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Groomsman dropped out 1week before wedding

One of our groomsmen apparently has been forced to to take a shift at work on our wedding day. He notified us 10 days before the wedding :( We already have his groomsman gift engraved with his first name on it. Do we send it to him anyway? Sell it on ebay? We've already paid for his bouttenier too. What to do? 

Re: Groomsman dropped out 1week before wedding

  • I emailed the florist, to see if we could put the cost toward and extra bag of petals instead.
    FI is thinking send the engraved gift after the wedding with our thank you cards
    ShesSoCold
  • climbingwifeclimbingwife NYC 'burbs
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    Of course you still send it! Why would you sell it!?

  • Definitely send it, it's not his fault he got scheduled to work. And that's a good idea asking to use the money toward something else with the florist; that way no one is out anything and you can get some extra decorations :)

    You didn't mention this, but just for any lurkers, don't try to replace any member of the wedding party who drops out. It will make both friends or family members feel bad and like they're replaceable in your life. 
    ernursejeileenrobMyNameIsNotshort+sassy
  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston
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    Yes, send it. It's not his fault he was unexpectedly prevented from attending the wedding.
    ernursej
  • banana468banana468
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    Of course you still send it! 


    ernursej
  • We do have reason to believe that work is not the actual reason. But we do wish he would've brought it up sooner than 10 days before the wedding; whether it was a matter of not having the money for the tux rental, or a babysitter. Or neglected to get the day off in advance.
    In either case. We could never find a replacement a WEEK before the wedding, nor want to. The florist is exchanging his bout for extra tossing petals. 
    And we will probably send his gift after the wedding. FI is still pretty upset on the short notice.
  • climbingwifeclimbingwife NYC 'burbs
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    We do have reason to believe that work is not the actual reason. But we do wish he would've brought it up sooner than 10 days before the wedding; whether it was a matter of not having the money for the tux rental, or a babysitter. Or neglected to get the day off in advance.
    In either case. We could never find a replacement a WEEK before the wedding, nor want to. The florist is exchanging his bout for extra tossing petals. 
    And we will probably send his gift after the wedding. FI is still pretty upset on the short notice.
    So, your inclination is that he is lying? That's a huge conclusion to jump to. 

    ahoyweddingInLoveInQueens
  • I have never met the man; according to my FH he hasn't been in touch with the guy in a few years before he had asked him to be in the wedding party...according to him his friend had been a little on the flaky side before this. And he had doubts about asking him to be in the wedding in the first place...my FH doesn't have a lot of close friends. I think he is really regretting having asked him to be a groomsman. Like I said. Never met him; just going on what FH is telling me; he is assuming there was more to his excuse than work.I believe him, to a degree. 








  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 a taco truck in Houston
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    This is one of those things that you have no control over.  Remind yourself of that and let it be.  I'm glad to hear the florist is helping you out!



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