HELP!! I have 9 nieces and want to include them all more then anything

knottie893b3191bc54f3d2

I have 9 nieces; by the time we get married they will be 19,17,15, 9,9, 6, 5,4 &3. I want them all included, as they are all very special to us!  I’m fine with the 4 youngest as flower girls, but the complication comes in with the twin 9 year olds, the 15,17 & 19 year old!  I have 7 bridesmaids “spots” 4 that I have for sure, and I have 2 that I’d actually love to have as bridesmaids, but might reserve them for the older girls. The twins are REALLY throwing me off. Please help. 

charlotte989875

knottie893b3191bc54f3d2 said:

I have 9 nieces; by the time we get married they will be 19,17,15, 9,9, 6, 5,4 &3. I want them all included, as they are all very special to us!  I’m fine with the 4 youngest as flower girls, but the complication comes in with the twin 9 year olds, the 15,17 & 19 year old!  I have 7 bridesmaids “spots” 4 that I have for sure, and I have 2 that I’d actually love to have as bridesmaids, but might reserve them for the older girls. The twins are REALLY throwing me off. Please help. 

First off, why only 7 “spots”? You should choose the people you want to stand up with you, not  specific number to fill. 

Second, could they each do a reading? That’s something a 9-year old could certainly do. 

Finally, you don’t actually need to include them in the wedding. You can get them a corsage, ask them to be in pictures, do something nice with them without them being in the wedding party. It’s also fine to include some and not the others. 

Jen4948

knottie893b3191bc54f3d2 said:

I have 9 nieces; by the time we get married they will be 19,17,15, 9,9, 6, 5,4 &3. I want them all included, as they are all very special to us!  I’m fine with the 4 youngest as flower girls, but the complication comes in with the twin 9 year olds, the 15,17 & 19 year old!  I have 7 bridesmaids “spots” 4 that I have for sure, and I have 2 that I’d actually love to have as bridesmaids, but might reserve them for the older girls. The twins are REALLY throwing me off. Please help. 

It'll be okay if not everyone of your nieces is in the wedding party. It is an honor to just be a guest. That said, it is also totally okay to ask your nieces to do readings, sing, or play music, or even just take special photos with them. And if you really want all of them in your wedding party because you feel close to all of them, that's okay too!

The key is not to include or exclude anyone because you are trying to fill a finite number of "roles." Whomever you ask to be in your wedding party should be persons to whom you truly feel close and would never even think of getting married without so including them.

banana468

With my ILs, they just have giant bridal parties when they feel like it.   Some have weddings with a dozen bridesmaids who are all close to the bride.  

Or ask them to do readings or sing.

ei34

I'm one of 17 female cousins on my mom's side and we all processed down the aisle at my youngest uncle's wedding to his wife in the mid-90s.  Well, it was 11-12 of us because the youngest cousins were too young/weren't born yet.  We wore matching dresses and all carried flowers...they were (and are) an over-the-top couple in all the best ways, so the parade went with their day.  I have no idea whether I was a flower girl or bridesmaid, I just know it was fun matching my sisters and cousins and walking down the aisle. 

Absolutely don't limit yourself with "spots" or openings...whoever you'd like to be in your wedding should be in it.  I'm with you on labeling the four youngest as FGs...I'd def say the teens are BMs...why not ask the 9-year-olds what title they'd like?