Help! my FH and I can't seem to agree on who should be renting tuxes. He thinks it should just be himself and his 6 groomsmen. I think his father, my Step father(also our officiant) and our 4 ushers(my brothers) should rent as well maybe in a different color/accessories/boutonniere. Or at least should have the option if they want it. Suggestions? Thanks!
Re: Who should be renting a tux?
You can ask that your officiant/your step dad wear "all black" or "a black suit" or something very general since he's officiating the wedding but you shouldn't make him rent any attire.
Your dad isn't part of the WP at all. He is a guest of honor. You should not make your dad pay for anything attire wise. You shouldn't even dictate his clothes, colors or otherwise. (Same with your mom's if you were thinking about telling them what to wear. They're also guests of honor and can dress themselves.)
I'm on the fence about your brothers. Since they're not in the WP, I think you could ask them to wear a black suit. Maybe buy them a tie that fits your colors. They'd still look really nice and "part of the team".
You could definitely offer everyone boutonnieres though. You could make them different colors based on role.
ETA: My FIL wore a suit and looked nice and felt comfortable. My dad wore a tux because he thought it would look better walking me down the aisle (I didn't care) and my BIL chose a tux because he flew and hates packing suits.
*Exception: if your wedding is black tie, they'll all be in tuxes but again, your fathers and brothers can get their own, only the WP should have to rent a specific one
I'd give your male family members the option, as sometimes they like to match the dress or "fanciness" of the WP, but don't make it mandatory.