Hi Everyone! So I'm recently engaged, and am wondering what the etiquette is for purchasing an engagement gift for my FI. I was spending time with FI's sister and she asked what I would be getting him for his engagement present. When I looked confused, she told me that when her bf pops the question, she's going to get him a new watch. Then she jumped into all these stories about gifts her friends have given their SO's after getting engaged, and about how etiquette is to spend at least 50% of what the ring costs on a gift for your FI.
Now, I've been around a while. Most of my friends are married or engaged. In fact, I was engaged before and broke off my engagement a few years ago because he just wasn't my person. I've never heard of a tradition of purchasing an engagement gift, especially one that costs 50% or more of what the ring costs. FI comes from a wealthy family, and I do not, so I definitely would not be able to afford to spend that much without going into credit card debt.
I like the idea of getting him a gift, and he knows that I can't afford to spend a ton of money (and I know that personally he's not expecting a gift at all). I'm just wondering if this is actually etiquette that I somehow have missed out on all my life. If you did it, what did you get your FI?