Facebook wedding invites?

Knottie1437951134

I know they're deemed as tacky, lazy, and cheep. But in mine and my guys case it really seems necessary. We've been engaged a little over a year and we decided to put the wedding on the back burner for the time being so we could move first. We are now moving November 1st and made a split decision (last week!) to get married before we move so can be sure our families and closest friends can attend. We're just doing a quick Justice of the peace ceremony and having food at a local restaurant that does small parties. We're only going to have about 35-40 people. That's only 3 weeks left to plan this, get the dress, all that stuff, on top of moving a week later! Is a facebook invite in this situation still a bad idea? 

Viczaesar

Knottie1437951134 said:

I know they're deemed as tacky, lazy, and cheep. But in mine and my guys case it really seems necessary. We've been engaged a little over a year and we decided to put the wedding on the back burner for the time being so we could move first. We are now moving November 1st and made a split decision (last week!) to get married before we move so can be sure our families and closest friends can attend. We're just doing a quick Justice of the peace ceremony and having food at a local restaurant that does small parties. We're only going to have about 35-40 people. That's only 3 weeks left to plan this, get the dress, all that stuff, on top of moving a week later! Is a facebook invite in this situation still a bad idea? 

It's not necessary or appropriate to use Facebook to invite people to  your last minute wedding.  Call or email your guests. 

OurWildKingdom

Viczaesar said:

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Knottie1437951134 said:

I know they're deemed as tacky, lazy, and cheep. But in mine and my guys case it really seems necessary. We've been engaged a little over a year and we decided to put the wedding on the back burner for the time being so we could move first. We are now moving November 1st and made a split decision (last week!) to get married before we move so can be sure our families and closest friends can attend. We're just doing a quick Justice of the peace ceremony and having food at a local restaurant that does small parties. We're only going to have about 35-40 people. That's only 3 weeks left to plan this, get the dress, all that stuff, on top of moving a week later! Is a facebook invite in this situation still a bad idea? 

It's not necessary or appropriate to use Facebook to invite people to  your last minute wedding.  Call or email your guests. 

Agreed. It's worth the extra time to send personal e-mails or make phone calls. Even an e-vite is nicer than a Facebook invitation.

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I vote for an evite. Some of them look quite nice and at least have a bit of a formality to them, even if it's coming by email vs paper post. 

People often don't look at or take fb invites seriously. You also won't likely get accurate RSVP responses to a fb invite. 

charlotte989875

With a small guest list I would just call them directly. People don't always check Facebook in a timely manner or as @Ironring said may not take it as seriosuly. Split up the list with your FI and give people a call. Follow up with an email or evite. 

kahluakoala

Do an email or evite! People will know it's real and it will feel a little fancier

BeyondHappy

We were married in 4 weeks, so I understand how fast things must happen, but I went to Michaels, got an invitation kit, drafted up how I wanted the invitation to look and cleared it with my mom since her name would be at the top as the person inviting the guests to attend, and then printed the invitations and mailed them out within three days.  The mailed invitation is always going to be more formal, traditional than a digital/electronic invitation.  Now because our reply time was short of course, we did have a telephone number for RSVPs instead of mailing back a reply card.  People said they actually appreciated the option of picking up the phone and RSVPing immediately instead of having to check off boxes on a reply card and then mail it...

CMGragain

Knottie1437951134 said:

I know they're deemed as tacky, lazy, and cheep. But in mine and my guys case it really seems necessary. We've been engaged a little over a year and we decided to put the wedding on the back burner for the time being so we could move first. We are now moving November 1st and made a split decision (last week!) to get married before we move so can be sure our families and closest friends can attend. We're just doing a quick Justice of the peace ceremony and having food at a local restaurant that does small parties. We're only going to have about 35-40 people. That's only 3 weeks left to plan this, get the dress, all that stuff, on top of moving a week later! Is a facebook invite in this situation still a bad idea? 

1.  Are you doing a courthouse ceremony?  Will the courthouse allow all of your guests?  Most courthouses have restrictions on numbers.

2.  Is everyone who is invited to the reception also invited to the ceremony?

3.  NEVER use Facebook for invitations!

4.  Tomorrow go straight to Michaels, Hobby Lobby, Walmart, or an office supply store like Staples or Office Depot.  You can buy an inexpensive invitations kit.  Print your invitations on a home computer by Sunday PM, address them, stamp them, and mail them first thing Monday morning.  Include a website and telephone number for RSVP.
Here is wording if everyone is invited to both the ceremony and the reception (restaurant).

The pleasure of your company is requested

at the marriage of

Bride's Full Name

and

Groom's Full Name

Friday, October twenty-ninth

two thousand sixteen

at four o'clock

Place Name

Address

City, State (no zip!)

Insert reception card

Reception

at half after four o'clock

Joe's Restaurant

Address

City, State

If only a few people will be at your actual ceremony, it would be this:

The pleasure of your company is requested

at the wedding reception of

Bride's Full Name

and

Groom's Full Name

Friday, October twenty-ninth

two thousand sixteen

at half after four o'clock

Restaurant Name

Address

City, State

Insert a small card for people incited to both the ceremony and the reception:

The pleasure of your company is requested

at the wedding ceremony

at two o'clock

City Courthouse

Address

City, State

https://www.walmart.com/ip/Gartner-Studios-Swirl-Invitation/39195209

I planned my small wedding in a just a few weeks.  It can be done.

STARMOON44

I don't think you need paper, but calling, sending individual emails, evites, or paperless post are all better than Facebook. 

kimmiinthemitten

I have been invited to two weddings via Facebook and didn't attend either. If you were my best friend or sister I would, but then again we'd probably have spoken/texted about it before I saw it on Facebook anyways. 

This is is your wedding. Give it the respect it deserves and send out personalized invites, be it the notes @cmgragain recommended or at least an individual (not group or BCC) email.