Hello lovelies! I have been looking for an answer to this question for a few days now and can't seem to find any good references anywhere online. So here's the situation: in my wedding this upcoming fall (October - yay!), we will have 4 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen. Easy, right? Yes. BUT, we're also including my two male cousins as ushers and my female cousin as a program attendant, separate from the 4 groomsmen and 4 bridesmaids. They will be dressed like the wedding party; the ushers will have the same tuxes as the groomsmen, they just will only wear the vest (no jacket), and the program attendant has the same color dress as the bridesmaids but in a different neckline style.
Here's my issue: My mom thinks that since the ushers & program attendant are dressed like the wedding party, they should be introduced into the reception like the rest of the wedding party. Side note: they are recognized in our wedding program - they are included on the list as the "wedding attendants" under the bridesmaids and groomsmen. My fiance and I think it's a bit odd to announce them, not because we dislike them (they are my only cousins - we are both very fond of them), but because we've never seen anyone else do that, especially since ushers are traditionally doubling as groomsmen. Can I get some opinions here? As well as some advice on how to navigate either side of the argument when we do make the decision (aka how to tell my fiance that we are announcing them/how to tell my mom we aren't - both are very stubborn people
). Thanks in advance!