My fiance and I have been having some problems when keeping in communication with one of his groomsmen. We have been trying to get him to send his measurements for his tux. My fiance has had multiple failed attempts at reaching him throughout this time frame, and even the best man has only heard that he would send his information over. But as we are starting to get closer to the wedding I'm wondering when we need to ask him to consider stepping down. I already had a bridesman step down due to financial issues and we are now even (we previously had 7 bridesmaids and 6 groomsmen). So I guess I am just worried about a good idea of when we need to let him know to step down?
Re: Groomsman MIA
If you're ordering them, you should send him a last email with "we need your measurements by x date so we can order the tux." Honestly, I'd also add that he can order it himself at x retailer.
If if he does not show up in the appropriate attire at the wedding, then he has removed himself.
At 80 days out, you have nearly 2 months for him to get his measurements to the shop. It's not that difficult to do.
Relax on this one.
You should not kick him out, even if he doesn't get the measurements in time. Yea, the decent thing to do is to respond to things, but you should let it go. If he doesn't send the measurements, he can find it on his own. If he doesn't do that and shows up to the wedding in something else, then it's up to you guys what happens then - either tell him "sorry, but you didn't meet the one requirement of a GM so I take this as you removing yourself from the WP" or going ahead and letting him walk down the aisle in whatever. If he doesn't show up appropriately dressed, you are within your rights to tell him he's no longer in the party because he removed himself.
I planned my wedding in two months! He can rent his tux in much less time. Relax.
As PP said, if he doesn't have the tux that day, then he's kind of removed himself. Don't worry about it, he'll figure it out.
If he gets the tux he's in. If he doesn't, he's not.
None of this should make or break any plans.
Are the GMs having custom tuxes made?
Are you paying for them? Or are the GMs paying?
If they're paying, did you ask (privately) for budgets ahead of time?
You've been trying to get in touch with him about this for 3 months and your wedding is 80 days out. That's almost 6 months. If you're getting custom tuxes made, then I get it. But if you're renting, that seems like an excessive amount of lead time.
Other than that, if this your FI's good friend, I'd be more worried about why his friend hasn't responded to him in 3 months. Take the wedding out of it and make sure everything else is going OK for him.
Also, why are you inserting yourself in a friend issue that is clearly between your fi and him? If your fi is old enough to get married he is old enough to handle his friendships on his own.
This is not your issue. Stop making drama for yourself.