Test

MissEastCoast

test

charlotte989875

JPalochko said:

Hi! I'm having some drama with a bridesmaid who is engaged and our wedding dresses. We're both getting married next year, me first and then her a couple of months later. She bought her wedding dress first and I got mine a couple of weeks later.

But she just had a meltdown, saying that I bought a dress that is too similar to hers and I shouldn't have gotten the same designer as hers. We both got Maggie Sottero dresses; hers is strapless, mine has cap sleeves and has a long train. They're both lace. 

She told me I "hurt" her and she was "shocked" I got a Maggie Sottero dress because she never heard me say I wanted a Maggie Sottero dress. I've had a lot of other friends get Maggie Sottero dresses and I think they're really popular, but my friend is claiming she's the only one who has ever wanted a Maggie Sottero dress (even though the salon I went to was showcasing Maggie Sottero dresses and pushing those dresses). 

When I went in looking for a dress, I didn't even think of my friend's. I was thinking of what makes me happy and my style. 

I dont think our dresses look alike, but she does. So what do I do? Do I exchange the dress and make sure I don't get a Maggie Sottero dress so she's happy? I got engaged first and am getting married first, but she got her dress first, so does she have claim over the dresses? I love my dress and it's my dream dress but I just feel now that every time I look at it or put it on, I'm going to remember all this drama. 

Thanks!

Your friend is totally out of line trying to tell you to change your wedding dress, that's just ridiculous. You found a dress you love hat happens to be by the same designer; no one can call "dibs" on an entire line of dresses. 

I think the best plan is to ignore her. If she brings it up again, tell her you're sorry she's unhappy but that you love your dress, they are not the same, and you're not purchasing a new one. End of story.   

Its likely she will realize how silly she is being and move on, but if she doesn't thats on her, not you. 

Congrats on finding your dress! Don't let someone else's drama cloud your excitement. 

charlotte989875

What's with the DD?

TrixieJess

Holy Heck! What is with the Specials deleting all their posts? 

DrillSergeantCat

@JPalochko you were quoted. No sense in deleting. It's rude and it just draws more attention to whatever you were trying to hide. 

FWIW, your friend is wrong. As PP stated you can't call dibs on an entire designer. Who got engaged first and bought first and whatever first is beside the point. She's acting like a petulant child. 

InLoveInQueens

My only guess is she's afraid the friend will see this? Because this was a totally reasonable post asking for advice on a shitty situation where the OP isn't actually the problem.

OP, even if you bought the exact same dress it wouldn't matter, even if you were getting married on the same day in the same dress, she doesn't have claim to an entire line just because she bought her dress first. Ignore her tantrum and hope that she comes to her senses about how much of a brat she's being and gets over it. Otherwise, you've learned just how petty this friend is and you can do with that information as you wish.

Congrats on finding your dream dress, don't let anyone ruin it like your friend is trying to do.

MairePoppy

Maybe she didn't realize she used her real name for an SN?