This baggage needs to be unpacked to a therapist, not Prudie.

banana468

knottie6fe2cc5434160aa2 said:

I haven't made myself the lgbtq authority on anything and I welcome discussions with other gay people about our issues.

I would certainly consider myself more of an authority than the myriad of straight people who can't seem to keep their mouths shut about what the homosexuals are doing these days though.

So at least we can read between the lines at what you seek to accomplish when you insert yourself into a forum of predominately alleged "straight" women.  You don't want conversation.   You want us to be wrong. 

MissKittyDanger

Reading this knottie#s post, and I actually don't think they realize it's a Prudie letter also ....

I said it before, I'll say it again. @mrsconn23 has a lot of issues.  

charlotte989875

knottie6fe2cc5434160aa2 said:

I haven't made myself the lgbtq authority on anything and I welcome discussions with other gay people about our issues.

I would certainly consider myself more of an authority than the myriad of straight people who can't seem to keep their mouths shut about what the homosexuals are doing these days though.

I'm genuinely curious here, Knottie#s and not trying to be snarky, but you know this is a community that has frequent posting, norms, and regular posters; why do you not engage with us except to tell us we're wrong? Everyone on here is open to different perspectives, but it feels like you know this is a regular forum, but you pop in to chastise people, then leave again. I just don't get it. 

VarunaTT

Just in my observation for Knottie#s (since really, I agree with most of the advice others have offered and have nothing to add):

The regular posters, ally right.  They admit ignorance and ask genuine questions meant to learn.  And they seem to listen and learn.  I've also dealt with some of the regulars privately on LGTBQ+ issues and even sent a book to one of them to help teach their kids about LGBTQ+ issues and acceptance.  From my observations here, there's a lot of them I'd rather have standing next to me as an ally, than some people I know IRL.  They don't ask for cookies, don't expect cookies, and I haven't seen opinions on actual issues w/in the community, but questions for clarification.  There's only ever been one poster that I took some offense at; interestingly enough so did the regs and they took care of the issue.  Like allies are supposed to do when their own is farkin' up.

I'll always support queer anger; it's valid and it has a place.  It can also be misdirected.

southernbelle0915

knottie6fe2cc5434160aa2 said:

Wasn't excusing his behaviour, just noting for the people insisting that he had an obligation to disclose his sexual orientation to her before they got together that her biphobia might have something to do with why he didn't.

I'm not sure what it is about this forum but there is a greater than average number of straight people who think they have useful opinions on gay people's lives. it's so bizarre.

There is no evidence that LW is biphobic. None.

She is surprised that her husband, who portrayed himself as a straight cis man, is actually bisexual. That's a pretty big shocker no matter what the dynamic is in the relationship. Whether it's two straight cis people in a heterosexual relationship (this scenario) or if this were a situation with two gay men who were married and one found his husband was sneaking around on straight hook up apps and never told him he was actually bisexual. My guess is that you wouldn't call the betrayed spouse "biphobic" when he expressed hurt, surprise, and insecurity that his husband might leave him for a woman or cheat on him.

Ro041

^^ Yeah but none of that fits the narrative so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯