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Going to the courthouse and still having a ceremony

So we plan on going to the courthouse before the official wedding date so that I can get better health insurance (I know..so romantic).  But we’re still having a ceremony and I want my aunt to officiate us. However, does she legally have to get ordained if we’re already married?

Thanks for any advice!

Re: Going to the courthouse and still having a ceremony

  • levioosalevioosa Southern California member
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    So we plan on going to the courthouse before the official wedding date so that I can get better health insurance (I know..so romantic).  But we’re still having a ceremony and I want my aunt to officiate us. However, does she legally have to get ordained if we’re already married?

    Thanks for any advice!
    First, the date you get married at the courthouse is your wedding date. This other
    "ceremony" you're having is not real, as you'll already be married. Whoever you decide to have perform this fake ceremony obviously doesn't have to be ordained. 

    Again, your legal and binding ceremony is at the courthouse. That's your wedding. 
    Ditto this


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  • So we plan on going to the courthouse before the official wedding date so that I can get better health insurance (I know..so romantic).  But we’re still having a ceremony and I want my aunt to officiate us. However, does she legally have to get ordained if we’re already married?

    Thanks for any advice!
    No, you don't need anyone who is ordained to "officiate" your dress up pretend play party. And your "official wedding date" is the day you get married at the courthouse, not whenever you put on your performance.
    OurWildKingdom
  • CasadenaCasadena member
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    Echoing PP's.  If it's not a legal ceremony (which it would not be) you don't need a legal officiant.  And please make sure that people know they will be attending a re-enactment or vow renewal and not an actual wedding, it's rude and deceitful to lie to your guests. 
    OurWildKingdomInLoveInQueensMesmrEwe
  • MobKazMobKaz Chicago suburbs member
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    As others have said, your official wedding date is the date you legally wed at the courthouse.  How far apart will your wedding date be from your second event?  You could send out invitations for a wedding celebration acknowledging your recent wedding at the courthouse.  If there is a year or more between dates, you could even call it a vow renewal or vow witnessing event.  Just please do not call it a wedding, because you will already be a spouse.
    OurWildKingdom
  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot Atlanta member
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    If you go to the courthouse, that's your official wedding date. That's the day you're getting married.

    Your aunt can stand up and reenact your vows or do a vow renewal or whatever, but that's not a wedding. So no, she doesn't need any kind of legal power, since she won't be marrying you. She's not really an officiant, since there's no wedding to officiate. 
    OurWildKingdomInLoveInQueensshort+sassy
  • I'll echo the others.   If your aunt isn't performing a legally binding marriage then you can have her or a Disney princess standing before you and your H.    

    Based on this I urge you both to be honest with anyone who is asked to participate in or be invited to the occasion so they understand that they're witnessing a vow renewal and not a wedding. 
    OurWildKingdomInLoveInQueens
  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
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    Your PPD is not your wedding day if you get married at the Courthouse on a different day, thus, your aunt can dress as Willy Wonka and have you recite your vows it'll be equally as fake.  

    As others have mentioned, be honest with your guests that your PPD is NOT your actual wedding!  
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  • MesmrEwe said:
    Your PPD is not your wedding day if you get married at the Courthouse on a different day, thus, your aunt can dress as Willy Wonka and have you recite your vows it'll be equally as fake.  

    As others have mentioned, be honest with your guests that your PPD is NOT your actual wedding!  
    But can I have a re-do now because of the idea you gave me?  A small stream of chocolate sauce.  I walk over a bridge spanning it to get to the altar.  My officiant is dressed like Willy Wonka.  And, of course, there is a huge candy table at the reception.
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