i don’t know if this is the right title to post this under but long story short my fiancé and I are having our wedding at our church. About two months ago our pastor told us not to send our save the dates out yet because he has to confirm some things with the board members of the church. Now, as of today we still haven’t heard anything back from him about sending out our save the dates. We not too long ago received them and I’m worried our guests won’t have a fair enough notice of the wedding. It is 7 months away.!!!! What should I do? I feel as though we are at a stand still waiting on him! I don’t want to send them out and something come back where we can’t use the church that day. Ugh.
Re: Save the dates rant
I also hope you haven't planned everything else around that date yet, since it's not 100% finalized. Seven months is plenty of time for people to make travel plans. The majority of our guest list was OOT and we sent STDs around 5ish months out, which actually was a little early I think. If someone asks the date to start thinking about travel plans, you can say "We're waiting on the church to confirm, but right now we're aiming for [x date]."
I would be on the phone with the church today getting the date confirmed, in writing. Is there something specific about your date that makes them think it won't be an option? If so, maybe it's best to go back to the calendar and get a date that the church can confirm. Or are they like this about everything? In that case, maybe you just need to book a backup ceremony venue.
I plan to have a face to face talk with him tomorrow. I can’t give vendors any information until I know for sure So like I said we’re at a stand still waiting on him.
I hate last minute things so I may consider another venue.
Now, what he have to confirm is how many chairs/tables we need, do we need to use the musician?, will I need a dressing room and how many people will be in there with me , etc.
We also do not go to our pastor directly, he has an assistant so when we need something we go through her and she passes the information to him and vice versa. We do this until he’s ready to talk face to face because we are also doing pre marital counseling with him.
We made our guest list and we know how many tables/chairs we will need. We are also using the furnishings from the church. 8 people per table.
We wont need the musicians as we are having our own pre recorded music.