Hello all! So, it recently came to my attention that I forgot to send a save the date to my great Aunt and Uncle, their kids, as well as their kids kids. I realized I forgot to send them a save the date when I got a save the date for one of the "kids kids" wedding. (OOPS!) I sent save the dates 5 months ago (we're getting married in Italy and things have to be planned far in advance) is it tacky to send them a save the date now? I'm not sure if they realized they never got one, I just know I realized I never sent one. We are sending formal invites in Jan, so do I just send them a formal and skip the save the date? Help!
Re: Forgot to send guests a save the date
At the same time, if you forgot, are these people really close enough to invite? That's a pretty big oversight, an entire family for an overseas destination wedding. I'd be worried about looking gift grabby and only inviting them bc I received their invite.
I'm assuming the wedding in March, so I'd personally reach out to them if you truly want them to attend. Otherwise I would just leave them off the guest list, as they were left of in the first place.
Agreed that 8 months is WAY too early to send formal invitations, particularly when you are already sending STDs. I can see sending your invitations early if you are having a destination wedding, but when you are sending out STDs to your guests, they will already know the important information (date and location to book travel), thus a formal invitation send early doesn't add any more value.
I would not send your invitations more than 12 weeks out, but even then, no reason you can't send them at a standard time frame of 6-8 weeks.
OP, I'm glad you have an Italian coordinator. As long as you are actually getting married and not "just doing the paperwork" in your home country with a "symbolic" Italian ceremony you should be good.
Just email your family member, let them know of the oversight and that you would love to have them attend.
That is how I read it also...and if that is the case, OP you don't have to invite them because you were invited to their "kids kids" wedding. Wedding do not have to be tit for tat and you certainly can keep the list as is since they Didn't get a STD already. It sounds more like you are inviting them more out of obligation that out of wanting them to be there (to me anyway!)
You can send them a STD now, if you want to call them up and apologize that's fine, but being a year out this isn't really a big deal. Invites shouldn't go out until at most 3 months before the wedding though!