I am torn and need some advice. First I want to make clear what I am torn about..I don't want a reception. I do want to have my wedding at a Catholic Church, that means a lot to me and my FI and I DO NOT WANT TO CHANGE THAT. We do not want to spend money on a reception though. We want to leave for our honeymoon immediately after our wedding ceremony. At first we told our parents we wanted a very private wedding ceremony, just our parents and siblings. We would then all go out to a nice restaurant. Both our moms said we could not do that because a church welcomes all. So if my aunt wants to be there she can (and she will!! lol). I have a HUGE family. Just my mom's side of the family alone is about 120, that is only aunts/uncles and my cousins. About the same goes for my FI family. My sister married about 4 years ago and I helped out a lot and it was fun and all but not for me. She had over 400 people in her wedding. I just cannot do that and I cannot also pick and choose people. Certain family would hate me or put my parents in a tough situation and ask why I only invited certain people etc etc. My family is very out going and as soon as they heard we were engaged..it's all about the party now. I have not broken the news to them that we don't plan on having a party. How do I go about this? Should I just tell my family I will not make invitations...I will only word of mouth tell who I would like at ceremony and those friends/family will understand why I don't want a reception...I cannot possibly throw a party for 400 people..I cannot. I think I'm having anxiety just typing and thinking about a party that huge. But because I am a very social person..I come from a large lively Hispanic family..I know they will say "WHAT?!?!" I told a good friend who knows me well and said she understands but she said "good luck telling your family!" I love my family my friends and like I said I do socialize a lot and many know us and very happy for us..I get why they want to be part of celebrating but I don't want that. Would it be "un tacky" to do an invite that says clearly no reception after but more than welcome to attend ceremony?