Sad Bride, Advice NEEDED - Venue Disaster.

Ro041

Along251 said:

Ro041 said:

Along251 said:

Thank you so much for understanding. Honestly, I appreciate the kindness.

I swear I'm not being crazy but yes, I AM upset. That doesn't meant I'm not trying to find solutions or being proactive, idk why everyone feels I'm being unreasonable.  Some brides would literally curse out the girl who made this mistake and throw a fit, I'm literally sitting here crying because I don't know how to fix it and don't have much time to devote to fixing it. I'm overwhelmed, I'm not being a bitch.

I'm definitely going to take your advice and I'll do that and get it in writing.

Some of you have been straight-up hateful, i don't know what you're doing on this website like that's not helpful at all.

"idk why everyone feels I'm being unreasonable."  I just went back and read the comments and NO ONE has been hateful or said you were being unreasonable.  In fact, all the commenters have pretty much universally agreed that you have the right to be upset.  And then we went to the task of helping you figure out what to do about it.  

And just because some brides would be assholes and curse someone out, doesn't mean you get any special treatment for not acting like that.  It's just being a decent human being, which it sounds like you are trying to do.  

I tried to go back and find where LondonLisa was telling me to suck it up, put my big girl panties on, stop crying in my house and go out and do something about it, among others, but when I went back to quote and share those comments, they had been edited away.

So just because you didn't see it, doesn't mean it didn't happen.  

No....I saw it.  She told you to put on your big girl knickers and go and ask about the refund/escalate to management.  The comment is still there (You can ctrl+f "knickers" and you will find it).  Changing posts after posting is considered rude here, so I highly doubt LondonLisa changed her post substantively without noting it (You will see commenters say things like "ETA" which means Edited to Add and indicates to the reader that it wasn't in the original comment).  

So yes, she did say that.  Was she sugar coating anything for you?  No.  But she gave good advice to start making calls and asking questions.  That doesn't make her hateful.  

levioosa

Along251 said:

Ro041 said:

Along251 said:

Thank you so much for understanding. Honestly, I appreciate the kindness.

I swear I'm not being crazy but yes, I AM upset. That doesn't meant I'm not trying to find solutions or being proactive, idk why everyone feels I'm being unreasonable.  Some brides would literally curse out the girl who made this mistake and throw a fit, I'm literally sitting here crying because I don't know how to fix it and don't have much time to devote to fixing it. I'm overwhelmed, I'm not being a bitch.

I'm definitely going to take your advice and I'll do that and get it in writing.

Some of you have been straight-up hateful, i don't know what you're doing on this website like that's not helpful at all.

"idk why everyone feels I'm being unreasonable."  I just went back and read the comments and NO ONE has been hateful or said you were being unreasonable.  In fact, all the commenters have pretty much universally agreed that you have the right to be upset.  And then we went to the task of helping you figure out what to do about it.  

And just because some brides would be assholes and curse someone out, doesn't mean you get any special treatment for not acting like that.  It's just being a decent human being, which it sounds like you are trying to do.  

I tried to go back and find where LondonLisa was telling me to suck it up, put my big girl panties on, stop crying in my house and go out and do something about it, among others, but when I went back to quote and share those comments, they had been edited away.

So just because you didn't see it, doesn't mean it didn't happen.  

LondonLisa told you to "put your big girl knickers on" because yes, you are acting silly by crying about it without trying to take any real action.  That's not hateful. That's real world advice.  Sometimes shitty things happen, and yeah, you have to put on your adult pants and deal with it head-on.  She didn't "edit out" her comments, I can still see them and there is nothing hateful or against TOS there.  She's also a longtime poster here with great advice.  

And you don't get a cookie for not acting like other "asshole brides" and cursing people out.  People have been helpful here.  They have given you advice.  Personally, I think it would be great fun to have a street fair outside of a wedding as a guest.  

LondonLisa

Along251 said:

Ro041 said:

Along251 said:

Thank you so much for understanding. Honestly, I appreciate the kindness.

I swear I'm not being crazy but yes, I AM upset. That doesn't meant I'm not trying to find solutions or being proactive, idk why everyone feels I'm being unreasonable.  Some brides would literally curse out the girl who made this mistake and throw a fit, I'm literally sitting here crying because I don't know how to fix it and don't have much time to devote to fixing it. I'm overwhelmed, I'm not being a bitch.

I'm definitely going to take your advice and I'll do that and get it in writing.

Some of you have been straight-up hateful, i don't know what you're doing on this website like that's not helpful at all.

"idk why everyone feels I'm being unreasonable."  I just went back and read the comments and NO ONE has been hateful or said you were being unreasonable.  In fact, all the commenters have pretty much universally agreed that you have the right to be upset.  And then we went to the task of helping you figure out what to do about it.  

And just because some brides would be assholes and curse someone out, doesn't mean you get any special treatment for not acting like that.  It's just being a decent human being, which it sounds like you are trying to do.  

I tried to go back and find where LondonLisa was telling me to suck it up, put my big girl panties on, stop crying in my house and go out and do something about it, among others, but when I went back to quote and share those comments, they had been edited away.

So just because you didn't see it, doesn't mean it didn't happen.  

That's not what I said in the slightest nor did I edit it. I said that it's ok to be upset but you can't expect crying to solve it. It's easy to panic and freak out but that this is a solvable situation. 

Put it your big girl knickers on means essentially have a word with yourself, because you are in a time crunch and you haven't spoken with a manager. You yourself said you were crying and in a panic.  Here it is verbatim: 'You need to put on big girl knickers and figure out what the situation actually is. You still don't know if they'll refund you. Or if they'll compensate you. Etc'

The only hateful comment I've seen is your nasty snark on 'housewives'. 

mrsconn23

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

LondonLisa

And I will say sometimes I edit to fix autocorrects and forget to put ETA, but I know the etiquette on here with regards to deleting. I completely stand by what I said. Your post reads panic/emergency/disaster when in reality you have a fixable situation. Does it suck? Yes. But that's adulthood. Best laid plans and all... 

Ro041

@LondonLisa - we all know you wouldn't substantively change comments without noting it.  

kaos16

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I feel like this could be fun.  How can you incorporate the street fair into your wedding?

If there are food carts or vendors maybe you can speak to the fair coordinator about getting a great one near your reception, and throwing down some money for your guests to use it.  I picture Mister Softee pulling up after dinner for example. 

Take a page from New Orleans and have a fun little parade through the fair to your ceremony. 

Make lemonade. . . . .

mrsconn23

kaos16 said:

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I feel like this could be fun.  How can you incorporate the street fair into your wedding?

I AGREE! Most people ooh and ahhh (or d'awww!) when they see a wedding/wedding party.  

kimmiinthemitten

mrsconn23 said:

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

Especially over a holiday weekend like Labor Day.

levioosa

kimmiinthemitten said:

mrsconn23 said:

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

Especially over a holiday weekend like Labor Day.

Oh...yeah...I didn't even realize that.  I'm a bad SO.  September 3rd is SO's bday and we always go on a long holiday.  Oops. Lol.  For real though...the wedding is on labor day weekend....and OP didn't check events? 

LondonLisa

kimmiinthemitten said:

mrsconn23 said:

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

Especially over a holiday weekend like Labor Day.

Jesus tapdancing Christ- It's a holiday weekend in America?! My goodness what did you expect? 

I really dont think this is a disaster. It's not like it's the international bagpipe championships on one side and funeral on the other. You do realise people enjoy street fairs. Why not turn into the skid and make your cocktail hour a mini street festival: serve street food canapés, craft beer, lawn games like pub jenga or croquet, etc. Your photos will be hilarious. Grab your bridal party and jump on the carousel or in the dodge'ems. 

short+sassy

kaos16 said:

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I feel like this could be fun.  How can you incorporate the street fair into your wedding?

If there are food carts or vendors maybe you can speak to the fair coordinator about getting a great one near your reception, and throwing down some money for your guests to use it.  I picture Mister Softee pulling up after dinner for example. 

Take a page from New Orleans and have a fun little parade through the fair to your ceremony. 

Make lemonade. . . . .

This is exactly what I was thinking!  You're upset.  I'm assuming you pictured a beautiful, intimate, quiet garden setting.  And now you'll be getting just the opposite.  I'd be really pi**ed off also that the venue hadn't mentioned this big festival.  Though, I think a bit of fault lies with you also for not looking into major goings on in your area.

But people have great suggestions on seeing some silver linings.  This can add a festive atmosphere.  Some of your guests might think its a great opportunity to go after-party at the festival.

I live in NOLA and @kaos16's imagery is spot-on.  You'll occasionally see a bridal couple, with their guests in tow, just bopping down Bourbon St. in a second-line on a Sat. night.  People will clear a path and yell out cheers and congratulations.  It's pretty fun.  

I'm sorry this isn't what you were bargaining for, but it sounds like a pretty location that does have a lot of nice attributes.  I'd try to make the best of a bad situation.

kimmiinthemitten

LondonLisa said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

mrsconn23 said:

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

Especially over a holiday weekend like Labor Day.

Jesus tapdancing Christ- It's a holiday weekend in America?! My goodness what did you expect? 

I really dont think this is a disaster. It's not like it's the international bagpipe championships on one side and funeral on the other. You do realise people enjoy street fairs. Why not turn into the skid and make your cocktail hour a mini street festival: serve street food canapés, craft beer, lawn games like pub jenga or croquet, etc. Your photos will be hilarious. Grab your bridal party and jump on the carousel or in the dodge'ems. 

I have no idea what either of these are but I always read your posts with a British accent in my head so I love whatever they are.

LondonLisa

kimmiinthemitten said:

LondonLisa said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

mrsconn23 said:

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

Especially over a holiday weekend like Labor Day.

Jesus tapdancing Christ- It's a holiday weekend in America?! My goodness what did you expect? 

I really dont think this is a disaster. It's not like it's the international bagpipe championships on one side and funeral on the other. You do realise people enjoy street fairs. Why not turn into the skid and make your cocktail hour a mini street festival: serve street food canapés, craft beer, lawn games like pub jenga or croquet, etc. Your photos will be hilarious. Grab your bridal party and jump on the carousel or in the dodge'ems. 

I have no idea what either of these are but I always read your posts with a British accent in my head so I love whatever they are.

Ha! I'll translate.

1.) turn into the skid is a phrase that means when something goes bad, lean into it. It's from if your driving and your car hits ice you're supposed to turn your wheel into the direction of how you car is sliding instead of fighting it. 

2.) I'm sure you have dodge'ems in America. It's a funfair game where everyone is in little cars and you try to hit each other 

We really are two countries separated by the same language 

mrsconn23

LondonLisa said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

LondonLisa said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

mrsconn23 said:

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

Especially over a holiday weekend like Labor Day.

Jesus tapdancing Christ- It's a holiday weekend in America?! My goodness what did you expect? 

I really dont think this is a disaster. It's not like it's the international bagpipe championships on one side and funeral on the other. You do realise people enjoy street fairs. Why not turn into the skid and make your cocktail hour a mini street festival: serve street food canapés, craft beer, lawn games like pub jenga or croquet, etc. Your photos will be hilarious. Grab your bridal party and jump on the carousel or in the dodge'ems. 

I have no idea what either of these are but I always read your posts with a British accent in my head so I love whatever they are.

Ha! I'll translate.

1.) turn into the skid is a phrase that means when something goes bad, lean into it. It's from if your driving and your car hits ice you're supposed to turn your wheel into the direction of how you car is sliding instead of fighting it. 

2.) I'm sure you have dodge'ems in America. It's a funfair game where everyone is in little cars and you try to hit each other 

We really are two countries separated by the same language 

Bumper cars.   

bleve0821

mrsconn23 said: 

LondonLisa said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

LondonLisa said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

mrsconn23 said:

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

Especially over a holiday weekend like Labor Day.

Jesus tapdancing Christ- It's a holiday weekend in America?! My goodness what did you expect? 

I really dont think this is a disaster. It's not like it's the international bagpipe championships on one side and funeral on the other. You do realise people enjoy street fairs. Why not turn into the skid and make your cocktail hour a mini street festival: serve street food canapés, craft beer, lawn games like pub jenga or croquet, etc. Your photos will be hilarious. Grab your bridal party and jump on the carousel or in the dodge'ems. 

I have no idea what either of these are but I always read your posts with a British accent in my head so I love whatever they are.

Ha! I'll translate.

1.) turn into the skid is a phrase that means when something goes bad, lean into it. It's from if your driving and your car hits ice you're supposed to turn your wheel into the direction of how you car is sliding instead of fighting it. 

2.) I'm sure you have dodge'ems in America. It's a funfair game where everyone is in little cars and you try to hit each other 

We really are two countries separated by the same language 

Bumper cars.   

They will now and forever after be called dodge 'ems in my house.

But in all seriousness, PP have given you great advice.  If you don't want to embrace the street fair and add a little extra zing to your wedding, take tonight to calm down, have a glass of wine (or 6) and figure out how you're going to talk to the coordinators at your venue. Because nothing will be solved if you don't go to them and ask them, "What are my options?"  And you cannot do that in the emotionally charged state you're in now.  Trust me; been there, done that.

Where is your FI in all of this?  What are his thoughts?

ETF autocorrects

kimmiinthemitten

atomicblonde said:

mrsconn23 said: 

LondonLisa said:

Ha! I'll translate.

1.) turn into the skid is a phrase that means when something goes bad, lean into it. It's from if your driving and your car hits ice you're supposed to turn your wheel into the direction of how you car is sliding instead of fighting it. 

2.) I'm sure you have dodge'ems in America. It's a funfair game where everyone is in little cars and you try to hit each other 

We really are two countries separated by the same language 

Bumper cars.   

They will now and forever after be called dodge 'ems in my house.

I'm only attending funfairs from here on out. 

MesmrEwe

Am I the only one reading through this thinking "Turn the sound system up on your garden wedding and enjoy the street festival going on" ?!?!!!?  AND - what were your plans in case of rain?  Plan that as what you're going to do if being outside isn't an option for the ceremony.  Don't turn a mole hill into a mountain!

This is a reminder, the world doesn't stop for your wedding.  I'm more concerned about parking for your guests than I am about this street fair.  I think you could turn it into a great spin for the cocktail hour by incorporating it in (i.e. talk with the organizers if they've got any strolling magicians/entertainers and contract with them for a 20-minute appearance)..  Also, check the schedule, maybe you can adjust your start time so it's when their event is winding down.  

Have a cupcake and beverage of choice, realize plans change, it's all about how you adjust.  I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater on this venue, I'd clarify what your parking situation for your guests is because that may be your "in" for any further negotiations with management only!  

flantastic

MesmrEwe said:

Am I the only one reading through this thinking "Turn the sound system up on your garden wedding and enjoy the street festival going on" ?!?!!!?  AND - what were your plans in case of rain?  Plan that as what you're going to do if being outside isn't an option for the ceremony.  Don't turn a mole hill into a mountain!

This is a reminder, the world doesn't stop for your wedding.  I'm more concerned about parking for your guests than I am about this street fair.  I think you could turn it into a great spin for the cocktail hour by incorporating it in (i.e. talk with the organizers if they've got any strolling magicians/entertainers and contract with them for a 20-minute appearance)..  Also, check the schedule, maybe you can adjust your start time so it's when their event is winding down.  

Have a cupcake and beverage of choice, realize plans change, it's all about how you adjust.  I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater on this venue, I'd clarify what your parking situation for your guests is because that may be your "in" for any further negotiations with management only!  

THE BOLDED. There was always a possibility it wasn't going to be ideal anyway and you'd have had to adjust.

TrixieJess

Along251 said:

Ro041 said:

Along251 said:

Thank you so much for understanding. Honestly, I appreciate the kindness.

I swear I'm not being crazy but yes, I AM upset. That doesn't meant I'm not trying to find solutions or being proactive, idk why everyone feels I'm being unreasonable.  Some brides would literally curse out the girl who made this mistake and throw a fit, I'm literally sitting here crying because I don't know how to fix it and don't have much time to devote to fixing it. I'm overwhelmed, I'm not being a bitch.

I'm definitely going to take your advice and I'll do that and get it in writing.

Some of you have been straight-up hateful, i don't know what you're doing on this website like that's not helpful at all.

"idk why everyone feels I'm being unreasonable."  I just went back and read the comments and NO ONE has been hateful or said you were being unreasonable.  In fact, all the commenters have pretty much universally agreed that you have the right to be upset.  And then we went to the task of helping you figure out what to do about it.  

And just because some brides would be assholes and curse someone out, doesn't mean you get any special treatment for not acting like that.  It's just being a decent human being, which it sounds like you are trying to do.  

I tried to go back and find where LondonLisa was telling me to suck it up, put my big girl panties on, stop crying in my house and go out and do something about it, among others, but when I went back to quote and share those comments, they had been edited away.

So just because you didn't see it, doesn't mean it didn't happen.  

Ummm, that's not hateful, that's some damn good advice! You need a chill pill, a margarita and to get laid, not necessarily in that order.

You've been given good advice, it's your choice whether you want to take it or keep throwing your pity party.

TrixieJess

mrsconn23 said:

kaos16 said:

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I feel like this could be fun.  How can you incorporate the street fair into your wedding?

I AGREE! Most people ooh and ahhh (or d'awww!) when they see a wedding/wedding party.  

I considered having my wedding in a place that does Oktoberfest for the fact that people would buy us beer. 

southernbelle0915

kaos16 said:

Maybe I'm in the minority, but I feel like this could be fun.  How can you incorporate the street fair into your wedding?

If there are food carts or vendors maybe you can speak to the fair coordinator about getting a great one near your reception, and throwing down some money for your guests to use it.  I picture Mister Softee pulling up after dinner for example. 

Take a page from New Orleans and have a fun little parade through the fair to your ceremony. 

Make lemonade. . . . .

I really love the attitude of making the best of the situation. And you're right - this definitely could be fun for a lot of people. Personally, I'm not really a festival kind of person - loud and crowded scenes make me really anxious. Because of that, I don't think I'd be able to relax and truly enjoy the day. 

There's an annual BBQ and bourbon event by us that has live bands. It's always super crowded, you can literally barely hear the person next to you and it takes 10 minutes to move 50 feet. Literally the only reason I even consider going is because bbq and bourbon. But if it were an event like that, I 100% understand throwing in the towel and finding a new venue vs. trying to make it work.

Heffalump

So I'm a little late here, but yeah: I get the feeling that the OP just isn't in a place where she's ready to get her head together.  And I think she wants to take it out on this board, for whatever reason.  But this is good advice, and whether or not it helps her, I'm sure it will help some lurker(s), sooner or later.

For me, I read it and was like "Damn, that sucks!"  Then I started reading her responses and it was more

kimmiinthemitten

Heffalump said:

So I'm a little late here, but yeah: I get the feeling that the OP just isn't in a place where she's ready to get her head together.  And I think she wants to take it out on this board, for whatever reason.  But this is good advice, and whether or not it helps her, I'm sure it will help some lurker(s), sooner or later.

For me, I read it and was like "Damn, that sucks!"  Then I started reading her responses and it was more

To the bolded, I got that impression too.  She made sure to point out just how  nice she was to the venue coordinator while lashing out here as though she needed a place to release that anger.

CharmedPam

LondonLisa said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

mrsconn23 said:

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

Especially over a holiday weekend like Labor Day.

Jesus tapdancing Christ- It's a holiday weekend in America?! My goodness what did you expect? 

I really dont think this is a disaster. It's not like it's the international bagpipe championships on one side and funeral on the other. You do realise people enjoy street fairs. Why not turn into the skid and make your cocktail hour a mini street festival: serve street food canapés, craft beer, lawn games like pub jenga or croquet, etc. Your photos will be hilarious. Grab your bridal party and jump on the carousel or in the dodge'ems. 

Well, great.  Now I wish my wedding happened during a street festival. 

sparklepants41

CharmedPam said:

LondonLisa said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

mrsconn23 said:

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

Especially over a holiday weekend like Labor Day.

Jesus tapdancing Christ- It's a holiday weekend in America?! My goodness what did you expect? 

I really dont think this is a disaster. It's not like it's the international bagpipe championships on one side and funeral on the other. You do realise people enjoy street fairs. Why not turn into the skid and make your cocktail hour a mini street festival: serve street food canapés, craft beer, lawn games like pub jenga or croquet, etc. Your photos will be hilarious. Grab your bridal party and jump on the carousel or in the dodge'ems. 

Well, great.  Now I wish my wedding happened during a street festival. 

Same. I think this means we get redos. 

bleve0821

CharmedPam said:

LondonLisa said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

mrsconn23 said:

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

Especially over a holiday weekend like Labor Day.

Jesus tapdancing Christ- It's a holiday weekend in America?! My goodness what did you expect? 

I really dont think this is a disaster. It's not like it's the international bagpipe championships on one side and funeral on the other. You do realise people enjoy street fairs. Why not turn into the skid and make your cocktail hour a mini street festival: serve street food canapés, craft beer, lawn games like pub jenga or croquet, etc. Your photos will be hilarious. Grab your bridal party and jump on the carousel or in the dodge'ems. 

Well, great.  Now I wish my wedding happened during a street festival. 

Do over!!!  Doesn't count.

short+sassy

atomicblonde said:

CharmedPam said:

LondonLisa said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

mrsconn23 said:

Putting your big girl panties on = adulting 

No one is telling you not to be upset or not to feel any feelings you're having.  But sitting there and just emoting is not action.  And at this time, you need action.  You need to figure out how you're going to make this situation work for you. 

I also agree with @levioosa, though.  It's not necessarily the venue's fault you didn't know about the festival.  They probably weren't legally under any obligation to tell you if they're not hosting or sponsoring said event.  Would it have been helpful?  Sure.  But, I can look up almost any town around me online and see a calendar of events for the year.  Therefore, ignorance isn't really a defense.  

Especially over a holiday weekend like Labor Day.

Jesus tapdancing Christ- It's a holiday weekend in America?! My goodness what did you expect? 

I really dont think this is a disaster. It's not like it's the international bagpipe championships on one side and funeral on the other. You do realise people enjoy street fairs. Why not turn into the skid and make your cocktail hour a mini street festival: serve street food canapés, craft beer, lawn games like pub jenga or croquet, etc. Your photos will be hilarious. Grab your bridal party and jump on the carousel or in the dodge'ems. 

Well, great.  Now I wish my wedding happened during a street festival. 

Do over!!!  Doesn't count.

Speaking of (going a little off topic), there is a huge festival (Jazz Fest) coming up in my area and a newspaper article was highlighting people who have their weddings at this festival.  I had no idea that was a "thing", lol.

But my TK mind wants to know!  Do the couples usually pay the admission for their guests?  They should, but that's $60/pop, so I suspect they often don't.  And what about food/drinks?  That will be problematic, at best, for a myriad of reasons.  Of course, the article was just pretty pictures and "oh, how fun!"  No logistics discussed.

bleve0821

short+sassy said:

Speaking of (going a little off topic), there is a huge festival (Jazz Fest) coming up in my area and a newspaper article was highlighting people who have their weddings at this festival.  I had no idea that was a "thing", lol.

But my TK mind wants to know!  Do the couples usually pay the admission for their guests?  They should, but that's $60/pop, so I suspect they often don't.  And what about food/drinks?  That will be problematic, at best, for a myriad of reasons.  Of course, the article was just pretty pictures and "oh, how fun!"  No logistics discussed.

I LOVE Jazz Fest.  But I don't think having a wedding reception by itself (let alone a ceremony!) at Jazz Fest is a good idea, even in theory.  I think the paper is making things up.  

And as for the "pretty pictures".... Well, every year I went, it was always a giant mud pit.  So if by "pretty pictures" you mean shots of guests looking like mud-goblins... Sure, why the hell not?

short+sassy

atomicblonde said:

short+sassy said:

Speaking of (going a little off topic), there is a huge festival (Jazz Fest) coming up in my area and a newspaper article was highlighting people who have their weddings at this festival.  I had no idea that was a "thing", lol.

But my TK mind wants to know!  Do the couples usually pay the admission for their guests?  They should, but that's $60/pop, so I suspect they often don't.  And what about food/drinks?  That will be problematic, at best, for a myriad of reasons.  Of course, the article was just pretty pictures and "oh, how fun!"  No logistics discussed.

I LOVE Jazz Fest.  But I don't think having a wedding reception by itself (let alone a ceremony!) at Jazz Fest is a good idea, even in theory.  I think the paper is making things up.  

And as for the "pretty pictures".... Well, every year I went, it was always a giant mud pit.  So if by "pretty pictures" you mean shots of guests looking like mud-goblins... Sure, why the hell not?

Actually, apparently, the "Gospel Stage" is used for wedding ceremonies at various times of the day.  It was mostly pics of couples saying their vows on that stage and they didn't look like mud-goblins...yet, lol.  As I'm sure you could picture for the kind of couples who would want to get married at Jazz Fest, it was more casual clothing.  Flowers in the hair instead of veils.  White sundresses instead of bridal gowns.

Definitely nothing with a train or cathedral length, lol.  OMG, could you imagine!?!  For those of you haven't been.  The festival is held on the interior field of a racetrack.  Yes, lots of mud, especially if its been raining.

I live two blocks away.  I can usually hear the Gentilly Stage from my porch.  It's fun!  But I pretty much sequester myself and won't drive anywhere for those two weekends.  The traffic is insane, plus I don't have off street parking.