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mrsconn23
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Happy Monday
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How was the weekend?!
Ours was pretty good. FIL came over Wednesday and took DefConn home with him. The kiddo went over there too.
Thursday, we woke up slowly and kid-free. It was a lovely morning. Thanksgiving was low-key and quiet with FIL and MIL's brothers.
Friday, we went to the Christmas tree farm. It was ridiculously busy. But we got our tree.
After that, DH and DefConn went to the HS state finals football game because DH's alma mater was playing (they won). I stayed home and caught up on all the TV I was behind on. I had leftovers for dinner and enjoyed being gloriously alone.
Saturday, we went to the store and bought all the Christmas lights (we had some and had to replace a few strands, we also bought more for additional decorating). We went to my parent's house for dinner. My mom told me some upsetting bullshit my uncle pulled at my grandma's funeral. It's not surprising, but the fact that he felt he could dump that on my mom of all people makes me ragey.
Sunday, we woke up early and started on our lights. We got all that done by about 2 and then decorated inside the house and the tree. We watched the Colt squeak out their win against Miami (that was too close and the end of the 2nd quarter was so freaking wild). After that, it was dinner and trying to click back into work/school/the normal slog.
Prudie did post a column on thanksgiving, so yay PRUDIE MONDAY!
Ours was pretty good. FIL came over Wednesday and took DefConn home with him. The kiddo went over there too.
Thursday, we woke up slowly and kid-free. It was a lovely morning. Thanksgiving was low-key and quiet with FIL and MIL's brothers.
Friday, we went to the Christmas tree farm. It was ridiculously busy. But we got our tree.
After that, DH and DefConn went to the HS state finals football game because DH's alma mater was playing (they won). I stayed home and caught up on all the TV I was behind on. I had leftovers for dinner and enjoyed being gloriously alone. Saturday, we went to the store and bought all the Christmas lights (we had some and had to replace a few strands, we also bought more for additional decorating). We went to my parent's house for dinner. My mom told me some upsetting bullshit my uncle pulled at my grandma's funeral. It's not surprising, but the fact that he felt he could dump that on my mom of all people makes me ragey.
Sunday, we woke up early and started on our lights. We got all that done by about 2 and then decorated inside the house and the tree. We watched the Colt squeak out their win against Miami (that was too close and the end of the 2nd quarter was so freaking wild). After that, it was dinner and trying to click back into work/school/the normal slog.
Prudie did post a column on thanksgiving, so yay PRUDIE MONDAY!
Re: Happy Monday
Wednesday we went to the woods with my family. We hiked and drank and laughed. A LOT. I stayed up until almost 3 am and slept on a camp bunk bed so Thursday was awesome.
Thursday we went to MILs. I laughed because she commented she made it easy on the menu "this year." It's the same thing she's served for 15 years- dry turkey, jar of gravy, box of Stove top, canned green beans in the crock pot (for 6 hrs), and microwaved Bob Evans Mashed potatoes (ok, these used to be box scalloped potatoes).
She also made a comment about how there is too much football in the house and blamed her husband. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHA. He had the tv on a game nice and loud in the family room, but she also had it on in the kitchen. If you don't like it TURN IT OFF.
SIL got in loud stupid fights with her kids. Then she started on these rants about stressing out going house to house for the holidays and this Christmas she's staying home. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA. She's given us shit for 10 years because we stay home on Christmas day.
I'm sad for her daughter. She's a senior. My other niece is also a senior. We had been having a big conversation about where she's been accepted, where she's waiting to hear from, what she wants to study, what her scholarships look like. So I asked other niece about her post high school plans. "I'm taking a year off. I didn't know how to apply for colleges and aid and nobody helped me so I missed the boat." She's a smart kid who wants to have a career in criminology. I'm afraid this year is going to end up being a lifetime.
The kids were supposed to go to FILs Thursday to Saturday, but sMIL landed in the ED so plans got cancelled. Yesterday we saw Santa and the zoo lights. Today they still don't have school. I need them out of my house, but the weather is nasty. Max doesn't even have school tomorrow. I might cry.
We also got our tree Friday before H left for hunting. He’s gone until Wednesday so it’s just me, the cat, and the dog. The cat has already drank out of the tree base more times than I can count.
Friday sis and I went to see Hamilton and it was great! It was my second time and it didn’t lose any of the magic.
Saturday I went to the Worlds Largest Disco, which was super fun. But I woke up yesterday with a cold. Back at work for a busy week and I’m dragging.
Here is Charlotte the cat meeting our first real Christmas tree. All the good vibes it’s still standing when I get home tonight.
Baby B turned 2 on Thanksgiving so I suppose he isn't a baby anymore. The terrible twos have hit hard, which scares me for the 3s I've heard so much about too! I think he has a cold coming on so that made him extra miserable
Picture in box
edit: I used to take his monthly pictures in this same chair with the blocks and bear so I'm trying to take it every year on his birthday
A gap gap year can be great for students if they use it correctly (working in a field their interested in, volunteering, living abroad and working, etc), but it can also go pretty poorly if they don’t have a focus and a plan.
ooooh kvruns he's adorable!!!!
I know I shouldn't compare my two nieces, but they are only 2 weeks apart in age so it's a very stark contrast. This is not going to be a gap year that goes well. DH works at a major university and has offered to get her a good tour. Another uncle works at another major university and has offered that too. An aunt works in admissions for a community college and has tried to talk to her and her parents and they won't listen. Niece has two older brothers- oldest was going to be an rn, got his CRN and knocked up his 16 yo girlfriend. They have a second baby now. He never got the rn and complains over and over because he works 3-12 hr shifts a week he's SO TIRED he can't do anything else. The other brother took a "gap year" and now works in a factory.
Weekend was alright. I was wfh on Wednesday. Didn't touch foot in a store, but ordered some clothes for me online. And it's not amazon prime speed so to me, it's like 100 days of shipping. Man did I get spoiled.
Full work week. booo.
It's also cyber Monday but everyone has been having online sales on since Wednesday. Nonetheless, any one stumble upon any good deals yet?
edit for: Macy's said it was going to ship part of my order on Thursday, but I got an email saying it was today. Not that bad actually!
It's not even because anything really bad happened other than my football teams losing, but I felt depressed (not clinically, just sad). Last night I did some online shopping in the hopes of picking up my spirits, but even then (with the exception of a charitable contribution) I felt like I was wasting time and money.
@CharmedPam, "a full work week" is exactly why I'm feeling grumpy today. It will be exactly 4 full work weeks before I have a 4-day weekend again, lol.
@mrsconn23, I was so excited when I first logged into WW and saw there was a Prudie Mon. Thanks for the bright spot on my otherwise dreary "back to work" day, lol.
@charlotte989875, Charlotte looks like she is already stalking the tree and just waiting for you to leave, lol.
@6fsn, your MIL makes TG dinner like I do. I like it that way, lol! With the exception of the dry turkey. My H cooks the turkey and it usually comes out awesome. It definitely did this year. Juicy and delicious. And it's also just the two of us. If we were cooking for other people, I'd do more homemade sides. But not the stuffing. Don't take away my Stove Top, lol.
I spent a fortune on Black Friday deals. BUT, 80-90% of the money spent was replacing hated items and/or are on their last legs.
Charlotte—that is some shitty thanksgiving news. Not really the time or place to do it either.
I worked on Thanksgiving. I unexpectedly came home to FBIL #2 spending the night after I worked a 13 hour shift. It was just too much without FSIL and her fiancé as a buffer. I couldn’t relax and he was in a weird mood. He’s still trying to tell everyone his dui was just hypoglycemia and I’m like uh huh sure. That’s why you called FSIL at 9 am asking her to meet you at your old hometown dive bar. Plus he’s super judgmental, so I didn’t even feel like I could enjoy my thanksgiving dinner I “made.” I hadn’t eaten all day so I was starving. He and FI ate dinner earlier so it was like a second late dinner for them. And the whole time he’s loudly proclaiming, “this is so many carbs. I don’t eat like this. This is too many carbs to eat.” It just made me really uncomfortable and self conscious so I didn’t even eat enough dinner.
On Saturday I went out with FSIL and her fiancé for dinner and drinks then they came back and spent the night. We always have a lot of fun, but I’m getting really tired of how destructive they are when they’ve been drinking. FBIL has broken four chairs now, they’ve spilled drinks on the carpets, apparently using coasters on the wood nightstands is a foreign concept, and they spilled alcohol all over the marble countertop in the kitchen and didn’t wipe it up, so it ate the finish. I love them and I really do like having them over, but jfc, have some fucking respect for people’s things.
Last official day of clinic today. I might go a few extra days this month, but we’ll see. Taking a break is always nice.
@levioosa HFS that really sucks. Bad guests are the worst. Even Babypants uses a coaster and she's almost 16 months. I will never understand grown-ass adults who don't know/don't care to use a coaster.
Thanksgiving was stressful. We went to see my dad in the morning, which I am glad we did. But it was difficult to see him in the state he's in - and plus his MS has made his appetite wane significantly, so he is growing increasingly more frail. Then to my in-laws for dinner, which was not great and there wasn't a whole lot of food. Luckily we had gotten Chinese delivery the night before so as soon as Babypants went to bed, we popped the leftovers in the oven.
Friday my parents' water heater died, but my mom had to work so H won the Son-In-Law-Of-The-Year Award for going down to their house to wait for the plumber and hang out until the new water heater was installed.
Tuesday we went and did quite a bit of shopping. Wednesday we drove to the funeral of one of K's nursing school mentors. It was Midwest small town religion heavy. I was respectful, but it was noticed that I was silent during the hymns (I'm choosy about which ones I'll sing) and didn't put my head down during prayer. TBH, the prayer thing always makes me somewhat giggle, b/c why are you looking for people not praying when YOU'RE supposed to be praying, hmmm??
Thanksgiving was smooth and relaxing. We had late lunch with my parents, then late dinner with K's parents. And we finally met K's little bro's GF. They've been dating almost a year, and GF refused to meet the family based on some past history. We're all pretty relaxed and forgiving, however it was hitting a point where it was getting ridiculous to all live in the same town, them living together, and no one had met her and she had ACTIVELY avoided us (staying in her room when family came over, etc.). However, she was lovely. It's obvious she's terribly shy, she's a PoC, and she's Muslim. In Whitey McWhiteville, I can see how she's probably had some terrible dating experiences. By the end of the night, she was smiling, giggling, and tenatively interacting, so it was nice. She's also beautiful, like a solid 8-9. And while I love K's little bro, he's like...a 5 on a really good day. Now, K and I have questions about her little brother that both of us are grossed out by.
Friday, my work wife came over and we watched Unbreakable and Split in preparation for Glass coming out in January. Saturday, a cherished friend from college came over for a few hours. Sunday was drag bingo with another cherished friend from college. And just lots of sleeping.
It was a needed, deserved, and appreciated rest and fun-filled few days.
@VarunaTT, I'm glad all your days off were, overall, so great and relaxing! Sorry to hear about K's nursing school mentor.
I had my own negative flashbacks from your church story. I dated a guy for two years and his mom was always offended that I wouldn't take communion in their CATHOLIC church. I tried to explain to her so many times that it wasn't ME. I was being respectful of Catholic rules that I can't receive communion in their church if I'm not Catholic. The irony was never lost on me that I didn't mind in the slightest taking communion in any church. It would have been so easy for me to have just gone up and had communion. But I'm not going to disrespect her church's rules...even though she, uhhhh, wanted me to disrespect their rules. Huh?
And that's just never mind she shouldn't have pressured anyone to begin with.
Thanksgiving was really nice. Food was phenomenal and it was great catching up with family. I took down all of the autumn decorations Saturday and just put up the Nativity set yesterday. My kids are on the verge of becoming super into presents and I thought I’d wait a week for the tree, etc. I’m not even a super religious person but I wanted to try and set the tone a bit. This all coming from someone who adores the hype and decorations of Christmas
Yesterday, H put up our outside Christmas lights, and today we did the Christmas tree. Every year we have to move a chair so we can put our tree up. We really like having a chair in the place where we move the chair. We always say we should buy a chair for that spot but never do. So I'm sitting here looking at the chair thinking I really should buy a chair for that spot!! Lol after 20 years I think I can do without it.
Tomorrow we are headed out to see DS1 and DIL for a couple of days. His birthday was Saturday.
I did a little bit of shopping this morning for cyber Monday but not much. Bought DD a Christmas present. I need to start wrapping presents now!
Overwhelmed by the ads. Still overwhelmed by the "Cyber Monday" ads, lol.
What is it now? Black Friday...that really starts on TG nowadays. Black Friday/Cyber Monday...with ads claiming last week they "started early". Saturday is Small Business Saturday.
I'm going to claim the Sunday after TG as "Start a Job Search Sunday". As a motivational day for people to find part-time and/or better jobs to pay for all the stuff just purchased and about to be purchased on Cyber Monday, lol.
And I'm also underwhelmed by the sales. But I always am. If it's not a clearance, going out of business type of price...I'm just not impressed, lol. With that said, I saved about $180 on stuff I needed to buy anyway. So, at least it is something.
-Macy's had a great sale on dresses. I got Chiquita's dress for $32 and it's black velvet and red satin and she'll look super cute in it for the holidays.
-Boots for Chiquita I also found at Macy's for the snow for under $40.
But Zappos had a sale I checked out first for Sorel and their kid sizes were still over $80. Sorry kiddo but I'm not spending near $100 on winter boots for you when you're going to outgrow them soon.
I love Hanna Andersson and their pajamas are GREAT. They're expensive but I find that the quality can't be beat and my kids live in them. They were $25 a pair and I grabbed them for my niece and two nephews as an early Christmas gift.
Other than that we didn't really dive into other sales but I'm super bummed I didn't pull the trigger on a J.Crew top this morning since it's now out of stock.
Waited 25 mins for customer service. I spoke to someone who said "let me put you on a brief hold while I look into this." 20 minutes later I was hung up on. I called back and waited another 25 mins. The music stopped and I got static. As I was about to hang up I got "thank you for choosing to participate in our customer satisfaction survey"
I placed the exact order a second time and will return the first order.