So I asked my childhood best friend to be my BM yesterday. We have known each other 20 years, talk once or twice a month, and see each other a few times a year. Our families, particularly mothers, have become very close as well. So, no, this is not someone I haven't talked to since elementary school.
Her response was underwhelming. In fact, the only thing she really said about the whole thing was "You're not going to make me buy an expensive dress are you?" (at which point I offered to buy her dress for her, something I was already considering doing.) She begrudgingly accepted, but it certainly wasn't the response I was hoping to get. She wasn't very excited when I told her about the engagement in the first place, so it's probably my own fault for trying to include her.
I'm going to text her tonight, and let her know that she doesn't have to be in my wedding if she doesn't want to, no hard feeling, it's not for everybody. Being a BM can be a lot of work, and it doesn't sound like she's interested or invested in it. I don't want her there if she doesn't want to be there, for both of our sakes.
Long story short, is it ok to let her off the hook? Or does that make me a bridezilla for ousting her just because she didn't react the way I wanted her to?