanted to give something, they preferred cash.  Fair enough. 

My H was side-eying that they asked for cash and aren't people "not supposed to do that".  I explained, normally yes, if it is said out of the blue.  But pointed we had asked what they wanted and they told us.  Part of it also is we tend to be people who give things, not cash.  I told him we should just give some cash, because that is what they wanted.  He said he doesn't like giving cash and suggested we give them a couple nice bottles of wine (this couple LOVES wine and drinks it all the time).  I thought that was a good compromise, since wine is a consumable they use anyway, so we went with that.

DrillSergeantCat

short+sassy said:

Even before I came on the TK, my H has always been side-eye about the typical wedding etiquette blunders we discuss.  I chalk some of that up to him being extra sensitive to being inconvenienced.  For example, if we have plans to go to a restaurant and there is anything longer than a 15 minute wait, I can almost count on he will want to go somewhere else.  So he finds gaps really rude.  He also finds not enough food or paying for drinks really rude.

We were invited to a wedding.  Very casual, our invite was via e-mail.  We replied back with our RSVP and asked where they were registered.  The response was they weren't registered anywhere because they didn't really need anything.  And something along the lines of they didn't really want any presents but, if we wanted to give them cash for their honeymoon, that would be cool.

To me, I thought that response was fine.  We were the ones who brought up the question of essentially "what would you like".  They told us they weren't expecting presents but, if we wanted to give something, they preferred cash.  Fair enough. 

My H was side-eying that they asked for cash and aren't people "not supposed to do that".  I explained, normally yes, if it is said out of the blue.  But pointed we had asked what they wanted and they told us.  Part of it also is we tend to be people who give things, not cash.  I told him we should just give some cash, because that is what they wanted.  He said he doesn't like giving cash and suggested we give them a couple nice bottles of wine (this couple LOVES wine and drinks it all the time).  I thought that was a good compromise, since wine is a consumable they use anyway, so we went with that.

I'm with your husband on that. I think they should have left it at "We're not registered anywhere because we don't need anything." I find it a bit tack that they blatantly asked for cash.

short+sassy

DrillSergeantCat said:

short+sassy said:

Even before I came on the TK, my H has always been side-eye about the typical wedding etiquette blunders we discuss.  I chalk some of that up to him being extra sensitive to being inconvenienced.  For example, if we have plans to go to a restaurant and there is anything longer than a 15 minute wait, I can almost count on he will want to go somewhere else.  So he finds gaps really rude.  He also finds not enough food or paying for drinks really rude.

We were invited to a wedding.  Very casual, our invite was via e-mail.  We replied back with our RSVP and asked where they were registered.  The response was they weren't registered anywhere because they didn't really need anything.  And something along the lines of they didn't really want any presents but, if we wanted to give them cash for their honeymoon, that would be cool.

To me, I thought that response was fine.  We were the ones who brought up the question of essentially "what would you like".  They told us they weren't expecting presents but, if we wanted to give something, they preferred cash.  Fair enough. 

My H was side-eying that they asked for cash and aren't people "not supposed to do that".  I explained, normally yes, if it is said out of the blue.  But pointed we had asked what they wanted and they told us.  Part of it also is we tend to be people who give things, not cash.  I told him we should just give some cash, because that is what they wanted.  He said he doesn't like giving cash and suggested we give them a couple nice bottles of wine (this couple LOVES wine and drinks it all the time).  I thought that was a good compromise, since wine is a consumable they use anyway, so we went with that.

I'm with your husband on that. I think they should have left it at "We're not registered anywhere because we don't need anything." I find it a bit tack that they blatantly asked for cash.

Yeah, I hear that.  I wanted to add, because I realize I didn't say it in my post, that I didn't necessarily think he was wrong in what he said.  I understood where it was coming from.  It just wasn't something that bothered me at all and, if one wants to chalk it up as an etiquette faux pas, it ranks WAY down the scale from a blatant and unprompted ask for cash, ie cutesy poem in the invite. 

lyndausvi

My husband is the king of  snark when it comes to weddings.    I'm guessing it's because he has cooked at so many he knows what's good hosting and what's not.

vikinganna87

H isn't particularly snarky but he's quite tradition-bound.

When I suggested bridesmen [my brothers] in my wedding party he wasn't a fan.  They ended up on his side instead.  

When my sister got married down South and I opted to play in the pool with relatives I hadn't seen in ages instead of going to the nail salon with the ladies, H thought it was weird.

We went to a destination wedding in the islands that was mostly fun but the guests were totally lame and most of them left after dinner and before dancing --- we agreed on being disappointed but I'm not sure you could've blamed the hosts entirely.

julieanne912

H was so proud of our open bar.  He has talked about it many times, almost a little too much (like in front of friends who did not have full open bars at their weddings).