Dear Prudence,
My neighbor has an outdoor cat, “Sparkle.” Our front yard is one of Sparkle’s favorite hangouts. Sparkle has no collar, her claws are torn and overgrown, she isn’t well-groomed, and I don’t know if she is vaccinated or fixed. But she’s been very friendly with me and my family since she first saw us. She likes to lounge at our place often, and I’ve seen her with scratches on occasion (I assume from run-ins with other neighborhood cats). The neighbor who I suspect owns her lives a few doors away, but we have never spoken—I don’t even know her real name. But I worry about Sparkle sometimes. Can I approach my neighbor about Sparkle, or should I just butt out? If I can, how should I ask about Sparkle without being intrusive or rude?
—Thou Shalt Not Covet Thy Neighbor’s Cat
Re: Free-range neighborhood cat conundrum
When I read the subject of this one, I was really hoping it was someone from my sister's town. They recently passed something that basically they take feral cats, check them out, spay or neuter them and if they're healthy, send them on their way. My friend's neighbor apparently disagreed with this and put these huge signs all over his house and yard saying things like "X Town is full of REDNECKS!" "THIS TOWN HAS GONE TO SHIT".
Even better, the house recently went up for sale by owner. So this guy wants someone to buy his house with all these signs in the yard about how terrible it is to live in this town. LOL
WTH is wrong with people! I know I overdose on Animal Planet shows, but every single thing I have ever read or seen about feral cats...especially feral cat colonies...is TNR: Trap, Neuter, Release. It's healthiest for the cats. It helps control the problem for the neighborhood. There is literally no reason not to do this! Argh!
Yet, we have our own neighborhood cat lady. We are friends with her, though better friends with her roommate. My H has tried to have this discussion with her multiply times. He would do all the work. He would take care of arranging for the spaying/neutering. Nope. She refuses.
I disagree with the PPs. Unless she should definitely know this cat is her neighbors, I don't see anything wrong with just asking. Like, "We enjoy all the visits from Sparkle. Is she your cat or do you know if she belongs to anyone? Because, if not, we'd love to make her our pet."
However, if the LW already knows for sure this is the neighbor's cat, I wouldn't get involved, unless the cat needs medical attention or is looking malnourished/abused.
But seriously, you can take it to the vet and get it checked out but unless the cat looks really uncared for, id let it be. My cat looks ungroomed often because she hates the groomer and I’m lazy about giving her haircuts. I still love and care for her really well.
Awesome!
Our dog usually keeps one ear up and one ear down. My H and I joke that she always keeps her one ear up to be listening for messages from the secret Dog Network. And we'll occasionally ask her questions about it, lol. Like, "Izzy, has the Dog Network told you if it is going to be raining tomorrow? What are their thoughts?"
Agree with PPs - if the cat looks otherwise fine, let it be.