Parents who are WAY too excited for grandkids...

ginnybinny17

There's just something so grating hearing parents/other people talk about your hypothetical kids, when they want you to have them, how many they want you to have, etc etc etc.  As though you're just a warm fleshy storage facility for the babies other people want you to have someday, incapable of having any thoughts or feelings on the matter of your own.  Ugh.  And people just don't even think about fertility issues, or whether you don't want children at all.  Double ugh.

MissKittyDanger

M and I have talked about kids. We're planning one, hoping 2 and looking at eventually/possibly 3 BUT {huge BUT here} I was not planned as being an only child. My mum had issues with delivery and caused her to ideally not have more kids - and then my dad got an infection, so *POOF* just moi.

I told M that even if all is fine with baby 1, if I say "nope. not doing that again" then that's not his choice. If I change my mind, I will tell him but there may be an age gap bigger than we anticipated. {ideal: baby 1 turns 3, get pregnant with baby 2}

I guess we're pretty lucky, that both sides of the family would be happy with just 1 healthy kid and wouldn't pressure for more. I'm sure they'd ask though ...


@kimmiinthemitten  maybe you need to throw hypothetical things out "what if I can only have one kid? how about we plan baby 1 and then H AND I decide after that."

lovesclimbing

I am so blessed to have parents and a MIL who never bugged us about it at all. It was so great. We got more questions from friends? If someone asked me, I would always turn right around and ask them back! If it's ok for them to ask, it's obviously ok for me to ask. (Bonus, it satisfies my nosy side that I wouldn't be able to if they hadn't because I don't ask people questions like that.)

luckya23

I think I must have gotten really good at evading this question.
My family was SHOCKED when we announced we were pregnant! 

kimmiinthemitten

MissKittyDanger said:

M and I have talked about kids. We're planning one, hoping 2 and looking at eventually/possibly 3 BUT {huge BUT here} I was not planned as being an only child. My mum had issues with delivery and caused her to ideally not have more kids - and then my dad got an infection, so *POOF* just moi.

I told M that even if all is fine with baby 1, if I say "nope. not doing that again" then that's not his choice. If I change my mind, I will tell him but there may be an age gap bigger than we anticipated. {ideal: baby 1 turns 3, get pregnant with baby 2}

I guess we're pretty lucky, that both sides of the family would be happy with just 1 healthy kid and wouldn't pressure for more. I'm sure they'd ask though ...


@kimmiinthemitten  maybe you need to throw hypothetical things out "what if I can only have one kid? how about we plan baby 1 and then H AND I decide after that."

Nope....one is my compromise with FI.  I'm not going to lead anyone to believe otherwise, especially a parent who thinks she's our third decision maker.