Hello,
So I know it's not proper/rude to send a save the date and then not send a invite but what if I don't send them a save the date but send an invite?
There's a couple people that currently I don't want to invite to my wedding but feel like when the invites need to go out I might have a change of heart
So do you knotties think I can not send them a save the date but send them an invite later?
Thanks!
Re: Invite with no save the date?
Thanks!! I will be sending all the invites out at once for sure.
I'm hoping we will be on better terms in a few months but currently as the Dixie Chicks put it years ago...
For what it's worth, we didn't send them at all.
I do think there is potential for hurt feelings if you send STDs to everyone else on your guest list, including those who are friends with the "Maybe" people, as the Maybes may find out and take it as a sign you don't plan to invite them. But obviously you know the situation best and can make that call.
A simple way to avoid any issues like that is to not bother with STDs or to only send them to a limited number of guests. E.g., those who'd need to make travel arrangements or VIPs you can't imagine having your wedding without. (For the latter it's best to tell them the dates you're considering before you book anything so they can let you know if they have any existing conflicts). Bonus: less time & money spent by you!
@mollyBarker11 not to sound mean but at this point I don't care if I hurt her feelings. She's wronged me I have told her such multiple times (and not just in anger) and she has not apologized. That's really all I need from her is an apology. So maybe not inviting her will fully make her understand I'm mad.
If you really need to invite this person to stay on good terms with your common friends, I would do so and then end the friendship after the wedding.