Too many guests to greet?

STARMOON44

Then there is your solution. You walk through the buffet first, eat, and then go greet people. You could even call them up by table number so more of them will be seated at the same time. 

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holyguacamole79 said:

We had a little over 200 at ours and table visits were the way to go (at least, for us).  We had a buffet, so we (bride & groom) ate first while our guests were in line.  As they started eating (and we were done ... yes, we got to eat), we went to each table to say hello. 

Here's what helped us IMMENSELY - we had a DoC (Day-of-coordinator) who escorted us to each table.  She kept an eye on her watch and gave us 2 minutes per table.  Once the 2 minutes were up, she gracefully excused us and took us to the next table.  If you have 34 tables & take 2 minutes per table, that's just over an hour.  

Keep in mind, too, when you get overwhelmed that your guest list includes people like your bridal party & immediate family.  I don't think your parents & bridesmaids expect you to take time to greet them .

Definitely make an effort, though.  I've been to weddings where the couple doesn't attempt to visit their guests, and it always leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

This is an excellent idea!  

LondonLisa

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

eileenrob said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

DrillSergeantCat said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

If I greet at the table, when would I get time to eat?

A lot of brides don't get to eat at the reception because of this. Definitely try to get to as many people as possible during cocktail hour.

I meant just try to speak to everyone during the cocktail hour and that's it. I don't want to damage my health by missing a meal. I've been advised to increase my calorie intake for health reasons so missing a meal isn't a good idea.

I'm surprised that the doctor or dietitian who advised you to increase your calorie intake didn't give you on-the-go snack tips for those crazy days when you can't sit down to three square meals.  My wedding day wasn't the first and hasn't been the last day that there was a lot going on.  A baggie of nuts, a banana, an apple, and granola/trail mix are all great to have on hand.  Or a hard boiled egg, if you have a little container and don't mind the smell.  Your health comes first...but your particular situation has easy solutions.

DH and I greeted our guests during dinner.  Our venue had a bridal attendant though, and she brought lots of delicious apps that were being served during cocktail hour while we took photos, and then more food throughout the reception when it looked like we had a moment to sit (which was rare).  Ask your venue if they offer this service.  

HUGE ditto @ookimoo don't try to greet everyone during cocktail hour.  Everyone's moving around too much (as they should), you'd definitely miss people.

It was a doctor provided by the National Health Service. Only a private doctor would have the time to give lots of tips. What is a bridal attendant?

We are having a buffet. I didn't want to start greeting people until they were all seated otherwise I thought I might miss some. But it will take a while for everyone to eat, even though  we are gaving multiple stations. I prefer buffets to plated meals because of the variety.

Just an FYI- if you are concerned for your health and your GP has said that you need more calories call up your GP and ask for a referral to an NHS dietician. It's not private in the slightest! The NHS website also has a ton of great diet info.

Are you doing one buffet line or multiple stations spread across the venue? If it's a buffet, your venue should 'release' tables so it's not a massive queue. You go through first, eat quickly and then start. 

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LondonLisa said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

eileenrob said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

DrillSergeantCat said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

If I greet at the table, when would I get time to eat?

A lot of brides don't get to eat at the reception because of this. Definitely try to get to as many people as possible during cocktail hour.

I meant just try to speak to everyone during the cocktail hour and that's it. I don't want to damage my health by missing a meal. I've been advised to increase my calorie intake for health reasons so missing a meal isn't a good idea.

I'm surprised that the doctor or dietitian who advised you to increase your calorie intake didn't give you on-the-go snack tips for those crazy days when you can't sit down to three square meals.  My wedding day wasn't the first and hasn't been the last day that there was a lot going on.  A baggie of nuts, a banana, an apple, and granola/trail mix are all great to have on hand.  Or a hard boiled egg, if you have a little container and don't mind the smell.  Your health comes first...but your particular situation has easy solutions.

DH and I greeted our guests during dinner.  Our venue had a bridal attendant though, and she brought lots of delicious apps that were being served during cocktail hour while we took photos, and then more food throughout the reception when it looked like we had a moment to sit (which was rare).  Ask your venue if they offer this service.  

HUGE ditto @ookimoo don't try to greet everyone during cocktail hour.  Everyone's moving around too much (as they should), you'd definitely miss people.

It was a doctor provided by the National Health Service. Only a private doctor would have the time to give lots of tips. What is a bridal attendant?

We are having a buffet. I didn't want to start greeting people until they were all seated otherwise I thought I might miss some. But it will take a while for everyone to eat, even though  we are gaving multiple stations. I prefer buffets to plated meals because of the variety.

Just an FYI- if you are concerned for your health and your GP has said that you need more calories call up your GP and ask for a referral to an NHS dietician. It's not private in the slightest! The NHS website also has a ton of great diet info.

Are you doing one buffet line or multiple stations spread across the venue? If it's a buffet, your venue should 'release' tables so it's not a massive queue. You go through first, eat quickly and then start. 

We are releasing tables because I went to a party where they didnt do that and it was hell! I spoke to a friend who is a personal trainer who has helped me. I just have a tendency to under-eat.

LondonLisa

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

LondonLisa said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

eileenrob said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

DrillSergeantCat said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

If I greet at the table, when would I get time to eat?

A lot of brides don't get to eat at the reception because of this. Definitely try to get to as many people as possible during cocktail hour.

I meant just try to speak to everyone during the cocktail hour and that's it. I don't want to damage my health by missing a meal. I've been advised to increase my calorie intake for health reasons so missing a meal isn't a good idea.

I'm surprised that the doctor or dietitian who advised you to increase your calorie intake didn't give you on-the-go snack tips for those crazy days when you can't sit down to three square meals.  My wedding day wasn't the first and hasn't been the last day that there was a lot going on.  A baggie of nuts, a banana, an apple, and granola/trail mix are all great to have on hand.  Or a hard boiled egg, if you have a little container and don't mind the smell.  Your health comes first...but your particular situation has easy solutions.

DH and I greeted our guests during dinner.  Our venue had a bridal attendant though, and she brought lots of delicious apps that were being served during cocktail hour while we took photos, and then more food throughout the reception when it looked like we had a moment to sit (which was rare).  Ask your venue if they offer this service.  

HUGE ditto @ookimoo don't try to greet everyone during cocktail hour.  Everyone's moving around too much (as they should), you'd definitely miss people.

It was a doctor provided by the National Health Service. Only a private doctor would have the time to give lots of tips. What is a bridal attendant?

We are having a buffet. I didn't want to start greeting people until they were all seated otherwise I thought I might miss some. But it will take a while for everyone to eat, even though  we are gaving multiple stations. I prefer buffets to plated meals because of the variety.

Just an FYI- if you are concerned for your health and your GP has said that you need more calories call up your GP and ask for a referral to an NHS dietician. It's not private in the slightest! The NHS website also has a ton of great diet info.

Are you doing one buffet line or multiple stations spread across the venue? If it's a buffet, your venue should 'release' tables so it's not a massive queue. You go through first, eat quickly and then start. 

We are releasing tables because I went to a party where they didnt do that and it was hell! I spoke to a friend who is a personal trainer who has helped me. I just have a tendency to under-eat.

Ok table greating aside- Personal trainers are not medical professionals. Did your GP say you need to eat more? If you are worried about your health to the point where you are anxious about eating late, you need to speak to a GP and a NHS registered dietician. If you chronically undereat, you really need to speak to a GP! 

Whilst trainers can give good advice for physical fitness (and food for training), they should not be offering any medical advice, especially to someone who is self admittedly having a complicated relationship with food. 

MrsJ2410

Also re: eating during the reception, I had time to eat and greet everyone, but my dress was more confining than I thought and I couldn't eat as much as I wanted to. I was glad I ate before and that my bridesmaids kept force-feeding me snacks and passed apps. Regardless of anything else, make sure to eat beforehand: breakfast, snacks, apps during cocktail hour. A million things may come up that keep you from being able to eat your meal at the reception and table visits are just one of them. 

SP29

I would suggest a receiving line into your reception/cocktail hour.

You could also do a receiving line out of the ceremony, but I agree that can be slow and guests get stuck in the pews. Where as into the reception is a little more casual with a slower trickle of guests as they each arrive.

I was also very set that I was going to sit down and eat. We did a receiving line our of our ceremony. Mind you, we had a much smaller guest list, but it was very quick. We then did additional table visits in between courses as there is quite the gap between when the B&G get served and the final guest table finishes their course.

Since you are doing a buffet and would eat first, I think you would have plenty of time to go around to the tables to do a visit then as well (I just personally prefer a receiving line).

TheMostHappy15

Oh FFS, OP I feel like you're being suuuuper dramatic about the eating thing. Not only are there literally a million ways to get the appropriate amount of calories throughout the day if you just come prepared with snacks, but it's not like you are going to die even if you do end up eating a little bit less than you should for one day of your life. Brides and grooms running through a drive through after their wedding because they didn't get enough to eat at the reception is literally so common it's almost cliche- and there's no reason it even needs to come to that if you just come prepared.

There's no point trying to get in a bunch of the greetings at the cocktail hour because you'll probably still miss at least one person at the majority of the tables and end up having to double back. If anything you should arrange it so you and you H can go off privately and eat during the cocktail hour so you don't have to worry about rushing through that to fit in the greetings over dinner.

MairePoppy

If you're worried about getting enough to eat for that one meal/one day, pack a sandwich, a nutritional beverage,  and some fruit. If your bm are getting ready with you, order sandwich and veggie platters for everyone to share. 

I vote for greeting your guests as they arrive at your reception, so you won't miss anyone.

AddieCake

I agree you're being dramatic about eating. It's ONE meal. Not saying you should go without, but your health isn't going to be "damaged" because you don't bulk up at ONE meal.

CMGragain

I watched the bride grow up over a ten year period.
I drove 4 hours to attend her big wedding, spent the night in a beach side hotel $$$, and then drove four hours home the next day..
I bought an expensive gift.  (No thank you note, either.  Her mother was furious with her! I asked her mother, 6 months after the wedding, if she had even received the gift.)
Yes, I dropped her.  No regrets.  I doubt if she even noticed.

mollybarker11

We must be sensitive to the complexity of some people's relationship to food. I think it's incredibly callous to tell a perfect stranger she's being "dramatic" when she discloses an eating-related issue.

I also don't think worrying about not getting enough time to eat or saying "I have a tendency to under-eat" are particularly dramatic to begin with.

mollybarker11

My suggestion is to take the majority of photos before your wedding, take a few more after the ceremony, then have a staff member bring you & your FI plates to eat during the remaining portion of the cocktail hour. That way you can do table visits during the reception without needing to rush your own meal.

Also second the suggestions to hire a coordinator to time your visits and escort you around so you don't lag behind, and to ensure you eat throughout the day.

charlotte989875

I was at a wedding this summer where the bride and groom didn't make it to all the tables to thank guests. You better believe family members still bring it up about how rude it was. 

banana468

mollybarker11 said:

We must be sensitive to the complexity of some people's relationship to food. I think it's incredibly callous to tell a perfect stranger she's being "dramatic" when she discloses an eating-related issue.

I also don't think worrying about not getting enough time to eat or saying "I have a tendency to under-eat" are particularly dramatic to begin with.

I think what we're saying is that she's not thinking of other alternatives.

If you have food issues then you need to do things like stock the wedding transportation with non perishable high energy snacks and water bottles, eat during cocktail hour, and then eat at the buffet fast.

No one is saying that she shouldn't eat her meal.   If tables are dismissed one at a time it's more than possible that she and her groom can grab a plate, eat it in under 10 minutes and walk the room.

She should also make as much of an effort as possible to go to tables and guests throughout the event.

If the wedding reception is hours long, there's no reason why she can't make that possible.   

southernbelle0915

You invited 345 people to this wedding. Did you really think you were going to be able to sit down and enjoy a relaxing meal? Girl please. Give yourselves 10 minutes to shovel food in your face (like many couples do - we did) and go be a good host. 

Ideas for making this happen:
- do a first look and take 90% of wedding photos beforehand. 
- thank your wedding party, their SOs, and all of your family involved in photos while you're doing group photos, even make a point to say something special to this group. Maybe that will save you some table visiting time at the reception.
- use cocktail hour to eat your dinner (arrange with caterer prior)
- use the entire dinner time to do table visits
- have a neutral 3rd party (who is assertive), like a wedding planner or venue coordinator move you from table to table. at 90 seconds, she's telling your wrap it up and move on
- move toasts right before cake cutting so that you don't use precious, seated dinner time listening to speeches

kimmiinthemitten

I have a confession, we didn't make it to every table, but we were able to have at least one of us speak to everyone.

First, we did extended family photos during cocktail hour.  So when we took the group photo with MIL and her siblings and their kids, we were able to thank them all then.  3 tables down, multiply by 4 for each side.

Then we did work tables and parent friend tables for the table visits during dinner.  Done.

We did our spotlight stuff, then broke up and thanked friends - either at the tables or by hanging out at the bar and the dance floor.  There is a way to great and thank each guest.

lyndausvi

We did a combination of things.    Mostly because even the based layout plans you are going to miss people.  Some people will skip a receiving line or will not be at the table when you come by.

We had an impromptu receiving line at the back of where the ceremony was help, which was also the bar line.  If you know our guest list, you will know that the majority of the people would hit up that line.   ::p

Then we saw people during the last part of the cocktail party.  

Then we did some table visits.  

Pretty sure I hugged and thanked people on the dance floor too.

We only had 145 people, but still was able to make a mental note that I got to everyone,

cowgirl8238

Our wedding day count was just under 80 people.  We made table visits during the dinner portion and greeted everyone.  We also ended up doing a "second round" when we took a break from the dancing portion of the reception.  We were able to spend a good amount of time with everyone...now I know my list is smaller but with a little time management I think you will be able to see everyone between the courses of your meal.

Also, when I'm at a wedding were the bride doesn't have a receiving line and doesn't do table visits it IS noticed.  People may not say it to your face, but you better believe they say it at the tables...

TheMostHappy15

mollybarker11 said:

We must be sensitive to the complexity of some people's relationship to food. I think it's incredibly callous to tell a perfect stranger she's being "dramatic" when she discloses an eating-related issue.

I also don't think worrying about not getting enough time to eat or saying "I have a tendency to under-eat" are particularly dramatic to begin with.

This is the specific statement I was referring to as dramatic:

"I don't want to damage my health by missing a meal. I've been advised to increase my calorie intake for health reasons so missing a meal isn't a good idea."

Plenty of brides are concerned with finding the time to eat during their reception, but it's elevating it to a whole other level to say it is "damaging to your health" to miss one meal. So yeah, I read that as unnecessarily dramatic in light of the later revelation that her dietary issue is simply a tendency to under eat (not that that's not something that a person should take steps to monitor and address, but I think we can all agree it's not the same as having a condition where skipping a meal would be truly catastrophic). 

My husband's entire immediate family (parents and sibling) are type one diabetics so I understand that medically speaking it is more important for some than for others to maintain a regular and reliable meal schedule. It's just hard for me to believe it wouldn't have occurred to anyone even remotely in that position to like, pack a baggie of almonds or something when they know they are in for a busy day. Which makes me think OP was just fishing for an excuse to not do table visits, TBH.

Subwayloves

You have to either do a receiving line or table visits. You must make it a point to talk to and thank every single guest. You chose to have such a large wedding, and while I get this can be daunting, it must be done. 

I personally am a huge fan of receiving lines, because I also think the bride and groom should be able to enjoy their dinner. We had about 150 people, and ours took probably a maximum of 15 mins. Our ceremony and reception were at the same venue, ceremony outside, and we greeted everyone as they walked into (the only door to) the reception, so we definitely saw everyone. We also did only H and I receiving to make things go faster. If your ceremony and reception are at separate locations, this is even better, as people will be arriving at slightly different times and the line shouldn't back up horribly. 

We we also made a point to try to talk to everyone at least one more time during the reception as well. Most of the people we saw on the dance floor at least once, and when we took a break from dancing or went to get another drink, we made it a point to stop and talk to the people at the tables who weren't dancing.

With many people likely driving or flying great distances to come to your wedding, not to mention the gifts many will give you, the least you can do is attempt to at least say hi to and thank everyone individually.

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TheMostHappy15 said:

mollybarker11 said:

We must be sensitive to the complexity of some people's relationship to food. I think it's incredibly callous to tell a perfect stranger she's being "dramatic" when she discloses an eating-related issue.

I also don't think worrying about not getting enough time to eat or saying "I have a tendency to under-eat" are particularly dramatic to begin with.

This is the specific statement I was referring to as dramatic:

"I don't want to damage my health by missing a meal. I've been advised to increase my calorie intake for health reasons so missing a meal isn't a good idea."

Plenty of brides are concerned with finding the time to eat during their reception, but it's elevating it to a whole other level to say it is "damaging to your health" to miss one meal. So yeah, I read that as unnecessarily dramatic in light of the later revelation that her dietary issue is simply a tendency to under eat (not that that's not something that a person should take steps to monitor and address, but I think we can all agree it's not the same as having a condition where skipping a meal would be truly catastrophic). 

My husband's entire immediate family (parents and sibling) are type one diabetics so I understand that medically speaking it is more important for some than for others to maintain a regular and reliable meal schedule. It's just hard for me to believe it wouldn't have occurred to anyone even remotely in that position to like, pack a baggie of almonds or something when they know they are in for a busy day. Which makes me think OP was just fishing for an excuse to not do table visits, TBH.

I'm sorry I didn't realise I had to give my entire medical history to some randomner on the internet. I mentioned my health issue as a side issue and I see no need to go into any depth. If I  wanted to not speak to people at the wedding, I would just do it. I don't need confirmation from people on the internet! The purpose of the post was not to discuss my health. READ THE TITLE POST.

I wanted ideas and your posts show you are nothing but a troll. When people say TK is mean and Knotties say 'we are just being to the point,' you are the type of people that are being nasty! 

Thanks to other posters with good ideas. **Removed for ToS violation**

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southernbelle0915 said:

You invited 345 people to this wedding. Did you really think you were going to be able to sit down and enjoy a relaxing meal? Girl please. Give yourselves 10 minutes to shovel food in your face (like many couples do - we did) and go be a good host. 

Ideas for making this happen:
- do a first look and take 90% of wedding photos beforehand. 
- thank your wedding party, their SOs, and all of your family involved in photos while you're doing group photos, even make a point to say something special to this group. Maybe that will save you some table visiting time at the reception.
- use cocktail hour to eat your dinner (arrange with caterer prior)
- use the entire dinner time to do table visits
- have a neutral 3rd party (who is assertive), like a wedding planner or venue coordinator move you from table to table. at 90 seconds, she's telling your wrap it up and move on
- move toasts right before cake cutting so that you don't use precious, seated dinner time listening to speeches

Well......Girl.......my inlaws are paying and are putting together the invite list. We have about 345 responses so far but the number of invited people is about 500. My FI is part indian. So a lot more people to see than 345, if everyone responds! Lol

TheMostHappy15

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

TheMostHappy15 said:

mollybarker11 said:

We must be sensitive to the complexity of some people's relationship to food. I think it's incredibly callous to tell a perfect stranger she's being "dramatic" when she discloses an eating-related issue.

I also don't think worrying about not getting enough time to eat or saying "I have a tendency to under-eat" are particularly dramatic to begin with.

This is the specific statement I was referring to as dramatic:

"I don't want to damage my health by missing a meal. I've been advised to increase my calorie intake for health reasons so missing a meal isn't a good idea."

Plenty of brides are concerned with finding the time to eat during their reception, but it's elevating it to a whole other level to say it is "damaging to your health" to miss one meal. So yeah, I read that as unnecessarily dramatic in light of the later revelation that her dietary issue is simply a tendency to under eat (not that that's not something that a person should take steps to monitor and address, but I think we can all agree it's not the same as having a condition where skipping a meal would be truly catastrophic). 

My husband's entire immediate family (parents and sibling) are type one diabetics so I understand that medically speaking it is more important for some than for others to maintain a regular and reliable meal schedule. It's just hard for me to believe it wouldn't have occurred to anyone even remotely in that position to like, pack a baggie of almonds or something when they know they are in for a busy day. Which makes me think OP was just fishing for an excuse to not do table visits, TBH.

I'm sorry I didn't realise I had to give my entire medical history to some randomner on the internet. I mentioned my health issue as a side issue and I see no need to go into any depth. If I  wanted to not speak to people at the wedding, I would just do it. I don't need confirmation from people on the internet! The purpose of the post was not to discuss my health. READ THE TITLE POST.

I wanted ideas and your posts show you are nothing but a troll. When people say TK is mean and Knotties say 'we are just being to the point,' you are the type of people that are being nasty! 

Thanks to other posters with good ideas. **Removed for ToS violation**

Look OP, I'm really sorry if I hurt your feelings. I promise I am a nice person and not a troll. The honest truth is that yes, your statement about skipping a meal being damaging to your health read as dramatic to apparently a significant number of posters on this thread (judging from the number of love-its my post got). That doesn't mean we don't like you or don't want to help you! I even recommended that you eat during the cocktail hour to give yourself more time, which I think was very constructive and un-troll-like advice, lol.

You are the one who brought up your medical history, so you can't get mad at us for commenting on it when you brought it into the discussion. We only have the information you give us, and it is your right to only give us the amount of information you want to but then you can't blame us for not having the whole story. You shouldn't have brought up your health issue at all if you didn't want people commenting on it, especially because it does not appear to actually be relevant to your question since literally no one suggested you entirely skip eating all day. 

Anyway, no need to name call or get all flouncy about this. I think you've gotten some great advice and seriously wish you the best of luck with your wedding.

southernbelle0915

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

You invited 345 people to this wedding. Did you really think you were going to be able to sit down and enjoy a relaxing meal? Girl please. Give yourselves 10 minutes to shovel food in your face (like many couples do - we did) and go be a good host. 

Ideas for making this happen:
- do a first look and take 90% of wedding photos beforehand. 
- thank your wedding party, their SOs, and all of your family involved in photos while you're doing group photos, even make a point to say something special to this group. Maybe that will save you some table visiting time at the reception.
- use cocktail hour to eat your dinner (arrange with caterer prior)
- use the entire dinner time to do table visits
- have a neutral 3rd party (who is assertive), like a wedding planner or venue coordinator move you from table to table. at 90 seconds, she's telling your wrap it up and move on
- move toasts right before cake cutting so that you don't use precious, seated dinner time listening to speeches

Well......Girl.......my inlaws are paying and are putting together the invite list. We have about 345 responses so far but the number of invited people is about 500. My FI is part indian. So a lot more people to see than 345, if everyo! Lol

IDGAF what nationality you are or what your husband is. You're an adult who agreed to accept money that came with strings/hundreds of guests. You have other priorities (like food or not thanking people), pay for your wedding yourself and eat a 6 course meal prepared by your nutritionist with exactly the number of calories you need. lol Jesus.

You came here asking for help. I gave you 6 solid ideas on how to help your situation, which is exactly what you asked for. So you can chill with the snark. Oh and you're welcome. 

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southernbelle0915 said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

You invited 345 people to this wedding. Did you really think you were going to be able to sit down and enjoy a relaxing meal? Girl please. Give yourselves 10 minutes to shovel food in your face (like many couples do - we did) and go be a good host. 

Ideas for making this happen:
- do a first look and take 90% of wedding photos beforehand. 
- thank your wedding party, their SOs, and all of your family involved in photos while you're doing group photos, even make a point to say something special to this group. Maybe that will save you some table visiting time at the reception.
- use cocktail hour to eat your dinner (arrange with caterer prior)
- use the entire dinner time to do table visits
- have a neutral 3rd party (who is assertive), like a wedding planner or venue coordinator move you from table to table. at 90 seconds, she's telling your wrap it up and move on
- move toasts right before cake cutting so that you don't use precious, seated dinner time listening to speeches

Well......Girl.......my inlaws are paying and are putting together the invite list. We have about 345 responses so far but the number of invited people is about 500. My FI is part indian. So a lot more people to see than 345, if everyo! Lol

IDGAF what nationality you are or what your husband is. You're an adult who agreed to accept money that came with strings/hundreds of guests. You have other priorities (like food or not thanking people), pay for your wedding yourself and eat a 6 course meal prepared by your nutritionist with exactly the number of calories you need. lol Jesus.

You came here asking for help. I gave you 6 solid ideas on how to help your situation, which is exactly what you asked for. So you can chill with the snark. Oh and you're welcome. 

What are you talking about? How was I being snarky. I don't know what your problem is?

DrillSergeantCat

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

You invited 345 people to this wedding. Did you really think you were going to be able to sit down and enjoy a relaxing meal? Girl please. Give yourselves 10 minutes to shovel food in your face (like many couples do - we did) and go be a good host. 

Ideas for making this happen:
- do a first look and take 90% of wedding photos beforehand. 
- thank your wedding party, their SOs, and all of your family involved in photos while you're doing group photos, even make a point to say something special to this group. Maybe that will save you some table visiting time at the reception.
- use cocktail hour to eat your dinner (arrange with caterer prior)
- use the entire dinner time to do table visits
- have a neutral 3rd party (who is assertive), like a wedding planner or venue coordinator move you from table to table. at 90 seconds, she's telling your wrap it up and move on
- move toasts right before cake cutting so that you don't use precious, seated dinner time listening to speeches

Well......Girl.......my inlaws are paying and are putting together the invite list. We have about 345 responses so far but the number of invited people is about 500. My FI is part indian. So a lot more people to see than 345, if everyo! Lol

IDGAF what nationality you are or what your husband is. You're an adult who agreed to accept money that came with strings/hundreds of guests. You have other priorities (like food or not thanking people), pay for your wedding yourself and eat a 6 course meal prepared by your nutritionist with exactly the number of calories you need. lol Jesus.

You came here asking for help. I gave you 6 solid ideas on how to help your situation, which is exactly what you asked for. So you can chill with the snark. Oh and you're welcome. 

What are you talking about? How was I being snarky. I don't know what your problem is?

Ummm....your post saying you were ignoring the idiots was extremely snarky. How do you not see that?

southernbelle0915

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

You invited 345 people to this wedding. Did you really think you were going to be able to sit down and enjoy a relaxing meal? Girl please. Give yourselves 10 minutes to shovel food in your face (like many couples do - we did) and go be a good host. 

Ideas for making this happen:
- do a first look and take 90% of wedding photos beforehand. 
- thank your wedding party, their SOs, and all of your family involved in photos while you're doing group photos, even make a point to say something special to this group. Maybe that will save you some table visiting time at the reception.
- use cocktail hour to eat your dinner (arrange with caterer prior)
- use the entire dinner time to do table visits
- have a neutral 3rd party (who is assertive), like a wedding planner or venue coordinator move you from table to table. at 90 seconds, she's telling your wrap it up and move on
- move toasts right before cake cutting so that you don't use precious, seated dinner time listening to speeches

Well......Girl.......my inlaws are paying and are putting together the invite list. We have about 345 responses so far but the number of invited people is about 500. My FI is part indian. So a lot more people to see than 345, if everyo! Lol

IDGAF what nationality you are or what your husband is. You're an adult who agreed to accept money that came with strings/hundreds of guests. You have other priorities (like food or not thanking people), pay for your wedding yourself and eat a 6 course meal prepared by your nutritionist with exactly the number of calories you need. lol Jesus.

You came here asking for help. I gave you 6 solid ideas on how to help your situation, which is exactly what you asked for. So you can chill with the snark. Oh and you're welcome. 

What are you talking about? How was I being snarky. I don't know what your problem is?

me: "....girl please...."
you: "well........girl.....my inlaws blah blah blah"

That is snark. 

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DrillSergeantCat said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

You invited 345 people to this wedding. Did you really think you were going to be able to sit down and enjoy a relaxing meal? Girl please. Give yourselves 10 minutes to shovel food in your face (like many couples do - we did) and go be a good host. 

Ideas for making this happen:
- do a first look and take 90% of wedding photos beforehand. 
- thank your wedding party, their SOs, and all of your family involved in photos while you're doing group photos, even make a point to say something special to this group. Maybe that will save you some table visiting time at the reception.
- use cocktail hour to eat your dinner (arrange with caterer prior)
- use the entire dinner time to do table visits
- have a neutral 3rd party (who is assertive), like a wedding planner or venue coordinator move you from table to table. at 90 seconds, she's telling your wrap it up and move on
- move toasts right before cake cutting so that you don't use precious, seated dinner time listening to speeches

Well......Girl.......my inlaws are paying and are putting together the invite list. We have about 345 responses so far but the number of invited people is about 500. My FI is part indian. So a lot more people to see than 345, if everyo! Lol

IDGAF what nationality you are or what your husband is. You're an adult who agreed to accept money that came with strings/hundreds of guests. You have other priorities (like food or not thanking people), pay for your wedding yourself and eat a 6 course meal prepared by your nutritionist with exactly the number of calories you need. lol Jesus.

You came here asking for help. I gave you 6 solid ideas on how to help your situation, which is exactly what you asked for. So you can chill with the snark. Oh and you're welcome. 

What are you talking about? How was I being snarky. I don't know what your problem is?

Ummm....your post saying you were ignoring the idiots was extremely snarky. How do you not see that?

That was directed too a particular poster. So people are rude to me and I respond accordingly......and I'm snarky?

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southernbelle0915 said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

Knottie41d38a3ac4fa8525 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

You invited 345 people to this wedding. Did you really think you were going to be able to sit down and enjoy a relaxing meal? Girl please. Give yourselves 10 minutes to shovel food in your face (like many couples do - we did) and go be a good host. 

Ideas for making this happen:
- do a first look and take 90% of wedding photos beforehand. 
- thank your wedding party, their SOs, and all of your family involved in photos while you're doing group photos, even make a point to say something special to this group. Maybe that will save you some table visiting time at the reception.
- use cocktail hour to eat your dinner (arrange with caterer prior)
- use the entire dinner time to do table visits
- have a neutral 3rd party (who is assertive), like a wedding planner or venue coordinator move you from table to table. at 90 seconds, she's telling your wrap it up and move on
- move toasts right before cake cutting so that you don't use precious, seated dinner time listening to speeches

Well......Girl.......my inlaws are paying and are putting together the invite list. We have about 345 responses so far but the number of invited people is about 500. My FI is part indian. So a lot more people to see than 345, if everyo! Lol

IDGAF what nationality you are or what your husband is. You're an adult who agreed to accept money that came with strings/hundreds of guests. You have other priorities (like food or not thanking people), pay for your wedding yourself and eat a 6 course meal prepared by your nutritionist with exactly the number of calories you need. lol Jesus.

You came here asking for help. I gave you 6 solid ideas on how to help your situation, which is exactly what you asked for. So you can chill with the snark. Oh and you're welcome. 

What are you talking about? How was I being snarky. I don't know what your problem is?

me: "....girl please...."
you: "well........girl.....my inlaws blah blah blah"

That is snark. 

That's just me.........talking and responding to you.