Hi! I am doing first round invites due to the amount of guests I can have and sending second rounds once declines come in and everyone has already received save the dates. Since I am doing online RSVPs i want to move all my guests I am NOT inviting the first round to not invited so their RSVP does not show up. Do you know where these guests go when moved to not invited? It looks to me that they get deleted but I still want to have these guests in here.
**Update.. i'm not asking for anyone's opinions. I'm curious as to where the people go when they are moved to Not Invited in the guest list.
Re: Guests moved to Not Invited
Figure out your guest list and please don't put them into an A/B list. What would you do if someone suddenly can make it and then you tell them that you filled their space like it was a ticket to a theater performance.
Instead, please look at your guest list and create a firm amount of those you intend to invite and just send the invitations once.
It's still rude to tier your guests. No one wants to be the runner up guest who will only be allowed if the first tier guests decide not to come. It's just a crappy way to treat people, etiquette aside. Imagine you're having 5 close friends for dinner, but you burn one of the chicken breasts. Instead of scrambling to come up with something else or cancel entirely, you call Sue and tell her she's no longer invited. Then, at the last minute, Kelly cancels because of an emergency. So you call Sue back and tell her you do have space for her after all now that Kelly won't make it. How do you think Sue feels? This is exactly what you're proposing to do on a larger scale.
My advice would be to postpone until it's safe to invite your entire guest list. If you insist on going through with the smaller version, send out a card to everyone who received a save the date saying that Covid has forced you to cancel your original plans. Then later send separate invitations to the smaller guest list that you choose. When you do that, I'd recommend creating a new website that includes FAQs about the safety precautions you are taking, including that there will be a small number of attendees.
This isn't about "filling a space" that you paid for. It's about deciding whom you want at your wedding, and finding a space to accommodate them.
That's certainly up to you to ignore what is essentially the same opinion held by every one of the over a dozen people who responded to this post. But KIM, none of us have a dog in this race. We aren't you're Tier 1 or Tier 2 guests. We're just trying to save you from the massive rude AF etiquette blunder you are about to make that will probably result in offending many of your guests or "almost" guests.
People, including guests who got the STDs, understand that these are unusual times. And, through no fault of your own, may have to scale back on the guest list. But "tiering" is still the wrong way to do it. Some posters have given good suggestions on alternative ways to go.