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Wedding Woes
mrsconn23
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Time for a new therapist.
in Wedding Woes
Dear Prudence,
I just started seeing the same therapist my boyfriend went to until three months ago, and I can’t shake the feeling that something happened between them. It was the way she was smiling when she was talking about him and the fact that she mentioned him without it being necessary. Also, he told me one of the reasons he stopped seeing her was because their conversations “got too casual” and the fact that I don’t trust him or myself. I asked him about it. He told me nothing happened between them and then immediately asked why would I think that. What should I do? I can’t stop thinking about it and would like to search for another therapist if something were to have happened between them. I feel like I’m losing my mind.
—Something Fishy
I just started seeing the same therapist my boyfriend went to until three months ago, and I can’t shake the feeling that something happened between them. It was the way she was smiling when she was talking about him and the fact that she mentioned him without it being necessary. Also, he told me one of the reasons he stopped seeing her was because their conversations “got too casual” and the fact that I don’t trust him or myself. I asked him about it. He told me nothing happened between them and then immediately asked why would I think that. What should I do? I can’t stop thinking about it and would like to search for another therapist if something were to have happened between them. I feel like I’m losing my mind.
—Something Fishy
Re: Time for a new therapist.
Also, I stopped seeing a therapist because the conversations got too casual. We had become friends and spent the hour talking about dogs and other casual conversational things. I can assure you that nothing happened between me, at like 21 and a 50 something female therapist.
Why you'd see the same therapist as your BF makes no sense to me. That screams conflict of interest and I am wondering what's up with the LW.
Also, it doesn't seem ethical on the therapist's part. I'd think that the person who came along second should be referred out to someone else.
At the very least, this therapist is inappropriate for seeing partners individually and at most she's slept with a client in a committed relationship. Either way it's best that both partners find new counselors.
And since this one makes you uncomfortable by being too casual, I'd get a new one.
4 therapists in the world, lol?
But he told you nothing happened and either 1) you have to trust that he’s telling the truth and find a way to move on, or 2) recognize you don’t trust him and decide if that’s something you can live with.
I don't know if any of you are watching the "You" tv series. But the creepy main character starts seeing the therapist of his g/f, aka the woman he is obsessed with. Partially because he thinks his g/f is seeing the therapist romantically.
Of course, the therapist doesn't know that's who he is. Creepy guy even talks about his actual relationship with the g/f, except changes her gender to male. To throw off the therapist jic he recognizes any similarities in stories.