I find myself in a unique situation. My FSIL #1 (married to FI's brother) found out she is pregnant and due a few weeks before my wedding. She's one of my BMs and I knew she was trying to have a baby, so this didn't come at all of a surprise to me (I actually inquired about more flowy dresses when BM dress shopping with her in mind). Her and I have already discussed her still being a part of the wedding party, and I told her it's completely up to her whether or not she feels up to it with a 1-3 week old. She still wants to be involved, and I still want her in the bridal party. We can alter things the day of as needed to fit her and the baby's needs. No problem right?
Enter FMIL and FSIL #2 (FI's older sister). They are both telling her (and me) that FSIL #1 should back out and that it will be too hard for her to be a BM with a newborn. Ultimately it's up to her, and I get that, but they don't seem to.
So I guess my question is, has anyone been a BM/had a BM in their wedding with a newborn? Would it be more stressful/difficult for her on our wedding day? I don't really see it being inconvenient for her anytime other than during pictures maybe? But I'm sure we can find plenty of people to help with the baby during that time. There's ways to make it work if she still wants to be involved, IMO.
Sidenote: her husband/my FBIL is our best man, so he is also in the bridal party, which I think is why they're telling her she needs to step down. Still doesn't seem like anything we can't figure out though if she's up for it.
Thanks in advance!